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JimsHelpmeet last won the day on May 26 2014

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  1. I think you have to judge the overall "climate" of your area. I've found that upper-middle class neighborhoods tend to be the least open to receiving a knock on the door and being presented with the Gospel. Our head deacon used to go door-to-door witnessing in New Orleans back in the 1980s. In the heart of Catholic Voodoo country. For every ten doors slammed in his face or dogs sicced on him, he would have one person who was grateful to find out there was a local church with a bus ministry or to hear about the plan of salvation. Honestly, if an IFB preacher showed up on my doorstep, we might just have revival on my front porch LOL. I grow so weary of the JWs, Mormons, and kids in flip flops and cut-off shorts advertising the local laser light rock show church showing up at my door. Of course, I realize not everyone would be quite so eager to have a believer knocking on their door. Personally, I don't think women going out soulwinning without their husbands is a prudent idea. I'm not even sure it's biblical. I had a gun pulled on me once while going out on visitation with the youth group I was in as a teen. I see the JW ladies out about every other week and it seems so unsafe. My husband and I like to leave tracts written in Spanish at the laundromats. We have a fairly large Hispanic Catholic population in our area, so it's nice to be able to cut through the language barrier and reach them in a sort of indirect way.
  2. I had no idea. I always thought they were IFB, since all of their advertisements are for IFB churches
  3. I'm seeing a lot of things lately that are disheartening. Our church just isn't seeing growth. In fact, a lot of key families have left just in the past two years and it's really hurt the church. It's keeping with a sad trend, though. The Southern Baptist Convention reported another record loss in membership and baptisms. It's not just IFB churches being hit hard. It's all churches that aren't liberal laser light rock shows with trampoline rooms for the kids and coffee bars for the grown-ups.
  4. My dad was so heartbroken when Ray Boltz "came out" as a sodomite. My dad's entire track repertoire was Ray Boltz, because they have the same range. My dad sang "Thank You", "Watch the Lamb", "The Anchor Holds", "Scars". He and I are in a similar position when it comes to trying to find accompaniment tracks for singing special music (his range is Ray Boltz, mine is more like Sandi Patty's). We don't have a full-time pianist at church, so oftentimes we have to use "canned music" to play when we sing hymns. It gets really hard for me to find decent music these days
  5. That is the one, but ours are older. What an odd thing for them to do. I wonder why such an otherwise sound organization remove the word "repentance". Puzzling.
  6. My dad was in a Southern Gospel quartet, so I'm a little biased on this topic. I think there are different types of Southern Gospel, the two most notable would be the kind performed by secular artists (like Alan Jackson or Elvis Presley) and it sounds like honky tonk music, and the kind that is sung by people in the Southeast accompanied only by a piano, but the singers sound "country", just by their accents. I'm not opposed so much to music that has a beat one can clap to. It's music that makes you want to sway seductively that is a prOBlem. I get no such feeling from much of the Southern Gospel music, to be quite honest. Now, I will say we must be careful. Southern Gospel artists are sometimes no more holy than their CCM counterparts. There have been sex scandals, drug and alcohol abuse, pride, greed, immodest dress, long hair on men, ecumenical beliefs, etc. in Southern Gospel, so we should be very careful about who we listen to. Bear in mind, I am very, very choosy. There are very few Southern Gospel groups that pass my "test", and they are locally based. One is the Scenic Land Quartet. They have performed at our church several times.
  7. It truly is disgraceful, and I think it reflects poorly on the preacher's ability to minister to the congregation through the reading, and teaching, of the Word. When you have to use music either as a "filler" or, as in cases of contemporary non-denominational churches and charismatic ones, a means to whip the audience into an emotional frenzy to create a false spirit of being under conviction you have a serious prOBlem. And, in many churches, it's a pride thing. When you have a church that can boast the "choir of 150" or "we have a professional singer at our church" or "everyone who comes here just goes on and on about the music" it does give the church leaders' egos a boost. Congregational hymns should be a way for the body of believers to lift their voices, in one accord, and make a joyful noise unto the Lord. When you're using a good hymn book, the lyrics are usually either straight from the King James Version Scriptures, or at least doctrinally sound. Our church uses the hymnals sold through Sword of the Lord. If you have special music, it should set the tone for the message. It should get people's hearts and minds prepared to receive the sermon. You can always tell the churches who put more emphasis on musical performance and stage smoke than preaching the Word. All one has to do is read the reviews on their Facebook page. If more than half are in praise of "the awesome music!", be wary.
