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      James Foley
       
      I Corinthians 11:17-34: "Now in this that I declare unto you I praise you not, that ye come together not for the better, but for the worse. For first of all, when ye come together in the church, I hear that there be divisions among you; and I partly believe it. For there must be also heresies among you, that they which are approved may be made manifest among you. When ye come together therefore into one place, this is not to eat the Lord's Supper. For in eating every one taketh before other his own supper: and one is hungry, and another is drunken. What? have ye not houses to eat and to drink in? or despise ye the church of God, and shame them that have not? What shall I say to you? shall I praise you in this? I praise you not. For I have received of the Lord that which also I delivered unto you, That the Lord Jesus the same night in which he was betrayed took bread: And when he had given thanks, he brake it, and said, Take, eat: this is my body, which is broken for you: this do in remembrance of me. After the same manner also he took the cup, when he had supped, saying, This cup is the new testament in my blood: this do ye, as oft as ye drink it, in remembrance of me. For as often as ye eat this bread, and drink this cup, ye do show the Lord's death till he come. Wherefore whosoever shall eat this bread, and drink this cup of the Lord, unworthily, shall be guilty of the body and blood of the Lord. But let a man examine himself, and so let him eat of that bread, and drink of that cup. For he that eateth and drinketh unworthily, eateth and drinketh damnation to himself, not discerning the Lord's body. For this cause many are weak and sickly among you, and many sleep. For if we would judge ourselves, we should not be judged. But when we are judged, we are chastened of the Lord, that we should not be condemned with the world. Wherefore, my brethren, when ye come together to eat, tarry one for another. And if any man hunger, let him eat at home; that ye come not together unto condemnation. And the rest will I set in order when I come."

      INTRODUCTION

      Historic Baptists, true Baptists, have believed in and still believe in closed communion. Baptists impose upon themselves the same restrictions that they impose on others concerning the Lord’s Supper. Baptists have always insisted that it is the Lord’s Table, not theirs; and He alone has the right to say who shall sit at His table. No amount of so called brotherly love, or ecumenical spirit, should cause us to invite to His table those who have not complied with the requirements laid down plainly in His inspired Word. With respect to Bible doctrines we must always use the scripture as our guide and practice. For Baptists, two of the most important doctrines are Baptism and The Lord’s Supper. These are the only two doctrines we recognize as Church Ordinances. The Bible is very clear in teaching how these doctrines are to be practiced and by whom.

      We only have two ordinances that we must never compromise or we risk our very existence, they are Baptism and The Lord’s Supper.

      The moment we deviate from the precise method God has prescribed we have started down the slippery slope of error. True Baptists have held fast to the original doctrine of The Lord’s Supper from the time of Christ and the Apostles.

      Unfortunately, in this day of what the Bible describes as the age of luke warmness, Baptists are becoming careless in regard to strictly following the pattern laid out for us in Scripture. Many of our Bible colleges are graduating otherwise sincere, Godly and dedicated pastors and teachers who have not been taught the very strict, biblical requirements that surround the Lord’s Supper. Any Bible college that neglects to teach its students the differences surrounding Closed Communion, Close Communion and Open Communion is not simply short changing its students; it is also not equipping their students to carry on sound Bible traditions. The result is men of God and churches that fall into error. And as we will see, this is serious error.

      Should we as Baptists ignore the restrictions made by our Lord and Master? NO! When we hold to the restrictions placed upon the Lord’s Supper by our Master, we are defending the "faith which was once delivered to the saints" Jude 3.

      The Lord’s Supper is rigidly restricted and I will show this in the following facts:

      IT IS RESTRICTED AS TO PLACE

      A. I Corinthians 11:18 says, "When ye come together in the church." This does not mean the church building; they had none. In other words, when the church assembles. The supper is to be observed by the church, in church capacity. Again this does not mean the church house. Ekklesia, the Greek word for church, means assembly. "When ye come together in the church," is when the church assembles.

