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How Romantic Can A Christian Be?

The Glory Land

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Marriage is honorable in all, and the marriage bed undefiled.

 

What takes place between a husband and wife, alone, I believe is acceptable with God.  That means, however, it doesn't include husband wife and the neighbors-JUST husband and wife. I see no limits there, save for what they choose to bring to the table in personal preference.

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Sorry, Jerry, but what you feel doesn't matter.   :nuts:  I had to say that, since you tell people that a lot.  Please don't take offense, it was meant lightheartedly. But there is truth there, because the Bible does say the marriage bed is undefiled...and it isn't anyone' s business but the husband and wife - unless they choose - together - to go to counseling.

 

But that isn't all that is involved in romance.  Women enjoy "being romanced" with things like flowers, candy, notes - or even just a compliment from their hubby (most women do, anyway - some don't).  And there isn't anything wrong with it.  My hubby is a very romantic man - he comes up with ideas all the time to surprise me and does special things for me all the time. I try to keep up and reciprocate, but I just can't out do him. Kinda like the Lord, you know?  How He does so much for us, His bride.  And we just can't do enough for Him...

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Sorry, Jerry, but what you feel doesn't matter.   :nuts:  I had to say that, since you tell people that a lot.  Please don't take offense, it was meant lightheartedly. But there is truth there, because the Bible does say the marriage bed is undefiled...and it isn't anyone' s business but the husband and wife - unless they choose - together - to go to counseling.

 

But that isn't all that is involved in romance.  Women enjoy "being romanced" with things like flowers, candy, notes - or even just a compliment from their hubby (most women do, anyway - some don't).  And there isn't anything wrong with it.  My hubby is a very romantic man - he comes up with ideas all the time to surprise me and does special things for me all the time. I try to keep up and reciprocate, but I just can't out do him. Kinda like the Lord, you know?  How He does so much for us, His bride.  And we just can't do enough for Him...

Yes, I kind of took it directly to the bedroom, but the question was more on romance.

 

So, here are some questions: do we kiss in public? Hold hands? hug and smooch? How much is acceptable in public, and when do we draw the line? This could bring up some good discussion, and I suspect we all have our individual lines we draw.

 

Myself, my wife and I almost always hold hands in public-and it was ALL we did before we were married-we never as much as kissed before our marriage, (well, one tiny peck on the cheek, I think, one time). We sit together in service if I'm not preaching, close together and I often have my arm around her, or we are holding hands. We do kiss in public, but not overly-so. And we laugh over thinking how others might think, "Eeww! Fat, old people kissing!"

 

And part of good romance is a man being a proper gentleman for his wife: opening doors for her, carrying the heavy loads, walking on the street-side of the sidewalk, giving up his coat for her warmth, etc. When she comes out of our trailer, because the steps are steep, I often lift her out, and she enjoys that. She's not a delicate flower, so she likes a husband who can lift her and make her feel light.

 

By the way, no, I'm not perfect-I still tend to leave my clothes laying around after work, and lean toward untidiness, but I am trying, especially now since we have moved into our tiny 32' trailer at the farm-so with the restricted space, I am trying to be neater so we don't end up with a mess.

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Sorry, Jerry, but what you feel doesn't matter.   :nuts:  I had to say that, since you tell people that a lot.  Please don't take offense, it was meant lightheartedly. But there is truth there, because the Bible does say the marriage bed is undefiled...and it isn't anyone' s business but the husband and wife - unless they choose - together - to go to counseling.

 

But that isn't all that is involved in romance.  Women enjoy "being romanced" with things like flowers, candy, notes - or even just a compliment from their hubby (most women do, anyway - some don't).  And there isn't anything wrong with it.  My hubby is a very romantic man - he comes up with ideas all the time to surprise me and does special things for me all the time. I try to keep up and reciprocate, but I just can't out do him. Kinda like the Lord, you know?  How He does so much for us, His bride.  And we just can't do enough for Him...

 

Them are your saying that even God has no place in the bedroom of the husband & wife?

 

That is the statement Glory made, & I disagree 100%.

 

So yes, if you say God has no right in the bedroom of the husband & wife I take 100% offence, because there's limits placed by God on what a husband & wife can do in their bedroom.

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Them are your saying that even God has no place in the bedroom of the husband & wife?

 

That is the statement Glory made, & I disagree 100%.

 

So yes, if you say God has no right in the bedroom of the husband & wife I take 100% offence, because there's limits placed by God on what a husband & wife can do in their bedroom.

Jerry - you always assume so very much.  It's just plain nonsense to think that Christians would say that God has no place ANYWHERE, let alone in the bedroom of a married couple.  And, no, that is NOT the statement TGL made.  So, no, I didn't say God has no right in the bedroom.  Take offense if you want..."Great peace have they which love thy law and nothing shall offend them.  Prove  the limits by scripture, not feeling.

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Yes, I kind of took it directly to the bedroom, but the question was more on romance.

 

So, here are some questions: do we kiss in public? Hold hands? hug and smooch? How much is acceptable in public, and when do we draw the line? This could bring up some good discussion, and I suspect we all have our individual lines we draw.  

 

Myself, my wife and I almost always hold hands in public-and it was ALL we did before we were married-we never as much as kissed before our marriage, (well, one tiny peck on the cheek, I think, one time). We sit together in service if I'm not preaching, close together and I often have my arm around her, or we are holding hands. We do kiss in public, but not overly-so. And we laugh over thinking how others might think, "Eeww! Fat, old people kissing!" We also hold hands in public, but we don't kiss in public (well, other than when I'm leaving and he walks me to the vehicle  :icon_smile: ). He puts his arm around me while we are sitting in service, also.  We also hold hands when we pray.

 

And part of good romance is a man being a proper gentleman for his wife: opening doors for her, carrying the heavy loads, walking on the street-side of the sidewalk, giving up his coat for her warmth, etc. True! When she comes out of our trailer, because the steps are steep, I often lift her out, and she enjoys that. She's not a delicate flower, so she likes a husband who can lift her and make her feel light.  

 

By the way, no, I'm not perfect-I still tend to leave my clothes laying around after work, and lean toward untidiness, but I am trying, especially now since we have moved into our tiny 32' trailer at the farm-so with the restricted space, I am trying to be neater so we don't end up with a mess.

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Jerry - you always assume so very much.  It's just plain nonsense to think that Christians would say that God has no place ANYWHERE, let alone in the bedroom of a married couple.  And, no, that is NOT the statement TGL made.  So, no, I didn't say God has no right in the bedroom.  Take offense if you want..."Great peace have they which love thy law and nothing shall offend them.  Prove  the limits by scripture, not feeling.

 

No, your wrong, we need to be clear, for others reading it cannot read our minds & know what we mean.

 

When this statement is made, "What happens in the bedroom between husband & wife is only between husband & wife," leaves God out, period.

 

As for you, go back & look at & read my post, "I asked you a question, yet look where you took it!"

 

Why not just answer the question & stop all of your assuming, instead of making accusations.

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