So Disappointing

[John81]

I just saw on Facebook where another "good church girl" who went off to a worldly college has joined with the world. She comes from a "good Christian family", attended church regularly until graduating high school and heading off to a worldly college.

Now she has a Facebook page, like so many others similar to her, featuring a lot of pictures of her in very immodest outfits, dressed in a slutty outfit with KISS makeup on, wearing short-shorts, extremely low cut tops, etc.

Nothing Christian on her page, like there was occasionally before she went to college.

It's such a shame to see this happen yet again, and knowing many more will follow this same bad path.

One has to wonder why the families of these girls either allow this or don't do something about it. Where are their pastors and others from their home church?

The ones I know of, whenever I hear someone from their church speak of them it's always about how wonderful they are doing. I've never once over the years heard any of their parents, pastors, church leaders, Christian friends or others say anything at all about their worldly ways.

Not only do they post this stuff on Facebook for the world to see, they come back home dressing and acting the same way and parents, grandparents, pastors and friends all just hug them and hang out with them with nary a word about it.

It's really sad to see this happen so often, year after year. Parents push their daughters to do well in school, go off to college to get a degree so they can make good money, but neglect to bring them up solidly in the Word and then excuse their behavior when they take on the ways of the world.

[Covenanter]

Our prayers must be for our church youngsters, boys & girls, that God will protect them, keep them from bad company & temptation, lead them to godly companions & a Gospel church. That he will keep them chaste & lead them to a godly marriage partner.

[John81]

Our prayers must be for our church youngsters, boys & girls, that God will protect them, keep them from bad company & temptation, lead them to godly companions & a Gospel church. That he will keep them chaste & lead them to a godly marriage partner.

Amen!

I'm on a board in our church and this is one of the things we've been trying to tackle this year, how to do more in this direction, how to do better what we are already doing.

One thing that really makes helping our youth difficult is when the parents aren't doing their part.

It's also tough when so many of the area youth who do go to church go to another one because that church has such "fun" for the youth.

No doubt, it all begins with prayer on our part for the youth, their parents and all involved.

In checking into new things this year, we've found that in one of our middle youth Sunday schools, the youth in that class have such a firm grasp on the material already they are wanting more in-depth material to work with! What a pleasant surprise and certainly a blessing. We are working to give them more of a challenge now even as we aquire more in-depth material for them.

[Anon]

I really think some of it is that families are just playing church and the kids know it. Families don't have to be perfect, but they do have to be real. If families aren't real, and the kids do not know why they live like they do, they're going to go off and make their own decisions.

[John81]

I really think some of it is that families are just playing church and the kids know it. Families don't have to be perfect, but they do have to be real. If families aren't real, and the kids do not know why they live like they do, they're going to go off and make their own decisions.

That's a major factor. The parents don't really try to live by the Word so neither their teaching nor their lives reflect the importance of being in the Word and living by the Word.

That's one of the reasons we have difficulty getting many of the "church kids" into the Sunday school and youth programs. Their parents don't make it a priority so neither do their kids.

It's just so sad to see so many around here who grew up in one of the churches here and as soon as they go off to secular college they seem to morph into the world. Once sweet looking girls, decently dressed, suddenly post pictures of themselves for the world to see on Facebook looking like street walkers.

I'm not a perfect parent but if my daughter had done that she would certainly have heard plenty about it from me, and I would have made sure others talked with her as well.

In the meantime, I see these girls come back from college on vacation or to visit and they go out in public with their parents dressed very immodestly. I don't see how their mom or dad could do that. Myself, as hard as it might be, I would refuse to go anywhere with my daughter if she were dressed like that

On one occasion, I think last year, a college girl was back visiting and she walked into the room and the eyes instantly went to her exceedingly low cut, wide cut top. She was all smiles and saying "hi", but all I could do was quickly look to her eyes, say hi, and turn away. There was no way I could stay there. Many others did the same thing. The girl didn't even seem to notice and her family that was there just carried on with her as if everything was fine.

Why would a girl dress like that in front of her parents? Why would a dad want the world to see that much of his daughter in public? Why wouldn't the mom tell her to cover herself? How could they stand around talking as if she wasn't standing there overly exposed?

I just don't get it.

[Invicta]

When you look at the mothers, they are sometimes very little different.

[John81]

When you look at the mothers, they are sometimes very little different.

True, but when I see their mothers dressed in a similar way, I can at least see where the daughter got it from and why the parents don't care. Yet sometimes the mothers don't dress like that but the parents still don't seem to see anything wrong with their daughter dressing that way. Nobody should want anyone to see that much of their daughters body unless it's her husband in private.

[JerryNumbers]

I agree, to many play church.

Many churches are no more that 'Social Clubs,' with the church refusing to accept God's whole truth, for if they did they might offend some.

[John81]

I agree, to many play church.

Many churches are no more that 'Social Clubs,' with the church refusing to accept God's whole truth, for if they did they might offend some.

That describes the most popular church in this small town. It's much more of a social club than anything else. The youth flock to their youth programs for the fun and entertainment, not to learn of Christ. This shows in terrible ways when the youth get into high school, or if they make it through high school without becoming boozers and getting pregnant (or getting another pregnant), it shows up when the get to college.