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    blossom got a reaction from candlelight in Where do we draw the line for IFB?   
    There is another forum that I applied to and gained access to except my computer wont let me, but before they let you join you have to fill out a very detailed questionaire. At the time I thought it was a bit over the top but it sure does stop all of the silliness that goes on between some people on this forum. I'm glad you're looking into it, I've only just come back again because I was tired of the same silly arguments being put forward by people who obviously don't want to learn from the scriptures. It would be nice to cut out the nastiness and just enjoy sweet fellowship with other believers.

    I'm with the having them being able to view the biblical topics and to only comment in the loung forum. If they get fustrated by just viewing then they can choose not to look.
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    blossom reacted to DaveW in Is A Mohawk Sin?   
    1. I would never let my kids have a Mohawk.

    2. The kid is 5 - isn't it possible that he is naively asking for something he doesn't understand, and it actually has nothing to do with rebellion on his part?
    Only Dad can assess that - no-one here can make that assessment remotely.
    Dad - you must determine first what is at the heart of the issue and then the appropriate way of dealing with it becomes apparent.
    Some good advice already given here, depending on the cause.
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    blossom reacted to Stu Marks in Is A Mohawk Sin?   
    I really like the fact that not being able to give a Biblical reason made you stop and think about it.
    By the way, another reason for kids to NOT do something is because it does not please their parents and loved ones.

    Interesting opportunity to be blatantly honest and Biblical. Making the right decision on this issue sheds loads of light on other correct and Biblical decisions you make. But, since this is not a major deal breaker with God, one way or another, maybe you can simply tell "Johnny", that you aren't sure what The Bible says about it because Mohawks weren't mentioned just like a lot of stuff isn't mentioned like saggy jeans, hats worn backwards, pink hair, ear rings being worn in the nose, and what night is the best night for the midweek church service; Wednesday or Thursday.



    You might want to explore the issues with your son.
    - What is a Mohawk and who started it?
    - Who else is sporting a Mohawk today? By what other identifiers are they known; clothes, habits, type of friends?
    - Why do you want to look this way? "I don't know" is not an answer. It might be that "Johnny" doesn't get to have a Mohawk if he can't sell you on the idea.
    - Who else did you see have a Mohawk lately?
    - What does a good Mohawk hair cut look like?
    - What does a bad Mohawk haircut look like?
    - If you knew that something that you wanted to do wear identified you in a bad way with people you love, would it still be important enough to you to do it anyway?
    - Have you ever thought of starting a new trend and cutting your hair in a diagonal Mohawk and calling it a Myhawk?
    - Let's try it for a week and see if we like you like that.
    - What if it stays that way, would you be ok with that for 20 years?
    - Lets Google images of people with Mohawk haircuts and see what else shows up around it and see if it glorifies The Lord.
    - Do you want a real Mohawk where the rest of the hair is shaved off, or just a fake Mohawk?

    An argument stopper that only works on kids who are close to their parents and don't want to hurt them; "Ya know Johnny, this is one of those things that I can't find anything in writing about but that I feel might not be a good idea, and here's why. (Tell him why, and it needs to be real and convincing. If it does not sound convincing to you, it won't to him either.) Now, if you still trust me, let's do this; we'll try a Mohawk on you for the weekend. But after Sunday night church, we'll even your hair out and talk about it, and go from there."
    As a parent of kids who are now grown with kids of their own, these are the thoughts that went through my head.

    Hope it helps.
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    blossom reacted to Annie in Men and Women appart   
    dskysmine, you are asking some good questions. Because Scripture so clearly prohibits women from holding the pastor/shepherd role within a local church, I believe that women should not seek those kinds of leadership positions. Does that mean that your girlfriend's master's in theolgy is useless? Not at all! If you read Titus 2, you will see how useful women can be in teaching and counseling other women. I have a ministry like that, and it is very fulfilling to serve within the role God has graciously given me.

    Here are some Scriptures which deal with your question:

    Genesis 2: The woman was clearly created to help the man, not the other way round.
    Ephesians 5: The hierarchy is clearly spelled out here: the man/husband is head of the woman, and Christ is the head of the man, and God the Father is the head of Christ.
    I Timothy 2: A woman is not to teach in church, but to remain in silence during the teaching time.

