Members irishman Posted July 26, 2010 Members Share Posted July 26, 2010 I was planning on posting this tomorrow, but just couldn't wait! Hope it can be of use to someone. We need to seek out principles for restoring relationships, and remember that love always prevails. 1. Reminisce about past shared experiences. Remember the “good old days”. Times spent, things done together. 2. Don’t be afraid to “eat crow”. Swallow your pride. --Pride is destructive; it seldom, if ever, edifies. Why not take the blame for the problem? 1 Cor. 6:7 At least make it right on your end. 3. Build dreams with them! Talk of “better days” ahead; Instill in them a new hope. Find something to compliment them on (Need not lie, everyone has some accomplishment we can compliment them for.) Let them know they are useful--important to you. Excite them toward a better relationship. Even if they spurn your efforts, you have not lost anything! 4. Humble thyself! Control your resentment and anger. Ask yourself “What would Jesus do if He were in this predicament?” Spill your heart out! Explain that you do want to “go on” like this…a little humility goes far. 5. Keep a tear in the corner of your eye. Pray for compassion. One man’s spirit cannot fool another mans spirit; Learn to be sincerely compassionate. A man can often see through insincerity If the offendee is unsaved, it is your obligation to reconcile--not his! (Romans 12:10, particularly the middle part, “as much as lieth within “you,” not “them”. It is your duty to reconcile. Don’t wait for them to make the first move, they probably won’t. Don’t even begin to reconcile until you have prayed for/received a compassionate heart. anime4christ and sfspurlock 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Reformation Man35 Posted August 4, 2010 Members Share Posted August 4, 2010 I was planning on posting this tomorrow, but just couldn't wait! Hope it can be of use to someone. We need to seek out principles for restoring relationships, and remember that love always prevails. 1. Reminisce about past shared experiences. Remember the “good old days”. Times spent, things done together. 2. Don’t be afraid to “eat crow”. Swallow your pride. --Pride is destructive; it seldom, if ever, edifies. Why not take the blame for the problem? 1 Cor. 6:7 At least make it right on your end. 3. Build dreams with them! Talk of “better days” ahead; Instill in them a new hope. Find something to compliment them on (Need not lie, everyone has some accomplishment we can compliment them for.) Let them know they are useful--important to you. Excite them toward a better relationship. Even if they spurn your efforts, you have not lost anything! 4. Humble thyself! Control your resentment and anger. Ask yourself “What would Jesus do if He were in this predicament?” Spill your heart out! Explain that you do want to “go on” like this…a little humility goes far. 5. Keep a tear in the corner of your eye. Pray for compassion. One man’s spirit cannot fool another mans spirit; Learn to be sincerely compassionate. A man can often see through insincerity If the offendee is unsaved, it is your obligation to reconcile--not his! (Romans 12:10, particularly the middle part, “as much as lieth within “you,” not “them”. It is your duty to reconcile. Don’t wait for them to make the first move, they probably won’t. Don’t even begin to reconcile until you have prayed for/received a compassionate heart. Wonderful points to consider. Humility leads the way brother. Love as Christ loved the Church! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members DennisD Posted August 6, 2010 Members Share Posted August 6, 2010 Hopefully I'll be able to use this outline with my sisters. I have used some of it already but we continue to get further and further apart. Maybe one day we can fix the relationship. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members irishman Posted August 8, 2010 Author Members Share Posted August 8, 2010 Hopefully I'll be able to use this outline with my sisters. I have used some of it already but we continue to get further and further apart. Maybe one day we can fix the relationship. Praise the Lord, I hope you do use it. I pray that things will work out with your sisters. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Lisa Anne Posted September 29, 2010 Members Share Posted September 29, 2010 I love this post, thank you for sharing, and I'm glad I found it. I think I stole all your ideas a couple weeks ago without even knowing it during the worst thing in my marriage I have ever experienced, except my husband is saved. It feels so wonderful to move on and think about what lies ahead! It has even made us stronger in our faith. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members irishman Posted September 29, 2010 Author Members Share Posted September 29, 2010 (edited) I love this post, thank you for sharing, and I'm glad I found it. I think I stole all your ideas a couple weeks ago without even knowing it during the worst thing in my marriage I have ever experienced, except my husband is saved. It feels so wonderful to move on and think about what lies ahead! It has even made us stronger in our faith. Praise the Lord! Thank you Lisa for the post. I sometimes get a bit discouraged, and wonder if anyone cares or if it even matters. Thank you for that encouragement. Edited September 29, 2010 by irishman Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members lettheredeemedsayso Posted May 25, 2011 Members Share Posted May 25, 2011 I was planning on posting this tomorrow, but just couldn't wait! Hope it can be of use to someone. We need to seek out principles for restoring relationships, and remember that love always prevails. 1. Reminisce about past shared experiences. Remember the “good old days”. Times spent, things done together. 2. Don’t be afraid to “eat crow”. Swallow your pride. --Pride is destructive; it seldom, if ever, edifies. Why not take the blame for the problem? 1 Cor. 6:7 At least make it right on your end. 3. Build dreams with them! Talk of “better days” ahead; Instill in them a new hope. Find something to compliment them on (Need not lie, everyone has some accomplishment we can compliment them for.) Let them know they are useful--important to you. Excite them toward a better relationship. Even if they spurn your efforts, you have not lost anything! 4. Humble thyself! Control your resentment and anger. Ask yourself “What would Jesus do if He were in this predicament?” Spill your heart out! Explain that you do want to “go on” like this…a little humility goes far. 5. Keep a tear in the corner of your eye. Pray for compassion. One man’s spirit cannot fool another mans spirit; Learn to be sincerely compassionate. A man can often see through insincerity If the offendee is unsaved, it is your obligation to reconcile--not his! (Romans 12:10, particularly the middle part, “as much as lieth within “you,” not “them”. It is your duty to reconcile. Don’t wait for them to make the first move, they probably won’t. Don’t even begin to reconcile until you have prayed for/received a compassionate heart. Only the power of God's love, grace, and forgiveness can restore broken relationships!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members revivedbygrace Posted May 27, 2011 Members Share Posted May 27, 2011 Great Post! Im glad it was bumped up again or I might have missed it! I think we all have someone we need to apply this to. In my case it is a couple of Aunts. Boy is that going to be hard! Makes me glad I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. Jason Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted May 27, 2011 Share Posted May 27, 2011 Yes, I need this and will copy to a doc...with your name attached for future use. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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