Beliefs About Men

[John81]

Unfortunately - too many Christian men are JERKS. Walking into church with their Bible, smiling, shaking hands, talking -- while their wife comes in carrying purse, diaper bag(s), Bible, possibly SS material, a baby, and keeping track of the other younguns. Sort of like a pack mule. If he's too self-centered to notice - he's a jerk. If he afraid helping out will get him labeled as hen-pecked - he needs to be taken out back and whooped 'cause he's a wimp.

I hear Christian men (yea, even preachers) make comments about their wife that should NEVER take place.

Too many love themselves more than their wife which is why he can't take her out this week because finances won't allow it, but he was hungry yesterday and went to Wendy's instead of being man enough to do without till he got home for supper.

I realize that it's not all, but they are more than most women know.

I wish I could argue about this, but from what I've seen this is a very sad but true reality.

While there are many good Christian men out there, there are many like described here. I can't understand how a Christian man, especially a pastor, could speak of their wife in the manner so many do. Even if they are jesting, that sort of joking is inappropriate, and it's another sad fact that many Christian men will play such comments off as if they are jokes though they are actually serious in their comments.

What happened to the concept of being a Christian gentleman, with all that entails?

[His by Grace]

To all men on OB, I have taken these five way's I had learned to view men down because I offended my Brother in Christ who has alway's been a true friend and none of what I listed. I never meant that Christian men here are acting in this manner only what I had learned by how I was treated from a young age by men around me. Even after being saved it can be hard to decern if you aren't treated any differently in general. The majority of men at OB have NOT been like this and I'm sorry if I came across as believing that about most men here. I don't!! Please forgive me as I couldn't see how my word's mattered the way I was told they do. I'm sorry!! His by Grace

[blossom]

John, I don't have an opinion from what I've been told so here is what I've learned from a young age: I can't list anything because I learned that what I have to say doesn't really count, my feelings don't really matter, men are stronger than you so they decide all and we are a nussance all they really want is to be left alone ...this I was taught from men!!!! His by Grace

I'm sorry that is what you've been taught. Don't for get that our Lord and Saviour is a man and he would never behave in such a manner. He has taught us all the true meaning of LOVE first and foremost.

1. Are stronger physically and emotionally by design

2. Are the head of the home, leader of their family

3. Think differently

4.Need to be loved unconditionally

5. Will never admit they are directionally challenged Cannot read a map and will not ask for directions

[flippenstipper]

Men are natural leaders, and unChristian men will take offense if not followed.

Men like to be noticed more for who they are than what they do.

Men take note of women on a regular basis.

Men have intuition to follow what is right, before following the crowd (unlike women)

Men tend to think more, (women tend to feel more)

[His by Grace]

IAbout #5...Isn't it men that invented the TOM-TOM?! I couldn't resist! I did read all of your post. Jesus was on earth but it was God in the form of a man!! But I do understand what your saying to me. Thank you for your concern! His by Grace

I'm sorry that is what you've been taught. Don't for get that our Lord and Saviour is a man and he would never behave in such a manner. He has taught us all the true meaning of LOVE first and foremost.

1. Are stronger physically and emotionally by design

2. Are the head of the home, leader of their family

3. Think differently

4.Need to be loved unconditionally

5. Will never admit they are directionally challenged Cannot read a map and will not ask for directions

[futurehope]

1. Men desire to be respected.

2. Men are to be the head of their household.

3. Men fail far more often than we succeed, and we desire forgiveness and understanding from those closest to us.

4. We are often more emotional than our wives, but more capable of discerning our emotions from facts and logic - it's not that we aren't emotional or don't care - the exact opposite brings these actions out in us.

5. Men's greatest fear is rejection by those they love the most.

As with women, I could go on, but I'll just stop here for now. God bless to all and please pray for the men in your life - we may not be the weaker vessel, but we are far from strong.

Futurehope

[HappyChristian]

1. Men desire to be respected.

2. Men are to be the head of their household.

3. Men fail far more often than we succeed, and we desire forgiveness and understanding from those closest to us.

4. We are often more emotional than our wives, but more capable of discerning our emotions from facts and logic - it's not that we aren't emotional or don't care - the exact opposite brings these actions out in us.

5. Men's greatest fear is rejection by those they love the most.

As with women, I could go on, but I'll just stop here for now. God bless to all and please pray for the men in your life - we may not be the weaker vessel, but we are far from strong.

Futurehope

Excellent summation, Future!

[irishman]

1. Men like a feminine, dainty woman. (Who wants to think their wife acts, or is, tougher than them?)

2. Men are ego machines, and thrive on praise from their wives.

3. Men are the spiritual leader of the home, and ought to take that role.

4. Men are stronger emotionally, though they usually guard their emotions more than women.

5. Men are not much without a woman. (incomplete)
(sorry, those of you who are single, but woman was made for man, if you remember, to be a help to him.)

[4everHis]

1. Men wish they could join OBL so they could join the Week 7 Challenge of Glorify God in Your Body
2. Men wish their wives, sisters, aunts and moms would tell them what the challenge is doing for so many ladies.
3. Men wish that women like 4everHis would quit gratuitously promote the GGIYB Challenge in the man thread because they are jealous that they can't come
4. Men will coax their ladies to join us at OBL
5. Men will have happier lives if their wives did the GGIYB Challenge.

[blossom]

1. Men wish they could join OBL so they could join the Week 7 Challenge of Glorify God in Your Body
2. Men wish their wives, sisters, aunts and moms would tell them what the challenge is doing for so many ladies.
3. Men wish that women like 4everHis would quit gratuitously promote the GGIYB Challenge in the man thread because they are jealous that they can't come
4. Men will coax their ladies to join us at OBL
5. Men will have happier lives if their wives did the GGIYB Challenge.

Amen 4everHis this absolutely right!!!!!

[war_eagle]

All men are pigs!Just teasing LOL as this is a common thing I hear from people who are not christians.

Don't be so sure. I just heard something similar in another thread by someone who is a Christian.

[Psalms18_28]

Don't be so sure. I just heard something similar in another thread by someone who is a Christian.

yes, and most of the time it is true. No wonder some women turn to feminism. Because men used women for their body, rather it is for sex or as a housemaid. And treat them like dogs. Some of them go so low to the point that they abuse them.

But I try to change my attitude because there are a few good ones out there like my husband. But most of them are purely selfish and self-centered like my ex-bf.

[war_eagle]

yes, and most of the time it is true. No wonder some women turn to feminism. Because men used women for their body, rather it is for sex or as a housemaid. And treat them like dogs. Some of them go so low to the point that they abuse them.

But I try to change my attitude because there are a few good ones out there like my husband. But most of them are purely selfish and self-centered like my ex-bf.

Well, your husband is certainly lucky to have a fair-minded and non-judgemental person like you.