      B. When we say church we mean an assembly of properly baptized believers. Acts 2:41-42: "Then they that gladly received his word were baptized: and the same day there were added unto them about three thousand souls. And they continued stedfastly in the apostles' doctrine and fellowship, and in breaking of bread, and in prayers."

      The church is made up of saved people who are baptized by immersion. In the Bible, belief precedes baptism. That’s the Bible way.

      Acts 8:12-13, "But when they believed Philip preaching the things concerning the kingdom of God, and the name of Jesus Christ, they were baptized, both men and women. Then Simon himself believed also: and when he was baptized, he continued with Philip, and wondered, beholding the miracles and signs which were done."

      When we say properly baptized, we mean immersed. No unbeliever should take the Lord’s supper, and no non-immersed believer should take the supper. Those who are sprinkled are not baptized and cannot receive the supper. The Greek word for baptize is baptizo, and it always means to immerse.

      "In every case where communion is referred to, or where it may possibly have been administered, the believers had been baptized Acts 2:42; 8:12; 8:38; 10:47; 6:14-15; 18:8; 20:7. Baptism comes before communion, just as repentance and faith precede baptism".

      C. The Lord’s Supper is for baptized believers in church capacity: "When ye come together in the church," again not a building, but the assembly of the properly baptized believers.

      D. The fact that the Lord’s Supper is a church ordinance, to be observed in church capacity, is pointed out by the fact that it is for those who have been immersed and added to the fellowship of the church.

      E. The Lord’s Supper is never spoken of in connection with individuals. When it is referred to, it is only referred to in reference to baptized believers in local church capacity I Cor. 11:20-26).

      I want to quote Dr. W.W. Hamilton,

      "The individual administration of the ordinance has no Bible warrant and is a relic of Romanism. The Lord’s Supper is a church ordinance, and anything which goes beyond or comes short of this fails for want of scriptural example or command".

      “The practice of taking a little communion kit to hospitals, nursing homes, etc. is unscriptural and does not follow the scriptural example.”

      IT IS RESTRICTED TO A UNITED CHURCH

      A. The Bible in I Cor. 11:18 is very strong in condemning divisions around the Lord’s table. For first of all, when ye come together in the church, I hear that there be divisions among you; and I partly believe it.
      19 For there must be also heresies among you, that they which are approved may be made manifest among you.
      20 When ye come together therefore into one place, this is not to eat the Lord's supper.

      There were no less than four divisions in the Corinthian church.
      I Cor. 1:12: "Now this I say, that every one of you saith, I am of Paul; and I of Apollos; and I of Cephas; and I of Christ."

      Because of these divisions, it was impossible for them to scripturally eat the Lord’s Supper. Division in the local church is reason to hold off observing the Lord’s Supper. But there are also other reasons to forego taking the Lord’s Supper. If there is gross sin in the membership we do not take it. Here is scriptural evidence for this: 1Co 5:7 Purge out therefore the old leaven, that ye may be a new lump, as ye are unleavened. For even Christ our Passover is sacrificed for us:
      8 Therefore let us keep the feast, not with old leaven, neither with the leaven of malice and wickedness; but with the unleavened bread of sincerity and truth. 9 I wrote unto you in an epistle not to company with fornicators:
      10 Yet not altogether with the fornicators of this world, or with the covetous, or extortioners, or with idolaters; for then must ye needs go out of the world. 11 But now I have written unto you not to keep company, if any man that is called a brother be a fornicator, or covetous, or an idolater, or a railer, or a drunkard, or an extortioner; with such an one no not to eat.

      B. At this point, I want to ask these questions: Are there not doctrinal divisions among the many denominations? Is it not our doctrinal differences that cause us to be separate religious bodies?

      IT IS RESTRICTED BY DOCTRINE

      A. Those in the early church at Jerusalem who partook "continued stedfastly in the apostles’ doctrine" Acts 2:42. And they continued stedfastly in the apostles' doctrine and fellowship, and in breaking of bread, and in prayers.