    If you read carefully through the New Testament, you'll begin to see the theme developing along these lines; these passages are just scratching the surface of the issue.
    Titus 2: A woman is commanded to teach and mentor other women in the church.
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    blossom reacted to JerryNumbers in Looking Down On Others   
    I'm locking my topic. the reason, kindofblue has attacked my character & credibility once again, saying that because of the stand I take on schooling, I'm looking down at those who do not believe the same as I.

    I gave the example of the school topic only as an example, for in a topic that I started, my character & credibility was attacked by kindofblue by stating I was looking down on him only because I disagree with his belief about schooling children, them when I pointed this out I was punished by my topic being locked.

    Let it be known that anytime my my belief is different than yours, if you want to disagree with me, that is OK! But please, when you disagree with someone, just disagree, leaving off the character & credibility attacks.

    And yes, when someone says I am looking down on them because the stand I take is not the same as theirs that is an attack on my credibility & character. Furthermore, if you disagree with me, giving your reason for disagreeing with me, I have no problem with that. We can be respectful to one another even when we disagree without attacking each others character & credibility.

    Thank you!
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    blossom reacted to HappyChristian in Looking Down On Others   
    So, are you saying that any burden God gives to anyone automatically makes that a sin for everyone else? Where is that in scripture? And why are you allowed to have the Lord speak to you about something, but don't allow someone else that same courtesy without bludgeoning them about it?

    An example I could give is the television. We do not have one. Because my husband was convicted of owning one before we ever met. It burdened him to see his family spend so much time away from each other in front of the tube. And so he promised God he would never have one in his home. And we never have. So, by your logic, any man on here who has one (I know not all do, but many do) in his home is in sin because my husband was burdened about it for his own family. Sorry, but that just isn't the way it works (and I'm not just talking about watching the tv...I'm talking about OWNING one - so, following that, anyone who owns one must get rid of it...see how illogical that is? And here's a good verse for it: I will set no wicked thing before mine eyes...)

    Yes, fathers are to make decisions on whether or not to follow God's Word or the world. Each individual father, in each individual home. Some fathers make decisions for one thing, some for another (such as tv, in my above example). The case could be made for homeschooling against any other kind of schooling, and scripture could be used effectively. The case could also be made for Christian schooling against any other kind of schooling (including homeschool), and scripture could be used effectively (I've heard it preached, so I know it's done). The case could be made for public schooling as well, using scripture. I know it would be a stretch, but it's there. Like witnessing. Yes, I know of people who send their kids to public school to be a witness to the lost there. And those kids are pretty strong Christians. Do I agree with that? No way - but they aren't my kids.

    This is the point I've been trying to make. It is absolute scripture that each man is to be the head of his home. Yes, under God. That shouldn't even have to be said on a Christian forum. Yes, in line with scripture - again redundant. But no man will do anything just like any other man - else we would just be robots (where scripture is completely clear, we are all to follow in exact formation else there is confusion). If a man, after prayer and scripture searching, cannot honestly say that God is showing him to homeschool or place his kids in a Christian school, then he ought not do so. The burden for training his children in the ways of the Lord then triple or quadruple as he must gear them for the battles they will face every day (just as Rick said in his last paragraph). But, to be quite honest, raising one's children in the nurture and admonition of the Lord is a whole lot harder than just not putting them in the public school. There are casualties in any education scenario we could come up with.

    Rick, I hear you about the debauchery of the public schools. It has gotten much worse since I was in school, 20 years earlier than you. Sad to say, many Christian schools are going the same route - and started when I was still in school...I know because I attended more than one like that. Homeschooling isn't always the answer, either. The answer lies completely in the hands of the father of each home, and if and how he trains his children while they are in his home. It can be done, whatever educational course the family takes. But it takes lots of prayer, work, and consistency.
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    blossom reacted to HappyChristian in Looking Down On Others   
    Absolutely.

    Being passionate about a stand is a good thing, especially when the stand is scriptural - rightly divided. Too often we come to a point in our lives where we've made decisions, believing them to be scriptural based on principles, but then that grace mentioned is absent toward others who haven't seen things the way we do. The unfortunate tendency is to then pummel the person we think is not doing things the way we believe scripture would have everyone in the world do them.

    Certain things in scripture are clear beyond doubt. Other things are not so clear cut. Principles are there to help us, and the Holy Spirit, as our Teacher, will guide us. One principle in scripture does not nullify another principle, but too often we try to create a scenario where that is the case. And we aren't kind about it. And then, too often, when we are called on it, we go on the attack.

    We forget verses like "Let him that thinketh he standeth take heed lest he fall." We are all human, and sometimes tend to forget that we can all fall...

