[Book] Created to be his Help Meet

[brosmith]

I am looking for information on the book entitled "Created to be his Help Meet" by Debi Pearl. I have read some online reviews and excerpts but I am interested in knowing if anyone here has read the book. If you have read this book I would be most appreciative if you gave your insights.

[Hambone]

I haven't personally read it, but my wife swears by it, and has given it to many women who are having rough times. I have witnessed changes in people's lives due to this book. I don't agree with the Pearls about everything, but their books are great. There is no substitute for the Bible when looking for Biblical principles on issues, but the Pearls have a knack for revealing those principles from the Bible and guiding a person as to how to apply those principles in their daily life.

[candlelight]

My MIL and one of my SIL's loves the book. I haven't read all of it...then, I loaned it out to someone. My friend read it and really liked it. Actually, I just got it back last week. It is amongst my many books to read.

Debi Pearl is a real "Straight Shooter." I know that she gives many real life examples in her books... and this book is supposed to be very helpful. Brother Pearl has several good videos on VHS or DVD, as well.

In Christ ~

Molly

[Anon]

In general I am not a fan of the Pearls...but that book is excellent. It has a couple things I disagree with in there as far as a few of her standards or suggestions....but overall its very good. When I was done I called it "Conviction between two book covers." She definitely tells it like it is and whips you into shape, that's for sure.

[HappyChristian]

I like the book. I don't agree with many of their teachings, but the majority of this book is right on the money. I intend to give a copy to my DIL should the Lord ever bless us with one!

[Anon]

I like the book. I don't agree with many of their teachings' date=' but the majority of this book is right on the money. I intend to give a copy to my DIL should the Lord ever bless us with one![/quote']

Haha make sure she likes you REAL good first!

[HappyChristian]

:Green Yeah!!! There is a companion to the book - a journal. I had thought I would give that to her as well, and then maybe go through it with her. I kinda would like to be able to point out some areas that need a little more thought than just what Debi puts in the book, but sure don't want to come across as heavy handed mil!! So, I'll probably just ask her if she'd like to go through it with me. If not, okay. If he'd marry the one I've picked out for him, there wouldn't be any problems!!!

[Anon]

Wow. That's some lofty goals for a mother in law. :ha Nooo just kidding ya....although seriously.... if my MIL would have done that (she is not like you though, you are much more grounded that she is) she would have come across as an overprotective mother of a mommy's boy. hee hee. BUT if you guys have a great relationship, I know she'd appreciate the book.

Of course if you've already picked her out, you may as well start now! LOL...

Sorry, can't help it, I guess I'm in the mother in law joke mood. hee hee.

[HappyChristian]

:Green Yeah - it would have seemed overbearing for my mil, too. But she's kinda bossy, anyway. I tend to be bossy, so I will really need to curb it when he gets married - I definitely don't want to be the stereotypical mil. 'Course, with him in the Guard, he may just live elsewhere...

Well, I've picked one, but it's not my decision.... :tum

[candlelight]

You 2 are so funny! Does anyone remember the video for the guys that Brother Pearl came out with? I saw the one for the women. I had the video for the men... hanging around for quite a few years. You know? Hoping and praying that my hubby would watch it. Finally, PTL... one day we watched it together. :lol

Yes, there are also some things that I don't agree with... as well. They do their best.

~ Molly

[BlessedChristianlady8]

Someone just sent me this free she didn't like it. So I am reading now and I will be reading it when I am at my parents house probley near thier pool.

[Annie]

I've read the book and am not sure I would recommend it to anyone else. IMO, it's based more on psychology than Scripture. (Parts of it actually reminded me of a "remix" of Tim and Beverly LaHaye's books on personality and birth order.) Not saying that's bad, necessarily; there's a lot of good advice in there. Reading the book is like having a nice chat with an older woman who is giving out practical advice which may or may not work for you...but IMO it's not as helpful as far as understanding what the Bible has to say about marriage. Yes, I suppose it is "convicting," but I'm not sure it is convicting for the right reasons. But, hey, my sister disagrees with me. She loves the book and mentions it from time to time. I think the worst thing that could happen with someone who reads the book is that they could try to live up to false expectations of what a wife should be (for the wrong reasons), and end up feeling like a failure before God unnecessarily.

[HappyChristian]

I think the worst thing that could happen with someone who reads the book is that they could try to live up to false expectations of what a wife should be (for the wrong reasons), and end up feeling like a failure before God unnecessarily.

I think you're right on the money with this, Annie. One of the things I didn't like about the book was the way she seemed to come across as believing she was spiritually superior. Others may not have felt that way when they read it, but in some instances I did. There are a few women authors who seem to be that way. It could just be the way I read it, but I don't know.

What I like about it is, like you said, it's like having a chat - and there are some principles in there that can and should be applied. But, to be honest, it seemed to me that there was some manipulation being taught, too...and I do not believe any woman who manipulates her husband is in true submission to him. That's the reason that, if I gave a copy to my future dil, I would want to go through it with her - you know, eat the meat, spit out the bones idea.

Another good book is Shaunit Feldman's For Women Only. I wouldn't recommend that one to a single woman, but some wives could really learn something from reading it.

KJVK - enjoy reading it - but make sure to temper it with scripture so that, as Annie said, you don't try to become her...it's so easy to try to emulate what we've read, but we all need to remember that we are individual creations of God. Bound by His principles, yes, but we are all different.

[BlessedChristianlady8]

I am actually liking the think about this section and the questions and things I need to change. So I am very discerning about this.