A single Pastor, then married to a widow, a new wife, sounds normal to me. But a woman who is just divorced still have her X husband. They can get counseling and maybe work things out. if the woman has children forget about it, and things will never be right. The woman that had a prior boyfriend or romance, but never live with that other person. Can be the wife to a single or widow Pastor. Now, if this woman did live with a man, it doesn’t matter how long, and now she want to marry the pastor. I wouldn’t recommend that this pastor takes her for a wife, for she may still be on fire for the man who hurt her feelings. This man can make the pastor's life miserable. I am not using scripture here for what I am saying, but it is pretty much practical common sense.