Disciplining your children

[Madeline]

How do you discipline your children?

Love,
Madeline

[HappyChristian]

I chose other because disciplining children runs a gamut of things! There is spanking, privileges revoked, lectures (too long and the kid gets glassy-eyed and stops hearing), grounding, etc. Of course, our son is 20 now, so our relationship is changing...

[dadof4]

I chose other because disciplining children runs a gamut of things! There is spanking' date=' privileges revoked, lectures (too long and the kid gets glassy-eyed and stops hearing), grounding, etc. [/quote']


We do the same here.

[5dumplings@home]

I chose other because not every offense is a spanking offense. Some things are worth a lecture; some are worth chores, etc.

The punishment needs to fit the crime.

[Trish]

I had some strong disipline beliefs before I had kids and the 'my kids will never do that' syndrom. Now 4 different temperments later, the punishment MUST fit the crime and that is where seeking daily godly wisdom comes in.

[chev1958]

All of the above!

[5dumplings@home]

I have a great for instance going right now...

One daughter would rather be doing what she wants to do right now and she is short-cutting her school work.

Result? She doesn't get to do at all to day what it is she wants to do. That is much more effective in this case than a spanking would be. She gets the point faster, and the spanking would end up requiring "wait until your dad gets home" reasoning because she would escalate.

[Anon]

I had some strong disipline beliefs before I had kids and the 'my kids will never do that' syndrom. Now 4 different temperments later' date=' the punishment MUST fit the crime and that is where seeking daily godly wisdom comes in.[/quote']

ROFL!

Ditto!

[Evan57]

Don't forget parents show their love & care for their kids for doing discipline on their kids.

Evan57 :ears: w/o hear

[lettheredeemedsayso]

Scripture says that those that don't discipline their children hate them.

[Anon]

God doesn't say what to use the rod for and what not to...which is why we have to use wisdom in that. We do, but we don't use it for everything. You have to train your child, and that doesn't always mean resorting to the rod. Some people take the verses to mean you are constantly spanking your kids day in and day out for every little thing and I don't think that's necessarily the correct interpretation.

[HappyChristian]

At one of the schools where I taught, the administrator said something very wise...You don't want to use cannons on a bunny. In other words, be careful about going overboard with discipline. A minor matter deserves minor discipline. Major matters (lying, disobedience, defiance, etc.) deserve major discipline. Lying would need swats. Taking advantage of a sibling might require giving up something that child likes, or being grounded. That sort of thing. Discipline encompasses training and punishment. As was said earlier, the punishment must fit the crime, else we run the risk of provoking our children to wrath.

[Anon]

We were too harsh on our firstborn and now looking back I can see he is more immune to punishment than the other boys. It doesn't mean as much to him now as it does to the others.

More spankings doesn't necessarily equate better discipline.

[HappyChristian]

More spankings doesn't necessarily equate better discipline.

Too true!!!

[John81]

I also vote "other".

The type of discipline depends upon the "crime" committed and upon the individual child. My two sons are sooooooooooooooooooooooo very different from one another. Whereas a short scolding will correct my youngest son, the same has virtually no effect upon the oldest.