    "Let your speech be alway with grace, seasoned with salt, that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man." There's that word grace - unmerited favor. Salt preserves - and Jesus told us that we are to be salt as well as light. Yes, salt can burn, but if our speech is with grace, the salt we use with our fellow Christians will preserve, not burn (for no purpose...salt in a wound does not heal, it just burns). I find it interesting that God says seasoned with salt, and NOT pepper...

    All too often, we use the excuse that Jesus pulled no punches with His words. And He didn't. But when He was harsh with his words, it was with the Pharisees and Saducees. Not the common folk. He was patient with them.

    We can disagree with each other, and that's fine. But the WAY in which we do it needs to be scriptural just as much as the scripture we quote needs to be in context.
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    blossom reacted to HappyChristian in Looking Down On Others   
    No, what gets topics locked is insufferable attitudes from people. When anyone - whether they are more liberal or more conservative - begins taking conversation beyond the pale, the thread will be locked.

    When David danced before the Lord, I would guess he was showing "liberal tendencies"...and his wife Michal looked on him and despised him in her heart. God didn't judge David, though. He punished Michal by causing her to be childless - because of her contempt toward her husband. All too often, threads become mired down in who is the more spiritual and who isn't spiritual based on one person's (or two or three) opinions on what they think everyone in the world should be doing. That, as I mentioned in the thread I locked which inspired this thread, is a form of pride. I realize that none of us like to be shown that we are being prideful, but it is what it is.

    Christianity today has come so far from what Christ intended - we (and I say that generically) focus on the letter and not the spirit, just like the pharisees. And compassion is driven out...all in the name of "love."

    When we, as adult Christians, cannot have a conversation without proclaiming that one or the other is in some sort of sin because of their actions (with NO scripture to back it up, other than verses pulled out just to support that pet thought), we are indeed guilty of looking down on whomever the target is - and that is the very same contempt Michal had for David.
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    blossom got a reaction from John81 in Oldest Son   
    That's tough John, will continue in prayer.
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    blossom got a reaction from Angelmiss49 in Online Baptist Ladies   
    Thanks for all the work you do to keep it running Bro Matt
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    blossom reacted to Anon in Carnality Test   
    I think you can have every answer on that list answered "perfectly" yet still be proud...still tell lies....still gossip...listen to worldly music and have worldly desires...and be an offense to God and as carnal as can be.

    Or you can own a gun, know a few supermodels (they're only in every checkout line and every internet news headline), watch a bit of tv, have an unsaved friend, own a motorcycle (great on gas! Wise with God's money??) and absolutely have a great relationship with God.

    I don't think I missed the point at all...because the "checklist" isn't a Biblical one.

    The fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, temperance....do we have these things in our lives? Sometimes I think we get so concerned about "looking" right to other Baptists and "acting" right around other Baptists and comparing ourselves among ourselves (which is not wise) that we don't have much love, we have zero joy, we don't have peace, we aren't longsuffering, we aren't gentle or good, we have very little faith, we certainly are not meek, and we only have exterior temperance.

    IFB have a big problem worrying so much about the negatives they forget the positives. (And I can definitely say, myself included.)

    I'm sorry if I came across too harsh...I'm a little cranky and impatient (yep! negative! haha) this week and I don't mean to take it out on a public forum. But I still mean what I say...if maybe I should have said it in a nicer way. :-)
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    blossom got a reaction from jchahl in Carnality Test   
    I've missed the point. I don't see how comparing usage of wordly tools is a measurement of anything. (As kittagirl showed) Much more effective to ask the question based on Godly standards.
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    blossom reacted to 4everHis in Kids   
    I grew up in a pastor's home and am now the wife of a pastor, Kitagrl, so I am very aware by way of experience about which you speak. Sometimes your kids' hearts will be broken. Sometimes your kids won't be able to comprehend why or how their beloved Sunday school teacher or whomever can become someone who speaks ill of their pastor or Dad in a way that is most unjust. Sometimes when your youth pastor takes a turn toward the world and sows discord among the brethren, it can be a source of disillusionment and discouragement. What we have done is to remind our children that we have to keep our eyes on Jesus. It is great to have role models, but sometimes they can disappoint us because they are human. Jesus will never disappoint us. We have to love and forgive. However, sometimes we have to break fellowship (depending on what you are talking about) because that is what the Bible requires. We tell our kids to be mindful of every choice they make since some people may look up to them in the way they looked up to Bro./Sis So and So. We pray together. However, nothing dispels their hurt except time and prayer.
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    blossom got a reaction from John81 in Would you lie for your son or daughter   
    I totally agree with you John. I know lying is wrong and as a rule I don't do it. I would hope that I wouldn't for my kids, it is a valuable lesson for them to learn. I just couldn't not have been put in that position to say categorically NO. I would say now that I wouldn't lie for my kids but saying it and then being in it is two different things. Let's hope and pray that the situation never arises.

