Shadowfeathers

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1
“EORRORS OF CALVANISM”
 
Doctrine originated by a man – Did not begin with John Calvin, (1509 – 1564)
It began with “Augustine” - (354-429)
It flourished under Calvin who greatly showed his influence in Catholicism, the Presbyterian church and the Church of Christ, as with others.
Calvanism claims that the Bible itself is the true source of this religious system.
His background was Roman Catholicism, from which his doctrine was greatly influenced, rather than from the Bible.
 
2
Five points of Calvanism
Came about actually 50 years after the death of Calvin.
These five points were first set forth in order as an expression of opposition to the five points of Arminianism.
Calvanism hangs deeply on the doctrine of “Election” - meaning; God choses some to be saved, and others to be lost, and also the doctrine of “Sovereignty” - but does not reveal the reason why.
Calvanism has been summed up by the acrostic T-U-L-I-P.
 
3
T-U-L-I-P
T – Total depravity
U – Unconditional election
L – Limited atonement
I – Irresistible grace
P – perseverance of the saints
 
4
“Amenian doctrine”
1 – Conditional election and reprobation, in opposition to the absolute predestination taught by Calvin.
2 – Universal redemption, or that the atonement was made by Christ for all mankind, though none but believers can be partakers of the benefit.
3 – That man, in order to exercise true faith, must be regenerated and renewed by the operation of the Holy Spirit which is the gift of God.
4 – That man may resist divine grace.
5 – That man may relapse from a state of grace – in opposition to Calvin's doctrine of the perseverance of the saints.
Wesleyans of Great Britain and Methodists of America are Armenian.
 
5
The Contrasts
Armenian = A, Calvanism = C
Depravity: A – Man is depraved, lost, guilty, but has been helped so that he can believe if he will.
Depravity: C – Man is totally depraved. He is dead. Depravity indicates inability.
Man's will is not free, but enslaved by sin.
 
I am a Biblicist, not Calvanist or Arminian. I believe the Bible as Authority, Not John Calvin or Jacobus Arminus.
 
6
Election
A – God elected those whom He foresaw would believe.
C – God's election rested solely in His own sovereign will. It is not based on anything foreseen in man.
Redemption
A – Christ died to provide salvation for all. Those who believe will be saved.
C – Christ died to provide salvation for all and to secure and guarantee salvation for the elect. Faith is necessary to salvation, and faith is certain since the means as well as the end are secured. This is known as particular redemption and sometimes called limited atonement (a poor term).
 
7
Obedience
A – Man can obey the gospel call or disobey and reject. God's grace is not invincible, but can be and often is rejected and thwarted by man.
C – Man can obey the gospel called or disobey, but God makes certain that the inward call to the elect is willingly obeyed. God's plan of election is invincible and will not be thwarted.
Security
A – Believers can lose their salvation. (Armenius was uncertain about this.)
C – True believers (elect) are eternally secure.
 
8
Questions of Mystery!
How can God be sovereign and how can man be responsible?
How can there be responsibility without ability?
How can limits be placed on an infinite sacrifice?
Great preachers have strongly emphasized both divine sovereignty and human responsibility.
You might be surprised that C. H. Spurgeon leaned toward Calvanism, although he strongly disagreed with the doctrine of limited atonement.
 
9
TOTALLY DEPRAVITY
The phrases of Calvanism appear nowhere in the scriptures – Gen. To Rev.
Depravity equals inability. Man, being dead, does not have to ability to believe, or call on God for salvation.
This necessitates both Unconditional Election and Irresistible Grace.
From the canons of Dort declare: “Therefore all men. . .without the regenerating grace of the Holy Spirit. . .are neither able nor willing to return to God. . .nor to dispose themselves to reformation.
This statement is an expression of human opinion without biblical support.
Question: How is it that a person is unwilling to do what he is unable to do?
 
 
10
The Bible teaches that man is morally corrupt (Jer. 17:9. Rom. 3:10-18).
That he is dead in trespasses and sins (Eph. 2:1).
That he is spiritually blind (1 Cor. 2:14).
But is does not teach that man cannot respond to the Gospel.
Just the opposite, the Bible teaches that Christ gives light to every man, (Jn. 1:9)
He draws all men to himself (Jn 12:32),
He convicts men through the Holy Spirit (Jn 16:8).
God calls men to salvation through the gospel, (2 Thes. 2:14),
And He has ordained that the gospel be preached to every creature (Mk. 16:15).
 
