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I would add my own opinion that the social class and simillar backgrounds of you and your spouse are important.I have heard of a worker marrying a BBU graduate and their marriage works, but I find it much easier if both me and my husband come from "intellectual" middle class, both our parents are teachers and both of us have college professors in our closest families. Me and my husnabd also have a simillar degree and soon will start to work towards a higher degree in the same field.

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I have found that my "wish" list has changed somewhat over the years...here is a pretty good summary of just how much...(sent to me in an email)

What I Want in a Man (age 22)
Financially successful
A caring listener
In good shape
Dresses with style
Appreciates finer things
Full of thoughtful surprises
An imaginative, romantic lover, every day of the week

What I Want in a Man, Revised List (age 32)
Nice looking (prefer hair on his head)
Opens car doors, holds chairs
Has enough money for a nice dinner
Listens more than talks
Laughs at my jokes
Carries bags of groceries with ease
Owns at least one tie
Appreciates a good home-cooked meal
Remembers birthdays and anniversaries
Seeks romance at least 4-5 times a week

What I Want in a Man, Revised List (age 42)
Not too ugly (bald head OK)
Doesn't drive off until I'm in the car
Works steady - splurges on dinner out occasionally
Nods head when I'm talking
Usually remembers punch lines of jokes
Is in good enough shape to rearrange the furniture
Wears a shirt that covers his stomach
Knows not to buy champagne with screw-top lids
Remembers to put the toilet seat down
Shaves most weekends
Interested in romance 2-3 times a week

What I Want in a Man, Revised List (age 52)
Keeps hair in nose and ears trimmed
Doesn't belch or scratch in public
Doesn't borrow money too often
Doesn't nod off to sleep when I'm venting
Doesn't retell the same joke too many times
Is in good enough shape to get off couch on weekends
Usually wears matching socks and fresh underwear
Appreciates a good TV dinner
Remembers your name on occasion
Shaves some weekends
Hope for a kiss each day

What I Want in a Man, Revised List (age 62)
Doesn't scare small children
Remembers where bathroom is
Doesn't require much money for upkeep
Only snores lightly when asleep
Remembers why he's laughing
Is in good enough shape to stand up by himself
Usually wears some clothes
Likes soft foods
Remembers where he left his teeth
Remembers that it's the weekend
Remembers what romance was like

What I Want in a Man, Revised List (age 72)
Doesn't miss the toilet

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I'm looking for modern-day Esthers and Sarahs and the likewise women. So hard to find in postmodern-day society. Unless you peek into Bible-believing churches of course.

Though... I'll have to have the qualities SHE wants. This is why so many "Average Joes" today remain single. Weak personality, unable to make decisions and the like.

Of course, "Judge not, lest ye be judged..."
I'd better judge myself first before judging others... I hope those poor qualities above DO NOT fit me...

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I don't have to many things I can think of

Shorter than me (I am 6'4 and I don't want to date a behemoth :P )

A good cook, I don't want to live with bad food for like 50 years :P

Thinks I am funny :P

It's in my personality to try and be funny all the time, but I can be serious, generally at church I am serious because most people don't get my humor :( And I would rather avoid the awkward looks on peoples faces as they slowly try to change the subject :P


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Well a few things...

(In no certain order)
1. Saved
2. Loves the Lord
3. Follows God's leading
4. Treats me like a lady
5. Loves children
6. Respects authority
7. Cares about people
8. Good Prayer Life(He'll have to be to put up with me...)

A few things I'd like but are not concrete..

Non-Brown Eyes
Dark Hair
Not from Texas
Taller than 5' 8"
Not a Dallas Cowboys Fan
For that matter or a Pittsburgh fan
eww or NY Yankees
Preferably is a STL Cardinals Fan

There's a few things.

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Interesting topic...well..here goes :P

He's gotta love the Lord and desire to serve Him. When he makes decisions, they need to be prayerfully made. He needs to love to witness too. He's gotta want to have atleast 3 kids, and desire to raise them in the house of God...train them up in the way they should go.

Agreement on the Bible as the final authority for life is a must. He needs to be strong in his faith so he can lead me spiritually.

Taller than I am. I prefer dark hair. :) tall, dark, and handsome...atleast to me. :P I know I'll think he's handsome if I love him. :P Good sense of humour. Smart. A major one for me is honest...and open for communication. Also he's gotta be willing to bear with me when I'm crazy and goofy. :P Thoughtful too... :) like random phone calls and notes and such...ya know, sweet stuff like that.

hehe wow..thats quite the long list isn't it?

but the most important of all...he's gotta be the Lord's will for me. :) Once I know that..well that pretty much settles it all.

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I made a list a while back.(you will think I'm very demanding :frog )

What I want in a wife:

Attentive to the needs of others
Carefree(not vain)
Same beliefs(music, doctrine, dress, vision, birth control)
Loving and passionate
Strong on standards and Scripture
Respects authority
Common interests


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