We don't agree with the vaccine, and do believe there are ways to protect oneself from a variety of viruses, not just covid - Vit. C, Vit. D3 (studies are showing that the majority of people who contracted covid were D deficient), tonic water, zinc. That is us, though.
But here's the thing, robycop: You and your wife are the only ones who can decide what you should do. If, after prayer, you believe you should stay home, then that is what you need to do. If your pastor, after prayer, decides God would have him go to online services, then that is what he should do. I know of churches that do this, and the pastor even goes online at various times during the week just to post an encouraging thought. Sometimes their wives will do a short devotion for the women of their congregation as well. When we closed the first two weeks, I did videos for Sunday School (we did have online services as well).
Liberty is a beautiful thing. While a couple of people have tried to shame those who do not wear masks, there is still choice. God will lead each individual, and not necessarily all the same way. That doesn't mean one is smarter or more spiritual than another.
I've known you long enough online here to believe you and your wife will follow God's leading. Be safe and stay healthy!