11
Unconditional Election
They teach that some are elected by God to go to heaven, and others are elected by God to go to hell.
They use Jn 6:37 - “All that the Father giveth me shall come to me; and him that cometh to me I will in no wise cast out.”
But vs 40 explains vs 37. It is God's will that every one that believes on Christ will be saved.
The ones that the Father gives to the Son are those who believe on Him.
 
12
They use Jn. 6:44
“No man can come to me except the Father which hath sent me draw him; and I will raise him up at the last day.”
A threefold problem: 1 – Christ said He would draw all men to Himself (Jn. 12:32, 1:9)
2 – The Bible says God desires all men to be saved (1 Tim. 2:3-4, 2 Pet. 3:9), those who are rejected are those who reject the truth and do not believe. (2 Thes. 2:10, 12)
3 – God draws men through the gospel (2 Thes. 2:14, and the gospel is to preached to every man. (Mk. 16:15)
 
13
They use Acts 13:48
“And when the Gentiles heard this, they were glad, and glorified the word of the Lord; and as man as were ordained to eternal life believed.”
But verse 46 explains: “Then Paul and Barnabas waxed bold, and said, It was necessary that the word of God should first have been spoken to you: but seeing ye put it from you, and judge yourselves unworthy of everlasting life, lo, we turn to the Gentiles.”
It was because they did not believe, not because they were not chosen.
Calvanism confuses such words as: Election, Predestination, and foreordained.
It is man who “elects” to believe. It is God who predestines all who do believe, to eternal life. It is God who, in His foreknowledge, knows who will believe, and thus foreordains them to eternal life. (Jn. 3:16)
Belief is the key word: (1 Pet. 2:6, Jn. 11:25, Jn. 6:47, Mk. 16:16, Jn. 3:36, Jn. 3:15-18).
Call is another key word: (Rom. 10:13)
 
 
 
14
Limited Atonement
God loves all men (Jn. 3:16)
God desires all men to be saved (2 Pet. 3:9)
God has commanded that the gospel be preached to every person (Mk. 16:15)
Jesus was a ransom for all men (1 Tim. 2:6)
Jesus tasted death for all men (Heb. 2:9)
Jesus provided propitiation for all men (1 Jn. 2:2)
Jesus bought even unsaved false teachers (2 Pet. 2:1)
The iniquity of all men was laid on Jesus (Isa. 53:6)
If the first part of Isa. 53:6 is universal, the second part can not be limited.
 
15
Irresistible Grace
 
It is clear that God extends Grace to all men, but it is man who rejected that Grace.
 
Cain for instance: (Gen. 4:6-7)
 
The world before the flood: (Gen. 6:3)
 
Israel of old: (Rom. 10:21)
 
Israel of Christ's day: (Matt. 23:37, Jn. 5:40)
 
Jews of Paul's day: (Acts 13:46)
 
16
Perseverance of the Saints
This, of course, means that one has to persevere in order to stay saved. It is a denial of “eternal security”.
A denial of eternal security, means that salvation depends on man to hold out, rather upon God who gives it. In other words: Eternal does not mean eternal, etc. and grace is not grace.
Eph. 2: 8-9 – We are saved through faith (believing), by the grace of God – not of ourselves.
Faith comes before salvation, (man responds to the conviction of the Holy Spirit, by grace).
Faith comes through hearing, and hearing by the Word of God.
 
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A Summary
If God elects only certain ones to be saved and others to be lost; if one cannot resist the Grace of God, if there is a limit on the atonement made by Christ; there would be no need for Missionaries, no need for the church, no need for preaching the gospel, no need for the great commission, no need for visitation programs, no need for soul-winning, no need for repenting, no need for study the word, no need for printing and handing out tracts, no need for believing.
And God would be lying when he says: “Whosoever will may come”. And, “whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.”
Most Calvanist are probably saved, but just confused on the Scriptures.
 
 
 

Excellent study! Please let your pastor know that we appreciate the time and effort put into the study on Calvinism. I thoroughly agree with the study and want to thank you for bringing it to our attention.  

Neither a necessary question nor an addition to the conversation.

