Thinking about adopting

[Anon]

You said you were not caring for the orphan...a nanny is. Why don't you just let the nanny adopt her own kid?

This thread is too funny.... I'm not buying half of it.

[trc123]

pt just to clear things up...I said already in a previous post that I understand things happen to families. The part I do not agree with is someone actually planning to skip marriage "don't want to mess with it" and then just "buy" a kid....yeah, like a "Boutique Dad" really. If God would have wanted Dads to be Dads alone, He'd have made them reproduce. But instead he said "It is not good for man to be alone."

While I understand what you are saying Kitagrl, I see it slightly different.

I actually respect a man who knows he's selfish and doesn't try to "play the marriage thing" and thus ruin one of God's wonderful woman's life more than the one who tries to fool himself and others and ends up destroying other lives.

The only other thing that needs to happen is to get the same man to understand that the same level of selfishness would also eventually destroy any children he happens to father and thus avert him from procreating (this OBviously does not apply to ptwild as he is speaking of adopting, not procreating).

[Psalms18_28]

I stopped believing he was serious in his last posts> Fishtooth taco? <----- ??? Is that what people get for expressing their opinion concerning the child's well being?

[ptwild]

I stopped believing he was serious in his last posts> Fishtooth taco? <----- ??? Is that what people get for expressing their opinion concerning the child's well being?

A better question would be "when did it become selfish to want to take a vacation?" And again, I ask, fishtooth tacos?

[ptwild]

A better question would be "when did it become selfish to want to take a vacation?" And again, I ask, fishtooth tacos?

This is a question for a few select folks that might know what it means.

[Psalms18_28]

I'm thinking of having another child, but I'm going to a IVF clinic so I can have a deaf child. It's what I want because I don't want the responsibility of raising a hearing child.

[ptwild]

I'm thinking of having another child, but I'm going to a IVF clinic so I can have a deaf child. It's what I want because I don't want the responsibility of raising a hearing child.

If this is to make a point, I think it is very poor, and distasteful, attempt.

[Psalms18_28]

Yes, because it would be selfish of me to do that. Just be careful with "I want" when it come to a child.

[ptwild]

Yes, because it would be selfish of me to do that. Just be careful with "I want" when it come to a child.

I would like to hear why you think I am selfish. Enjoying the ability to travel does not make one selfish. I refuse to believe that you do not take vacations.

[JerryNumbers]

Thanks a lot.

As to Jerry and Kita, we, as Christians, are to care for orphans. God doesn't say that a man must have a wife in order to adopt. As far as not getting married, I'm just not emotionally attracted to the idea of it. St. Paul, a personal role model, wasn't married and even advised against it. For some reason, people have come to conclude that there is this rule that you must move away from mom and dad and get married and have kids and . . . And that is fine. But it's not a Christian requirement. There also is no prohibition against a single man adopting an orphan. You are more than free to believe there there should be such a prohibition, but, thankfully, God really doesn't care what you believe the rules should be. Fishtooth taco?

Show me were Paul adopted children to raise.

[JerryNumbers]

I would like to hear why you think I am selfish. Enjoying the ability to travel does not make one selfish. I refuse to believe that you do not take vacations.

You've made it quite plain, you don't want a wife, because you want to do what you want to do when you want to do it. That is being selfish.

[ptwild]

You've made it quite plain, you don't want a wife, because you want to do what you want to do when you want to do it. That is being selfish.

No, it wouldn't. If I had a wife, and still chose to do what I want, when I want, then that would be selfish. I wouldn't want a wife whether I had the ability to do what I want or not.

[ptwild]

Show me were Paul adopted children to raise.

I don't believe that would be possible Jerry. Why the rhetorical suggestion?

[amblivion]

PT what is immediate family? Does this include your parents?

[Psalms18_28]

I go to vacations but I go with the whole family. If I ever go on a vacation by myself or with my husband, it will be a one time thing and doesn't happen often. But vacations will never be the reason why I send a child off to a nanny or boarding school .

btw, you can't just fire a nanny anytime you want. The child is more likely to be emotionally attached to her especially if you are gone all the time. It will break his heart if you fire her. Like I wrote, his heart is not to be messed with.