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[JerryNumbers]

A fellow classmate is having a 60th birthday party for our class.

On the invitation it says, we will have everyone's favorite drink.

A fellow classmate asked me if I was going. I said that I probably would not be there, and went on to say I did not care to set around and talk with people who are drinking beer or such.

Not many months back this classmate fled from the police in his car, he was drinking, to his house, ran into his house and locked the doors.

The classmate who asked me them asked if I was still pastor at Pleasant Valley, I said yes.

He them said, "Well Bro. Jerry, I can see why you would not want to be there and I respect that, but probably others would not understand."

Oh, the sad part about this is, the classmate having this party has been told by his heart doctor, get everything in order there is nothing we can do for your heart. He did stop drinking for a short time, but it did not last very long.

Would you attend such an event where you knew there was going to be some heavy drinking?

[matie-k]

I voted yes, but that's depending on a few things.
- If I were able to make a short token appearance just to say hi, happy b-day, and bye
- If I wouldn't have to bring my family
- If it weren't at a bar
- If I were somewhat close friends with atleast one or more of the others going to be there that might be offended if I didn't go

I would think they wouldn't be drunk in the first 20-30 minutes of it starting, so that would be a good time to make an appearance and then leave. I don't know though. It's hard to say what I would really do since I've never been in and never will be in that situation.

If you have nothing ever to do with any of the people going, then I don't see a need to go.

[IM4given]

Iwent to such a party one time and they were drinking WAY gefore the party time said on the invitation so when we arrived it was already in "full swing"

I went to weddings before but left the reception after everyone started drinking...

[JerryNumbers]

No doubt, the one hosting the party will start his drinking before hand, he always has. Why would he change now?

I suppose I could stand to be around a bunch of people drinking if I was drinking too. But, I'm not going try it to find out.

It always seems, those who drink thinks everyone drinks.

But it just don't seem that I have anything whatsoever in common with those who love drinking of alcoholic beverages.

[Chelle]

It always seems, those who drink thinks everyone drinks.

I can testify to that. I have a cousin who drinks a lot, and when she heard I don't she kind of looked at me funny, as if to ask, "Why not?"

:loco

Oh btw, I answered "no". :lol

[kevinmiller]

I don't know. Probably not. I can't stand being around some people when they are drinking. Many of the people on my dad's side of the family drink at get-togethers and it can be very annoying. Most of his brothers are alright but my cousin's boyfriends tend to get annoying when they drink.

[Madeline]

I have attended events in the past that involved drinking, but not heavy drinking. The only thing I drink at events is probably ice tea if they have it. But NO, I would not attend any event or social engagement that involves heavy drinking.

[chev1958]

I voted "yes," but I fall in line with matie-k and im4given. Make an appearance early out of kindness, friendship, and/or respect, then mosey on out. In our socials in the Navy, it was expected for all officers, especially junior officers, to attend the parties. My wife and I would go, have a plateful of hors d'uerves (sp?) and sodas, make sure all the senior officers saw us, and then excuse ourselves and leave. 30 minutes tops. The thing I hated, though, was our Episcopalian chaplain was the biggest drunk and dirtiest joke-teller on the ship -- he even hit on my wife during our first wardroom social!

Our 30th high school reunion is coming up this fall, and we plan to attend the ballgame, the picnic, and the formal dinner. We'll stay away from the wine-tasting event, which is a stupid thing to have anyway. There will be an cash bar at the dinner. We'll stay for the dinner, drinking sweet tea or soda, catch up with some friends, and then leave when the dancing starts up. There's nothing worse than watching a bunch of nearly 50-year-olds disco-dancing while drunk.

Mitch

[HappyChristian]

I'd have to weigh in with a no. My husband worked for a company that hosted a Christmas party every year - simply an excuse to get drunk. We never went the whole time he worked there, and eveyone knew his stand and respected it.

Most people who drink think everyone else does, too, as was already noted, so they most likely will not believe or know that you are abstaining if the liquor is flowing.

[pneu-engine]

I would go and wish him a happy birthday, with my Bible in one hand, a fistfull of tracts in the other. However, I would do it a day or two or three before the party. We would talk about his soul, his eternal destiny, what it's like being old, how very certain death is, and very uncertain life is. Death is guaranteed, life is not. There is infinitely more at stake here than glad-handing him on his b-day.

So then, my answer is no.

[IM4given]

:clap: :amen:

[pneu-engine]

Thank you, IM4G. :smile

I can see that we think alike on many crucial issues. :thumb

[JerryNumbers]

This soul recently came to a revival in another classmates church.

He set thru the service with a stone face. After which he walked pass the pastor and evangelist standing by the back door without acknowledging them or saying a single word.

Why did he come, he promised the class mate several years ago to attend a revival service at his church, but didn't, the classmate called him on it, that he had broken this promise. He said I do not break promises, to prove it I will come once.

Oh, our class always 2 evening for the reunion, one nights event is only for classmates, their wife and or husband are not welcome to come unless they were classmates.

I haven't gone, so I do not know what takes place at this event and rightly do not care.

[Anon]

I voted no. I realize there are probably isolated situations where some people have to show up where there will be drinking, and leave early. However I have not had to be in that situation. The people where I work have occasional parties where they drink and I do not attend. My family does not drink except my grandpa used to drink a shot or two of something before bed but I do not consider that the same as attending a party, and the liquor was always tucked away in a cabinet out of sight. Anyway so for all practical purposes, no I would not attend a party where there would be drinking.

[JerryNumbers]

At such an event, no one would rightly know what I was drinking, probably many would assume I was drinking liquor if I was drinking from a glass that had ice in it.

I have one classmate who is over seas at present time with her husband, she and I grew up in the same Baptist Church, I told her about the party, that due to the drinking I just don't feel I can attend.

She said the best decision was not to attend.