      B. Those that do not hold to apostolic truth are not to partake. This means there is to be discipline in the local body. How can you discipline those who do not belong to the local body? You can’t. The clear command of scripture is to withdraw fellowship from those who are not doctrinally sound.

      II Thes 3:6: "Now we command you, brethren, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that ye withdraw yourselves from every brother that walketh disorderly, and not after the tradition which he received of us."
      Rom. 16:17: "Now I beseech you, brethren, mark them which cause divisions and offences contrary to the doctrine which ye have learned; and avoid them."
      To commune together means to have the same doctrine.
      II Thes. 2:15: "Therefore, brethren, stand fast, and hold the traditions which ye have been taught, whether by word, or our epistle."
      II John 10-11: "If there come any unto you, and bring not this doctrine, receive him not into your house, neither bid him God speed: For he that biddeth him God speed is partaker of his evil deeds."

      C. Some Baptists in our day have watered down this doctrine by practicing what they call “Close Communion.” By this they mean that they believe that members of another Baptist church may take communion with us because they are of the same beliefs. Once again, this is unscriptural.

      The welcome to the Lord's Table should not be extended beyond the discipline of the local church. When we take the Lord’s Supper there is supposed to be no gross sin among us and no divisions among us. We have no idea of the spiritual condition of another church’s members. If there is sin or division in the case of this other church’s members, we have no way of knowing it. We cannot discipline them because they are not members of our church. This is why we practice “Closed” communion, meaning it is restricted solely to our church membership. 
      So then, in closing I would like to reiterate the three different ideas concerning the Lord’s Supper and who is to take it. 
      Closed Communion = Only members of a single local church. 
      Close Communion = Members of like faith and order may partake. 
      Open Communion = If you claim to be a Christian, or simply attending the service, you may partake. 
      It is no small thing to attempt to change that which was implemented by our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. 
      Mt. 28:20 Teaching them to observe all things whatsoever I have commanded you: and, lo, I am with you alway, even unto the end of the world. Amen. 
      Many of our Baptist churches have a real need to consider the gravity of the act of observing The Lord’s Supper. It is not a light thing that is to be taken casually or without regard to the spiritual condition of ourselves or our church.
      1Co. 11:27 Wherefore whosoever shall eat this bread, and drink this cup of the Lord, unworthily, shall be guilty of the body and blood of the Lord.

       28 But let a man examine himself, and so let him eat of that bread, and drink of that cup.

       29 For he that eateth and drinketh unworthily, eateth and drinketh damnation to himself, not discerning the Lord's body.

       30 For this cause many are weak and sickly among you, and many sleep.

Is God Forcing Me To Marry?


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I don't even know where to begin.  So, I'm 15, I'm a Christian and BTW, homeschooled :mellow: (I guess you can tell that I don't like being homeschooled, it's caused half the prOBlems I'm having currently..) Anyways... So last year this really ugly guy who looks like a 12 year old (and acts like one) who's really weird and nerdy and OBSESSED with harry Potter (that's another story) and dresses like a little kid too, started coming to my homeschool-group.  Well, I, needless to say, do NOT like him. But the other day I was praying to God inmyu quiet time and somehow got the thought that that boy is the one I'm going to marry. Ugh. It makes me want to throw up just thinking about it. I don't want to marry him. EVER. I'm only 15. WHy is God doing this to me? DO you think this is really God's will? Do you think He will let me choose if I want to or not or do I HAVE to. I have been absolutly miserable for days now and I need some advice. I don't want to marry someone like that. WIll God let me choose who I want to marry or is he forcing me to marry him? HELP ME. :bawling: Why would God do this to me?

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Just because you've had a thought while praying does not mean God put it there. God is not "doing this" to you.  You are young and you are reacting quite emotionally to your thought.  Just stop...take some deep breaths and know that God will never force something like this upon one of His children.  He loves you and wants only the best for you.  Rest assured that, as you mature emotionally, physically, and spiritually, God will lead you and when He does show you who He wants you to marry (if anyone) it will not make you want to throw up.

