Single Status Update
I Timothy 3 states that one of the qualifications of a, "bishop," is to be," the husband of one wife." In 2016, does that relate sole to the pastor of a local church or does that apply to those on the pastoral staff such as, "youth pastors/ directors?"
Second question I would have, as Baptists , what does the Bible have to say on the process of finding a wife. What would you say to a marriage minded young man who believes he's called to ministry on this topic of finding a wife. I also would ask because, as someone who is a first generation Christian, this is not something I have really been able to gain solid Biblical counsel on, so few are willing to touch it as its controversial, dating/ courtship, etc.If you were a youth pastor, college/ singles ministry director working with someone who didn't exactly come up in the Christian school/ Bible college/ Baptist church to pursue what I have heard preached many times as, "the second greatest blessing after salvation?"
I ask this because, in the evangelical world, such as boundless.org (Focus on the Family) and other sites, men are being shamed for not dating, etc extended adulthood, I believe Cary Schmidt wrote a book on this topic of extended adolescence. And with the trends of co-habitating, homosexual "marriage," fornication, divorce, single parenthood on the rise, etc. Census showed a while back that singles are now a majority of this country, how can we as the church, not only defend the institution of marriage, the family, and the home for those who already have it, but help young people who desire those things to get ready for those thing and provide them opportunities to meet, mingle, and serve and serve others with one another?
Not trying to cause controversy, but these are things that, as a young man having a burden to work with young people, how could I be a help to them in this area, and also some practical principles in godly communication, etc. that would benefit my own life as well. I appreciate all the wisdom I've found on this site, that's why I've been asking these complex questions like I have. Thank you brothers and sisters.
Personally, I believe the 'husband of one wife' thing is a directive, not a prerequisite. As in, the pastor must not be a polygamist or remarried while a first wife still lives.
I know some that believe it is a prerequisite - that a pastor must be married to be eligible to pastor. However, I don't see them applying that consistently. They don't require a pastor to stop pastoring when his wife dies. They don't require a pastor to have more than one child ("having children[plural] in submission"), or to even have children at all.
I do agree that it is a very good idea for a pastor to be married, for multiple reasons. It would probably be a great help for a youth pastor to be too (and, really, a 'youth pastor' is a pastor, period. There really are not a lot of extra offices given between 'bishop' and 'deacon'). But I don't believe it to be a requirement - and I don't think those who say they do really believe it either - or they would be more consistent.