  8. Amen to that! At our church we sing three congregational hymns and usually one special, if a soloist is available. We have a choir, but we don't do choir specials. At the big church we did one special call to worship, five congregationals, one hymn was sung while the offering was being collected, we would sing "I'm So Glad I'm a Part of the Family of God" during handshake time, then we would have a choir special, then there would be a solo, then the sermon, we'd sing a hymn of invitation and then sing a closing hymn as everyone filed out. Some hymns would be out of the hymnal, while others were "praise and worship" songs, like "How Majestic is Your Name", "Our God is an Awesome God", or "Lord, I Lift Your Name on High". There was so much focus on music, I reckon the sermon lasted all of fifteen to twenty minutes.
  9. I'm in this same spot, Brother. I started singing special music in church at the age of 17. This was a large "first Baptist" church. Typical Sunday morning turnout for the first service being around 500 people, with another 80 or so seated in the choir loft. Just being in the choir required passing an audition. The process through which you were granted special status as a soloist was brutal. I was critiqued, ridiculed, critiqued some more. I had to practice an additional hour after choir practice. I had to have all solos approved by the pastor ahead of time, because they had to match the topic of the sermon. One time my track messed up in the sound room and I had a back up cassette tape. I got a tongue lashing after the service for changing the song to something that wasn't "sermon appropriate". I remember after singing a solo one Sunday morning the pastor got up after I sang and said, in front of the entire congregation, "You have potential. I imagine you'd actually have a good voice if you'd take vocal lessons". The music minister once told me if I couldn't stop "sounding like the tornado siren" I would have to be bumped down from 1st Soprano to 2nd. After singing became such a performance art where perfection was expected of you every single time I got burnt out. I quit singing. I sang a Mother's Day special at a friend's church once when I was 23 as a favor, and didn't sing a solo again until this past Resurrection Sunday. I'm 33 years old. I sing about once every four to five weeks, if we go on a regular rotation. My biggest thing is that I never want my singing to become "The Jennifer Show", especially since my dad is the music leader at our church. It makes me very uncomfortable when I'm approached by people after the service and they gush, "you're the best singer this church has ever had! You should record a CD!" We have a handful of very talented singers who love singing for the Lord. We simply all have different vocal styles, is all. I never, ever want to feel like it did at the big fancy church where the other soloists bore holes into your back with the stink eye the entire time you're singing. It was awful!
  10. I can empathize with your inner struggle, Brother, because after some irritating "confrontations" online (not here) I've realized that the internet in general has more often rOBbed me of my peace, joy, and time than it has edified me and strengthened my faith and knowledge of the Scriptures. Hold fast to the Lord and if I don't see you back here on OB, we shall meet again in Glory. God bless, Swath.
  11. Arbo, I think most of us are discussing how there were words we used growing up that are now considered "offensive". Words like "handicapped" and "lame". Do you believe it's wrong to call gays and lesbians sodomites? Perhaps you could share with us what about this thread is bothering you?
  12. Oh, it's crazy in Sweden. You can have your IP traced and can be prosecuted for hate speech if you say negative things about sodomites or Muslims on the internet.
  13. Sister LuAnne raises an interesting question. What of a pastor who has raised two children and one passes away? I'm really not trying to twist Scripture out of context to suit any sort of agenda, as I have no horse in this race. My husband has never been called to the ministry and he isn't qualified anyway, being a divorced and remarried man. We are both at peace being used for God's purposes in whatever capacity is scripturally available to us. But I'm concerned about those who have already endured the pain of childlessness, and not by their choosing, being excluded from church leadership roles. I can understand if there is an unwillingness to procreate, but I'm speaking of cases where the couple is physically incapable. I am curious about adoption, as I was under a pastor once who had one biological child, and one adopted. Also, would this be something the church could put to a vote? If a pastor was unable to procreate, or he had one child who had left the faith as an adult, should he be allowed to pastor the church if the board of elders, and congregation, saw he was otherwise fit to lead and voted to keep him on as pastor?
  14. Well, I would have stated it that way, but "European" is such a broad term and I would hate to offend someone from Wales with a term that could imply they are from Ireland.
  15. I guess I don't understand that, and I cannot find that the Scriptures support this. Basically a married man in his thirties, who has been married since he was in his twenties, and he and his wife have actively opened their hearts to whatever blessings, in terms of children, God wants to bless them with, yet they have not conceived children, does that mean he cannot be ordained as a pastor or deacon? What if they are foster parents? Would that count? Adoption?
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