 

Based on just the little bit that you've shared, allyoop, I'm thinking that you need to surrender to the Lord in some areas.  I'm sorry you don't like being homeschooled, but that is the choice your parents have made...and you need to honor them by making the most of that and by allowing God to work in your life.  Quiet time with the Lord does not draw us closer to Him if we have resentment in our hearts.  ;)

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Just because you've had a thought while praying does not mean God put it there. God is not "doing this" to you.  You are young and you are reacting quite emotionally to your thought.  Just stop...take some deep breaths and know that God will never force something like this upon one of His children.  He loves you and wants only the best for you.  Rest assured that, as you mature emotionally, physically, and spiritually, God will lead you and when He does show you who He wants you to marry (if anyone) it will not make you want to throw up.

 

Based on just the little bit that you've shared, allyoop, I'm thinking that you need to surrender to the Lord in some areas.  I'm sorry you don't like being homeschooled, but that is the choice your parents have made...and you need to honor them by making the most of that and by allowing God to work in your life.  Quiet time with the Lord does not draw us closer to Him if we have resentment in our hearts.  ;)

 

The Bible says in Ephesians 6:1 & 2:

1 Children, OBey your parents in the Lord: for this is right.
2 Honour thy father and mother; (which is the first commandment with promise;)

 

My oldest hated being homeschooled and gave us endless grief throughout his High school years. Then he went into the Navy and four weeks into boot camp, after he saw and heard the results from all his peers that were public schooled, he called us up and in tears said, “Mom and Dad, I am so glad you did what you did”. I’ll never forget that call. After serving 4 successful years in the Navy he is now applying his G.I. Bill to a college education in Chemistry and has just finished his Sophomore year having straight As throughout.

 

Trust your parents, and make the best of the situation you are in. You will never be happy or comfortable kicking against the pricks. (Acts 9:5).

 

But the other day I was praying to God inmyu quiet time and somehow got the thought that that boy is the one I'm going to marry.

 

The key part of this phrase to me was that you "got the thought". God's thoughts are not our thoughts:

 

Isaiah 55:9 For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts than your thoughts.

 

Just because you happen to be praying at the time does not mean every thought that pops into your head is from God. Personally I think Satan is even more active when we are in prayer as he hates when we fellowship or get close with God. What LuAnne said above is very practical and wise advice. At 15 you shouldn't even be concerned about marriage, with the possible exception of endeavoring to make yourself the best possible help meet you can be for the man God eventually chooses for you (if that is His intent). Let God worry about the match making.

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Just because you've had a thought while praying does not mean God put it there. God is not "doing this" to you.  You are young and you are reacting quite emotionally to your thought.  Just stop...take some deep breaths and know that God will never force something like this upon one of His children.  He loves you and wants only the best for you.  Rest assured that, as you mature emotionally, physically, and spiritually, God will lead you and when He does show you who He wants you to marry (if anyone) it will not make you want to throw up.

 

Based on just the little bit that you've shared, allyoop, I'm thinking that you need to surrender to the Lord in some areas.  I'm sorry you don't like being homeschooled, but that is the choice your parents have made...and you need to honor them by making the most of that and by allowing God to work in your life.  Quiet time with the Lord does not draw us closer to Him if we have resentment in our hearts.  ;)

 

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Marriage is a beautiful picture of the relationship between Christ and His bride the church. God never ever forced anyone to get married. He leaves the choice soley up to you. But God's Word does give us specific guidelines to follow when making the decision to marry or not to marry.

 

I Corinthians 7:27-39

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hey that happened to me and it was a shock.  So I told the Lord hey this lady doesn't even like me.  so I threw it back into his hands and said.  If she is the one you want me to marry then you have to change her heart.

 

10 months later while on a short term mission outreach.  She insisted on talking to me and it turned out God was speaking to her about me.  And for some reason I said all the things she wanted to hear.  A year and a half later we were married and have been for 16 years, the mother of my only three children.

