Please HELP me--I have a horrible situation !

[dwayner79]

My main thought to mull over is that she admitted to me that she did not mean her vows and therefore since man looks on the outward appearance but God looks on the heart, that it would not be a valid marriage--would be more like fornication in His eyes and that her "promise" was a lie--

I would have a hard time hermeneutically making this fly. Theologically it just doesn't work.

[dwayner79]

"Now is not the time to be thinking of finding another wife. That would be the absolute worse thing you could do."




--was ANYONE REALLY LISTENING?

Did I SAY I was thinking of finding another wife???--let me educate you--I have zero friends---I know how these things work, so for something to happen over a period of years, I have to get started on it now--like planning for retirement--so NO, let me repeat, NO--I am not thinking about finding another wife--if you really want to think of it the way it really is, I am trying to invest time and personal information into a long-term solution to my wife, who may or may not even be saved, choosing to 1.) commit adultery, 2.) curse, 3.) drink, 4.) abandon her only child who is developmentally delayed...so PLEASE think before you respond--fold some more laundry, then get back with me.

So I was right in your desire for friends, and I think my advice still stands. My wife and I met in May, engaged in Aug, and were married the next April. 11 months. (That was 8 years ago) You do not need years of working on a friendship. Find guy friends, work through your issues.

Oh, and the last line. My compassion for you is waning... fast. I do not believe a more condescending thing could be said here. I'll chalk it up to you being "vexed", but certainly an apology is warranted.

[Anon]

"Now is not the time to be thinking of finding another wife. That would be the absolute worse thing you could do."




--was ANYONE REALLY LISTENING?

Did I SAY I was thinking of finding another wife???--let me educate you--I have zero friends---I know how these things work, so for something to happen over a period of years, I have to get started on it now--like planning for retirement--so NO, let me repeat, NO--I am not thinking about finding another wife--if you really want to think of it the way it really is, I am trying to invest time and personal information into a long-term solution to my wife, who may or may not even be saved, choosing to 1.) commit adultery, 2.) curse, 3.) drink, 4.) abandon her only child who is developmentally delayed...so PLEASE think before you respond--fold some more laundry, then get back with me.

I graduated from Pensacola Christian College in 2002, so with me, dating is merely getting together, talking, eating, or watching tv. If you are calmer, romantic, like art, music, or low-stress activities, then we will get along well.

If you are shorter, petite, an inspiring muse, or a deep-thinker, let me know all about it...

[Anon]

Ok we're done here.

Did a search...all you did, OP, is copy and paste on here the same ad you put on 2 or 3 Christian singles dating websites.

http://www.christiandatingforfree.com/v ... erid=45567

We are NOT a dating service. Especially not for married men, that's for sure. You say you aren't looking...that was a lie...because people on dating services are looking.

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