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I would endeavor to 'steer' her away from the relationship early on. In my own experience, I was told (one being my pastor's wife) that it couldn't be done. I would not do such in my power alone because it would most likely fail. But the Bible says we can do all things through Christ and he gives us the power of prayer

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you can start by bring he to church and have bible study with him if he likes our daughter he will stay and learn hope god will come in.and all thy children shall be taught of the lord; and great shall be the peace of thy children. isaiah 53:13

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you can start by bring he to church and have bible study with him if he likes our daughter he will stay and learn hope god will come in.and all thy children shall be taught of the lord; and great shall be the peace of thy children. isaiah 53:13

 

How about if he does not come to Christ for salvation soon, and if he is going to church, just to please someone?

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Two verses come to mind.  Right now, his main interest is in your daughter; he might get saved, but then he might not. The Bible doesn't say to marry one and hope he gets saved later. It simply says be not unequally yoked with unbelievers.

 

Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? 2 Corinthians 6:14

 

...and, as the Dad, your unmarried daughter is your responsibilty.

So then he that giveth her in marriage doeth well; but he that giveth her not in marriage doeth better. 1 Corinthians 7:38.

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Can I help it if somehow, accidentally of course, he was stomped and gored by a neighbor's ill-tempered bull? Still wondering why he went in the neighbor's pasture anyway.       :eye: 

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One of the regrets I have is not praying for my children's future spouses, friends, and employment when they were young. I, too, waited until "the barn door was opened" (so to speak) and then prayed about those things. (By that time it was too late) If she is prone to obeying your wishes, perhaps you could talk her into waiting, a year perhaps longer to see if she would change her mind or he possibly get saved. Will be joining in prayer for her to make the right decision.

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One of the regrets I have is not praying for my children's future spouses, friends, and employment when they were young. I, too, waited until "the barn door was opened" (so to speak) and then prayed about those things. (By that time it was too late) If she is prone to obeying your wishes, perhaps you could talk her into waiting, a year perhaps longer to see if she would change her mind or he possibly get saved. Will be joining in prayer for her to make the right decision.

 

When my son was 1 year old I began praying for a Christian wife for him. It took 34 years but God answered my prayer.

 

I am now praying for the salvation of my grand children when they are still in the womb. The first grand daughter has accepted Jesus praise God! Two more to go.

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When my son was 1 year old I began praying for a Christian wife for him. It took 34 years but God answered my prayer.

 

I am now praying for the salvation of my grand children when they are still in the womb. The first grand daughter has accepted Jesus praise God! Two more to go.

Okay, my warped sense of humor cut in -- I know what you meant, but it reads as though she got saved while still in the womb.Now THAT'S getting saved young!  :coverlaugh:

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From what I've seen it seems that often parents make one of two big mistakes. They either get angry, make accusations, perhaps even threats, often disparage the lost one; or they timidly say something like they were hoping they would marry a Christian, but we're happy for you and we'll fully support your decision.

 

My approach would be to talk with them, a discussion, not a lecture. Talk with them about the lost person they are interested in to learn more about him, what she likes about him, what she may not like, and then move the conversation into matters of how that all relates to her faith and what the Word says. At the end of the conversation I wouldn't press her for a decision (if she's ready to make one, fine) I would ask her to think about what we had talked about and really think things through and we could talk more if she wants or when she thinks she knows what she wants to do she can come and tell me.

 

If she would happen to decide to go ahead with the marriage I would make it clear that I couldn't bless it. I'd make sure she understands that I love her, I would be calm and loving with her, but I would make sure she understood that in accord with Scripture there is no way I could give my blessing to such.

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If I had another daughter I would not let here be around boys until she reached the age of 21, even them it would have to be in the presence of her mother & I only.  :smug:

 

Oh, I should mention this so I edited my post.

 

I know of a wealthy father & mother whose daughter married a Christian man without a big education & big money. They did all that was possible to break it up, they wanted their daughter to marry a man who had a big education & money.

 

And it seems to me many Christians families seems to feel the same way, the most important thing about a husband for their daughter is a big education & much money while they put little to no importance in marrying a Christian man.

 

And it seems most father's & mothers place more importance on education to have a high paying job than they do on being faithful to Christ during their growing years at home

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If I had another daughter I would not let here be around boys until she reached the age of 21, even them it would have to be in the presence of her mother & I only:smug:

 

Oh, I should mention this so I edited my post.