 

Requirements for marriage is that he is a Christian.  A Harry Potter fan doesn't sound like a Christian to me.  Not all home schoolers are Christians some are secular libertarians.

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Maybe God is wanting you to share your faith with him. You are OBviously having thoughts about this person. Most of the time throughout my life when God puts someone on my mind it's to either pray for them or witness to them.

 

Give him the gospel. Besides we're all ugly and nerdy and sinful until Christ has come into our heart. Let God change his life through you.

 

God Bless and let us know how it goes.

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Speaking on marriage, is there anytime when it is wrong for someone to make the decision not to marry simply because it is not their desire to? I am 38, and have never had the desire to marry. However, my pastor seems to imply often that everyone should desire to marry.

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Speaking on marriage, is there anytime when it is wrong for someone to make the decision not to marry simply because it is not their desire to? I am 38, and have never had the desire to marry. However, my pastor seems to imply often that everyone should desire to marry.

The Bible tells us that it is good for man to marry - but it does not state that it is required.  

 

"Delight thyself also in the LORD and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart."  As you walk with God, He will put the desires into your heart that He wants you to have.  If you are open to the idea of marriage if it's what God wants you to do, He will show you what to do - either way.

 

I think 1 Cor. 7 is pretty clear on the matter...marriage is not a command for anyone.

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Speaking on marriage, is there anytime when it is wrong for someone to make the decision not to marry simply because it is not their desire to? I am 38, and have never had the desire to marry. However, my pastor seems to imply often that everyone should desire to marry.

 

MK, I'm in exactly the same place as you and I think I've asked that question before on here and the consensus has been no not sinful.

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Maybe God is wanting you to share your faith with him. You are OBviously having thoughts about this person. Most of the time throughout my life when God puts someone on my mind it's to either pray for them or witness to them.

 

Give him the gospel. Besides we're all ugly and nerdy and sinful until Christ has come into our heart. Let God change his life through you.

 

God Bless and let us know how it goes.

I agree with that

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1 Corinthians 7:7-9

 

Paul was not married. He says it is good to stay that way if you can.

In verse 32 Paul seems to imply that the unmarried can be more focused on the Lord.

(Please pardon the wording of that last statement fellow married faithful. I didn't know another way to put it). 

I can understand that somewhat from a married point of view.

As an unmarried you don't have to worry about your spouse, kids, housing, or parents (in-laws)

This frees you from lots of responsibility that could cause you to spend your life working to keep them happy.

 

Anyway, there is no demand or command to marry like HC said earlier.

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The closest I can come to finding that God wants us to marry is in the first couple chapters of the Bible.

For man, there was no helpmeet. And God said, it is not good for man to be alone. I will make him an helpmeet. For this cause shall a man leave his mother and father and cleave to a wife.

There is no such thing as "helpmeet", and you have misrepresented the Scripture, here (prOBably not on purpose).

Gen 2:20
20 And Adam gave names to all cattle, and to the fowl of the air, and to every beast of the field; but for Adam there was not found an help meet for him.


1.' Help' and 'meet' are separate words.
2. 'Help' is acting as a noun.
It is modified by the indefinite article adjective : 'an' , and the adjective :'meet' .
3. In English, the compound word would be properly expressed as : 'meethelp', with the adjective placed in front of the noun, as in :"bridegroom".
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Haven't misprepresented God's Word at all.  I simply did not put a space between the two words.  It is still the same message.  God said man needs someone like himself in that passage.  And who did God create for him to be a help meet?  Another animal?  No.  Another man? No.  A Woman. 

And God said for this cause shall a man leave his father and mother and cleave unto a wife... for what cause?  To find a helpmeet.  Why?  Because it is not good for him to be alone.

Sorry prophet1, no misrepresentation on my part at all.

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It is true that Paul was not married at the time of writing his first epistle to the Church at Corinth.  However, having been a Pharisee, tradition holds that Paul had to have been married at one point in his life prior to the Damascus Road Conversion Experience.  Jewish tradition says that the Pharisees were married.