1
“EORRORS OF CALVANISM”
 
Doctrine originated by a man – Did not begin with John Calvin, (1509 – 1564)
It began with “Augustine” - (354-429)
It flourished under Calvin who greatly showed his influence in Catholicism, the Presbyterian church and the Church of Christ, as with others.
Calvanism claims that the Bible itself is the true source of this religious system.
His background was Roman Catholicism, from which his doctrine was greatly influenced, rather than from the Bible.
 
2
Five points of Calvanism
Came about actually 50 years after the death of Calvin.
These five points were first set forth in order as an expression of opposition to the five points of Arminianism.
Calvanism hangs deeply on the doctrine of “Election” - meaning; God choses some to be saved, and others to be lost, and also the doctrine of “Sovereignty” - but does not reveal the reason why.
Calvanism has been summed up by the acrostic T-U-L-I-P.
 
3
T-U-L-I-P
T – Total depravity
U – Unconditional election
L – Limited atonement
I – Irresistible grace
P – perseverance of the saints
 
4
“Amenian doctrine”
1 – Conditional election and reprobation, in opposition to the absolute predestination taught by Calvin.
2 – Universal redemption, or that the atonement was made by Christ for all mankind, though none but believers can be partakers of the benefit.
3 – That man, in order to exercise true faith, must be regenerated and renewed by the operation of the Holy Spirit which is the gift of God.
4 – That man may resist divine grace.
5 – That man may relapse from a state of grace – in opposition to Calvin's doctrine of the perseverance of the saints.
Wesleyans of Great Britain and Methodists of America are Armenian.
 
5
The Contrasts
Armenian = A, Calvanism = C
Depravity: A – Man is depraved, lost, guilty, but has been helped so that he can believe if he will.
Depravity: C – Man is totally depraved. He is dead. Depravity indicates inability.
Man's will is not free, but enslaved by sin.
 
I am a Biblicist, not Calvanist or Arminian. I believe the Bible as Authority, Not John Calvin or Jacobus Arminus.
 
6
Election
A – God elected those whom He foresaw would believe.
C – God's election rested solely in His own sovereign will. It is not based on anything foreseen in man.
Redemption
A – Christ died to provide salvation for all. Those who believe will be saved.
C – Christ died to provide salvation for all and to secure and guarantee salvation for the elect. Faith is necessary to salvation, and faith is certain since the means as well as the end are secured. This is known as particular redemption and sometimes called limited atonement (a poor term).
 
7
Obedience
A – Man can obey the gospel call or disobey and reject. God's grace is not invincible, but can be and often is rejected and thwarted by man.
C – Man can obey the gospel called or disobey, but God makes certain that the inward call to the elect is willingly obeyed. God's plan of election is invincible and will not be thwarted.
Security
A – Believers can lose their salvation. (Armenius was uncertain about this.)
C – True believers (elect) are eternally secure.
 
8
Questions of Mystery!
How can God be sovereign and how can man be responsible?
How can there be responsibility without ability?
How can limits be placed on an infinite sacrifice?
Great preachers have strongly emphasized both divine sovereignty and human responsibility.
You might be surprised that C. H. Spurgeon leaned toward Calvanism, although he strongly disagreed with the doctrine of limited atonement.
 
9
TOTALLY DEPRAVITY
The phrases of Calvanism appear nowhere in the scriptures – Gen. To Rev.
Depravity equals inability. Man, being dead, does not have to ability to believe, or call on God for salvation.
This necessitates both Unconditional Election and Irresistible Grace.
From the canons of Dort declare: “Therefore all men. . .without the regenerating grace of the Holy Spirit. . .are neither able nor willing to return to God. . .nor to dispose themselves to reformation.
This statement is an expression of human opinion without biblical support.
Question: How is it that a person is unwilling to do what he is unable to do?
 
 
10
The Bible teaches that man is morally corrupt (Jer. 17:9. Rom. 3:10-18).
That he is dead in trespasses and sins (Eph. 2:1).
That he is spiritually blind (1 Cor. 2:14).
But is does not teach that man cannot respond to the Gospel.
Just the opposite, the Bible teaches that Christ gives light to every man, (Jn. 1:9)
He draws all men to himself (Jn 12:32),
He convicts men through the Holy Spirit (Jn 16:8).
God calls men to salvation through the gospel, (2 Thes. 2:14),
And He has ordained that the gospel be preached to every creature (Mk. 16:15).
 