 

I know of a wealthy father & mother whose daughter married a Christian man without a big education & big money. They did all that was possible to break it up, they wanted their daughter to marry a man who had a big education & money.

 

And it seems to me many Christians families seems to feel the same way, the most important thing about a husband for their daughter is a big education & much money while they put little to no importance in marrying a Christian man.

 

And it seems most father's & mothers place more importance on education to have a high paying job than they do on being faithful to Christ during their growing years at home

Amen

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My daughter-in-law informed me tonight that when they have daughters, the girls will be locked in towers from 8 years and up. We will be given keys so we can get them for visits as long as we make sure to lock the tower doors when we bring them back. And the windows will be very small so no rapunzel-like tricks. ROFL

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From what I've seen it seems that often parents make one of two big mistakes. They either get angry, make accusations, perhaps even threats, often disparage the lost one; or they timidly say something like they were hoping they would marry a Christian, but we're happy for you and we'll fully support your decision.

My approach would be to talk with them, a discussion, not a lecture. Talk with them about the lost person they are interested in to learn more about him, what she likes about him, what she may not like, and then move the conversation into matters of how that all relates to her faith and what the Word says. At the end of the conversation I wouldn't press her for a decision (if she's ready to make one, fine) I would ask her to think about what we had talked about and really think things through and we could talk more if she wants or when she thinks she knows what she wants to do she can come and tell me.

If she would happen to decide to go ahead with the marriage I would make it clear that I couldn't bless it. I'd make sure she understands that I love her, I would be calm and loving with her, but I would make sure she understood that in accord with Scripture there is no way I could give my blessing to such.




How make it harder for you, how about if he is a JW.
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I don't know what you mean by the first part of your sentence. As to the second part, why would I bless a union of my saved daughter with an unsaved, false religionist JW?

 

Falls in love with one of a different faith, like JW or other.  Thanks 

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Falls in love with one of a different faith, like JW or other.  Thanks 

If we raise our children in accord with Scripture this is far less likely to happen. Others have posted of the importance of having good parental/child relations as they are growing up, which helps when they are older. Also, in raising them in Christ we should help them to understand the importance of making sure their closest friends are Christians. Most people eventually find their mate among or through their friends. We teach them the importance of not spending time along with those of the opposite sex. We teach them what Scripture says about Christians marrying Christians, and not non-Christians, so they know ahead of time how to view this. All of these things help to point our child in the right direction and lessen the chances they would consider getting involved with a non-Christian.

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If we raise our children in accord with Scripture this is far less likely to happen. Others have posted of the importance of having good parental/child relations as they are growing up, which helps when they are older. Also, in raising them in Christ we should help them to understand the importance of making sure their closest friends are Christians. Most people eventually find their mate among or through their friends. We teach them the importance of not spending time along with those of the opposite sex. We teach them what Scripture says about Christians marrying Christians, and not non-Christians, so they know ahead of time how to view this. All of these things help to point our child in the right direction and lessen the chances they would consider getting involved with a non-Christian.

 

 

:verymad:  :preggo:  Daddy, we can teach him the truth.

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My oldest daughter has just spent a night and day in jail, from once again picking a winner. They got in a fight, she scratched him on the arm, police got involved and she went away for DOMESTIC ABUSE. Her mom just paid her bail and got her out. I'm hoping to see her tomorrow and have a talk with her about her choices.

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My oldest daughter has just spent a night and day in jail, from once again picking a winner. They got in a fight, she scratched him on the arm, police got involved and she went away for DOMESTIC ABUSE. Her mom just paid her bail and got her out. I'm hoping to see her tomorrow and have a talk with her about her choices.

So sad. I'll be praying for all of you.

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But from a psychological standpoint and probably more statistically accurate is that girl's are more likely to marry a man just like their father if they DID NOT have a good relationship with their father. They spend the rest of their lives trying to receive the acceptance and approval of something they never got as a child. Even if that father was abusive, alcoholic whatever, doesn't matter. I'm also speaking from experience and years of therapy.

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But from a psychological standpoint and probably more statistically accurate is that girl's are more likely to marry a man just like their father if they DID NOT have a good relationship with their father. They spend the rest of their lives trying to receive the acceptance and approval of something they never got as a child. Even if that father was abusive, alcoholic whatever, doesn't matter. I'm also speaking from experience and years of therapy.

From what I've read, as well as personal experience, this is often the case. I've known so many women who had messed up dads, or dads that left or died when they were young, and their lives are one long, sad trail of troubled, broken relationships with men they should have never involved themselves with.

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