More than likely, at the time of writing the epistle to Corinth, Paul was either divorced or widowed.

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Haven't misprepresented God's Word at all. I simply did not put a space between the two words. It is still the same message. God said man needs someone like himself in that passage. And who did God create for him to be a help meet? Another animal? No. Another man? No. A Woman. And God said for this cause shall a man leave his father and mother and cleave unto a wife... for what cause? To find a helpmeet. Why? Because it is not good for him to be alone. Sorry prophet1, no misrepresentation on my part at all.
You are going to pretend that there isn't a whole system of false doctrine on the home, launched from this misrepresentation, wildly popular among us IFB, from the likes of Pearl? You have made 'help' an adj., and 'meet' a noun, by your re- positioning of God's Words. This is, by definition, a misrepresentation. The Oracle of God is not ours to play with.
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Genesis 2:18   And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.

Genesis 2:20   And Adam gave names to all cattle, and to the fowl of the air, and to every beast of the field; but for Adam there was not found an help meet for him.

 

"help meet"

 

My two cents... "an help" with "help" a noun. The word "meet" is an adjective describing the noun "help." Webster's 1828...

 

meet

MEET, a. [L. convenio.] Fit; suitable; proper; qualified; convenient; adapted, as to a use or purpose.

 

  Ye shall pass over armed before your brethren, the children of Israel, all that are meet for the war. Deut.3.

 

  It was meet that we should make merry--Luke 15.

 

  Bring forth fruits meet for repentance. Matt.3.

MEET, v.t. pret. and pp. met. [Gr. with.]

 

1. To come together, approaching in opposite or different directions; to come face to face; as, to meet a man in the road.

 

  His daughter came out to meet him with timbrels and with dances. Judges 11.

 

2. To come together in any place; as, we met many strangers at the levee.

 

3. To come together in hostility; to encounter. The armies met on the plains of Pharsalia.
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      I have been feeling this pull lately to change my life to be more appropriate for a follower of the Lord and have been browsing the bible. One verse I came along is 1 Timothy 2:9. "In like manner also, that the woman adorn themselves in modest apparel, with propriety and moderation, not with braided hair or gold or pearls or costly clothing." I have very long hair and find that braiding my hair is convenient and helpful in doing daily activities and work. Is this wrong? or is it more on fancy braids that are meant to be showy? I don't wear gold, pearls, jewelry, or costly clothing. I'm not braiding my hair to be pretty, just being practical. Another thing that has been bothering me is my personal relationship. My boyfriend and I have been together for 4.5 years, have two children and live together in every way possible. We are married in everyway but having the government legalize it. Is this a problem? We live together, share our money, share responsibility of the kids, we both work but me only part time so I stay home with the kids most of the time. He provides for us almost completely; he could if I didn't work. I choose to work to make it a little easier on him and give me a little time away from the family. I only work 3 days a week and that is when the kids go to see grandma. So what do you think about a simply braid and my relationship 
    • By Jordan Kurecki
      I have some questions requests for you.
      1. How did God bring you and your spouse together?
      2. Did you have any doubts about whether or not it was God's will for you to marry your spouse?
      3. What advice can you give to a young man like myself who is seeking to find the right spouse?
      4. add anything else you feel relevant.
    • By That Guy
      Hello, I'm new here. Literally 10 minutes new. I'll just jump right into the reason I signed up, and decided to post. I'm hoping there's hope for guys like me. I got married before I was saved, and divorced before I was saved, and that was 17 or 18 years ago. I'm older, but by no means old (40), and have a lot of life left in me if The Lord permits me to live a long life, or doesn't come back first. Everything I've seen says I cannot remarry, and since my original wife was unsaved, and is now remarried there's no hope of reconcilliation.
       
      Some Christians do go on to marry again regardless, but it doesn't look like that's something that God's going to permit. Feeling pretty hopeless about life. What's a guy to do? Any thoughts? Did I just mess up, and that's the end of that?
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