11
Unconditional Election
They teach that some are elected by God to go to heaven, and others are elected by God to go to hell.
They use Jn 6:37 - “All that the Father giveth me shall come to me; and him that cometh to me I will in no wise cast out.”
But vs 40 explains vs 37. It is God's will that every one that believes on Christ will be saved.
The ones that the Father gives to the Son are those who believe on Him.
 
12
They use Jn. 6:44
“No man can come to me except the Father which hath sent me draw him; and I will raise him up at the last day.”
A threefold problem: 1 – Christ said He would draw all men to Himself (Jn. 12:32, 1:9)
2 – The Bible says God desires all men to be saved (1 Tim. 2:3-4, 2 Pet. 3:9), those who are rejected are those who reject the truth and do not believe. (2 Thes. 2:10, 12)
3 – God draws men through the gospel (2 Thes. 2:14, and the gospel is to preached to every man. (Mk. 16:15)
 
13
They use Acts 13:48
“And when the Gentiles heard this, they were glad, and glorified the word of the Lord; and as man as were ordained to eternal life believed.”
But verse 46 explains: “Then Paul and Barnabas waxed bold, and said, It was necessary that the word of God should first have been spoken to you: but seeing ye put it from you, and judge yourselves unworthy of everlasting life, lo, we turn to the Gentiles.”
It was because they did not believe, not because they were not chosen.
Calvanism confuses such words as: Election, Predestination, and foreordained.
It is man who “elects” to believe. It is God who predestines all who do believe, to eternal life. It is God who, in His foreknowledge, knows who will believe, and thus foreordains them to eternal life. (Jn. 3:16)
Belief is the key word: (1 Pet. 2:6, Jn. 11:25, Jn. 6:47, Mk. 16:16, Jn. 3:36, Jn. 3:15-18).
Call is another key word: (Rom. 10:13)
 
 
 
14
Limited Atonement
God loves all men (Jn. 3:16)
God desires all men to be saved (2 Pet. 3:9)
God has commanded that the gospel be preached to every person (Mk. 16:15)
Jesus was a ransom for all men (1 Tim. 2:6)
Jesus tasted death for all men (Heb. 2:9)
Jesus provided propitiation for all men (1 Jn. 2:2)
Jesus bought even unsaved false teachers (2 Pet. 2:1)
The iniquity of all men was laid on Jesus (Isa. 53:6)
If the first part of Isa. 53:6 is universal, the second part can not be limited.
 
15
Irresistible Grace
 
It is clear that God extends Grace to all men, but it is man who rejected that Grace.
 
Cain for instance: (Gen. 4:6-7)
 
The world before the flood: (Gen. 6:3)
 
Israel of old: (Rom. 10:21)
 
Israel of Christ's day: (Matt. 23:37, Jn. 5:40)
 
Jews of Paul's day: (Acts 13:46)
 
16
Perseverance of the Saints
This, of course, means that one has to persevere in order to stay saved. It is a denial of “eternal security”.
A denial of eternal security, means that salvation depends on man to hold out, rather upon God who gives it. In other words: Eternal does not mean eternal, etc. and grace is not grace.
Eph. 2: 8-9 – We are saved through faith (believing), by the grace of God – not of ourselves.
Faith comes before salvation, (man responds to the conviction of the Holy Spirit, by grace).
Faith comes through hearing, and hearing by the Word of God.
 
17
A Summary
If God elects only certain ones to be saved and others to be lost; if one cannot resist the Grace of God, if there is a limit on the atonement made by Christ; there would be no need for Missionaries, no need for the church, no need for preaching the gospel, no need for the great commission, no need for visitation programs, no need for soul-winning, no need for repenting, no need for study the word, no need for printing and handing out tracts, no need for believing.
And God would be lying when he says: “Whosoever will may come”. And, “whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.”
Most Calvanist are probably saved, but just confused on the Scriptures.
 
 
 

Ok now I see, I'll post it in a new thread. thank you :)

I meant that you could start a thread. If you aren't sure how to do that, just go ahead and post your study here. Since it's long, if you break it up into different posts, it will be easier to read. I'm interested in reading it. 

I have a KJB dictionary put out by Cloud. It's been years since I've really used it, but it was helpful at one time.
Myself, I don't get much out of consulting the Greek or Hebrew. I tend to get more out of comparing Scripture with Scripture and spending time in prayer if I'm trying to figure something out. Or, I can just ask here and usually receive plenty of help!
At the same time, I know some folks who do find delving into the Greek or Hebrew to be helpful.
Whatever approach suits a person best. I know my method of study for tests back in university was very different from almost everyone else, and among the "everyone else" they had a variety of methods, but what I did worked for me while trying some of their methods I found unhelpful.

That's why in so many of our churches only a handful of people are actively involved. The same small group of people must tend to what needs done because the rest of the congregation is like the above.

Nothing beats a plain sugar cookie! No frills, no nuts, just... well, sugar cookie. 
"If it ain't homemade, is it even real?!"
without further ado, 
Old Fashioned Sugar Cookes (makes a few dozen cookies, depending on the size/thickness):
Ingredients:
3 1/2 cups all purpose flour
1 1/2 teaspoon salt
2 teaspoon baking powder
1 cup butter (softened) 
1 1/2 cups granulated sugar
3 eggs
1 teaspoon vanilla extract 
Directions:
Combine flour, salt, and baking powder in bowl and set aside. Combine butter and sugar and beat until creamy. Add agges one at a time and beat well; add vanilla and combine. Stir in dry ingredients until combined. Refrigerate dough for at least one hour. Preheat oven to 350F. Roll out the dough on a lightly floured surface to desired thickness. Cut with a cookie cutter. Bake for 10-15 minutes on lightly greased baking sheets.
 
Your Sister in Christ,
Claire
Titus 2:1-5

3/4 cup Genesis 18:8 1 1/2 cup Jeremiah 6:20 5 Isaiah 10:14 (separated) 3 cups sifted Leviticus 24:5 3 teaspoons 2 Kings 2:20 3 teaspoons Amos 4:5 1 teaspoon Exodus 30:23 1/4 teaspoon each 2 Chronicles 9:9 1/2 cup Judges 4:19 3/4 chopped Genesis 43:11 3/4 cup finely cut Jeremiah 24:5 3/4 cup 2 Samuel 16:1 Whole Genesis 43:11
  Instructions:
Cream Genesis 18 with Jeremiah 6. Beat in yolks of Isaiah 10, one at a time. Sift together Leviticus 24; 2 Kings 2; Amos 4; Exodus 30; and 2 Chronicles 9. Blend into creamed mixture alternately with Judges 4. Beat whites of Isaiah 10 till stiff; fold in. Fold in chopped Genesis 43; Jeremiah 24; and 2 Samuel 16. Turn into 10-inch tube pan that has been greased and dusted with Leviticus 24. Bake at 325 degrees F until it is golden brown or Gabriel blows his trumpet, whichever happens first. Bake for an hour and ten minutes. Remove from oven.  After fifteen minutes, remove it from the pan. Cool completely. Drizzle over it some Burnt Jeremiah Syrup.
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BURNT JEREMIAH SYRUP
Ingredients:
1 1/2 cups Jeremiah 6:20 1/2 cup Genesis 24:45 1/4 cup Genesis 18:8 Instructions:
Melt Jeremiah 6 in a heavy skillet over low heat. Keep cooking it till it is a deep gold, then add Genesis 24. Cook till smooth and remove from the heat. Add Genesis 18 and stir till it melts, then cool. After drizzling this on the Scripture Cake, you can decorate it with whole Genesis.
   
THE SCRIPTURE CAKE:

Genesis 18:8 “And he took butter, and milk, and the calf which he had dressed, and set it before them.”

Jeremiah 6:20 “To what purpose cometh there to me frankincense from Sheba, and the sweet cane from a far country.” (Sugar)

Isaiah 10:4 “And my hand hath found as a nest the riches of the peoples; and as one gathered eggs that are forsaken, have I gathered the earth.”

Leviticus 24:5 “And thou shalt take fine flour, and bake twelve cakes thereof.”

2 Kings 2:20 “And he said, Bring me a new cruse, and put salt therein.”

Amos 4:5 “And offer a sacrifice of thanksgiving of that which is leavened, and proclaim free will offerings and publish them.” (Baking Powder)

Exodus 30:23 “Take thou also, unto thee the chief spices; of flowering myrrh five hundred shekels, and of sweet cinnamon half as much.”

2 Chronicles 9:9 “And she gave the King a hundred and twenty talents of gold, and spices in great abundance.”

Judges 4:19 “ And he said unto her, Give me, I pray thee, a little water to drink; for I am thirsty. And she opened a bottle of milk and gave him drink.”

Genesis 43:11 “Carry down the man a present, a little balm, and a little honey, spicery and myrrh, nuts and almonds.”

Jeremiah 24:5 “Thou saith Jehovah, God of Israel: Like these good figs, so will I regard the captives of Judah whom I have sent out of this place into the land of the Chaldeans, for good.”

2 Samuel 16:1 “And when David was a little past the top of the assent, behold, Ziba, the servant of Mephiboseth met him, with a couple of asses saddled, and upon them two hundred loaves of bread, and a hundred clusters of raisins.

Genesis 24:45 “And before I had done speaking in my heart, behold Rebekah came forth with her pitcher on her shoulder; and she went down to the fountain, and drew: and I said unto her, Let me drink, I pray thee.”

 

This is very sad, I'm still praying for her. 

​I'm on our Board of Christian Education so I know the frustration and difficulty our pastors face in dealing with this. No matter what need or position we have to fill it seems like the list of available and willing people to consider has the same names on it each time and each person can only be stretched so far.

This is a story about four people named Everybody, Somebody, Anybody and NOBody.
There is an important jOB to be done and Everybody was sure Somebody would do it.
Anybody could have done it, but NOBody did it.
Somebody got angry about that, because it was Everybody's jOB.
Everybody thought Anybody could do it, but NOBody realized that Everybody wouldn't do it.
It ended up that Everybody blamed Somebody when NOBody did what Anybody could have done.
 
Enjoy 
G'day y'all

This is a story about four people named Everybody, Somebody, Anybody and NOBody.
There is an important jOB to be done and Everybody was sure Somebody would do it.
Anybody could have done it, but NOBody did it.
Somebody got angry about that, because it was Everybody's jOB.
Everybody thought Anybody could do it, but NOBody realized that Everybody wouldn't do it.
It ended up that Everybody blamed Somebody when NOBody did what Anybody could have done.
 
Enjoy 
G'day y'all

Yes, I plan on having it work with tapatalk, but that prOBably will not happen until a couple of weeks.

Hello i am from North Carolina also and i am new and looking for likeminded friends. i am really happy to be here! Go with God! =)

Cans of kidney beans were on sale so decide make chilli

You raise some good points which do need to be addressed in some churches. This is a better worded post than your first one as you at least acknowledge there are some good churches out there.
 
In this area, the IFB churches which have gone a bad direction have gone the way of liberalism rather than legalism. Still, just as one can't give the impression that all, or even most IFB churches are liberal, one can't rightly do the same with regards to the issue of legalism.
 
Our pastor did recently address the prOBlem of a few certain churches which say they believe in salvation by grace through faith but in practice it appears more works based. They continually tell others if they are not keeping certain rules or laws that must mean they aren't saved. One church even claimed any man wearing a colored shirt (non-white) to church was in sin. They went so far as to have several white shirts available so if any man did enter their church wearing a non-white shirt they could tell them they had to change shirts during their time there or leave.
 
I fully agree we need to address whatever prOBlems our church may have. Sometimes it's good to sound a warning about particular churches. However, we have to be careful not to condemn a whole set of churches, or members of such churches based upon what some do wrong.
 
I've been in and seen some churches take bad turns. I've attempted, in the churches I was attending at the time, to shine light upon the prOBlem with the aim of good correction.
 
Praise God, even when churches have gone bad, the Lord has always guided me to a good church home.
 
It's so important that we pray for our pastors, church leaders, the members and congregation. The world and the devil are eager to destroy our churches and we must be on guard and prayed up against such.

If your book were about one particular IFB church, how that church took a bad turn and written to help others avoid such happening in their church, using Scripture as the guide, then perhaps such a book would be of benefit.
 
However, your book sounds to be about you having been in an IFB church that took a bad turn so now you want to denounce all IFB churches. The fact the "I" stands for "Independent" should be kept in mind for all IFB churches are unique to one degree or another and none are bound together by any organization, convention or constitution.
 
We live in a fallen world filled with fallen people subject to sin. Nothing is perfect in this world. While one can find some IFB churches which aren't what they should be, one can also find many more that are very good.
 
Scripture says when dealing with wayward brethren our goal should be restoration, not attack, not condemnation. Your book doesn't seem to have that biblical goal in mind and is therefore flawed and out of line with Scripture even as you claim your IFB church was.
 
I pray you will forgive those who have hurt you and disappointed you. May you spend time in the Word and come to view the matter as Christ says we should. Forget that which is behind and press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus. (Philippians 3:13-14)