    When I was young in the Lord I heard a sermon preached on honesty. He asked if we did something wrong and no one else was around to point the finger at us would we do the right thing and confess. Not even a week later, I was in a hurry to get to Uni and turned too sharp out of a car park in a shopping centre and cracked the headlight on a volvo. No one was around, that message came back to me. I was a broke uni student. I got out of my car wrote a note (leaving name and contact details), strapped it to their windsheild wiper and left. They never contacted me much to my relief. So I know if it was me I would tell the truth. But my kids hmmmmm. You are right about trusting God with them. I hope that comes to my mind if the situation ever arises.
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    blossom reacted to HappyChristian in Does our appearance for Christ make a difference?   
    kob, I just wanted to point something out to you re: the Nazarite vow: Part of the vow was, indeed, that the hair would not be cut. But that was actually time-sensitive. Nazarites took the vow as a vow of separation for a certain period of time (in Samson's, Samuel's, and John's cases, they were called to be life-long Nazarites from the womb). Once the vow was complete, the person who vowed was to come to the priest, have their head shaved and then burned. Man or woman. So, here we have a conundrum. Men who took the vow were to let their hair grow. Women who took the vow were to have their heads shaved at the completion of the vow. In both cases, it was a shame, or humiliation (or humbling).

    2Tim, where do you get the idea that men's hair in Jesus' day was shoulder length? Busts of that time period show us that men's hair was, in actual fact, above the ear.

    As far as the point about the lion and the lioness, in the animal world, we see that the male is always "prettier" than the female. It doesn't happen to be so (or, at least, it's not the norm) for humans.

    As to the comment that we are to judge by doctrine and not appearance...while somewhat true, it is not always so that we do. in fact, God Himself tells us that man looks on the outward appearance. Yes, the teaching in that verse is that, in the modern vernacular, you "can't judge a book by its cover." However, there are 2 things about that: 1. there are times when, yes, you can judge a book by its cover (if there's a naked body on the cover, it's a safe bet that's a book we don't want to be reading...), and, 2. The fact remains that we do indeed look on the outward, so it is important that our outward displays what we believe internally. And it is a fact that what we believe internally will indeed be seen on the outside....
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    blossom got a reaction from HappyChristian in Does our appearance for Christ make a difference?   
    My hair when wet is half way down my back so technically it is long by anyones definition. However when dry it is so curly that it bounces up to just above my shoulders which some call too short. One of my Sunday school kids commented on this. Her Mum then pulled down one of my curls and the child was super suprised. Looks can be decieving and one should know the whole matter before answering to it. My hair is exactly how my husband likes it and that's the way it'll stay.
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    blossom reacted to HappyChristian in What are You Thankful for?   
    I am thankful that we can share our blessings. Even little things that normally we don't look at as blessings can come to mean so much more to us if we just stop and think about how God has worked in our lives.

    The Bible tells us "IN everything give thanks..." That doesn't mean I have to be thankful that my Dad has cancer and may go home earlier than we want him to...but there are so many things IN this trial for which we can be thankful. I went out there for 2 weeks in July after the diagnosis, and got to spend the entire time helping my Grandmother. And then Oct 1 my Grandma died unexpectedly. I don't have to be thankful FOR that, but I can find so much to be thankful IN that. I can look back and see how good God was to use my Dad's cancer as a way for me to spend that time with my Grandma...time I was planning on spending this November, but God knew she wouldn't be there...

    God is good, all the time. And I am so thankful for that. I hope each and every one has a wonderful day tomorrow (I know our friends who are not in America don't have this day set aside, but I still hope you have a wonderful day ).
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    blossom got a reaction from HappyChristian in What are You Thankful for?   
    I am thanful that I can go to my family for Christmas this year. I miss them.
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    blossom got a reaction from HappyChristian in What are You Thankful for?   
    I am thankful for the sermons preachers put on the net for others to access. They have been such a blessing to me.
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    blossom reacted to JerryNumbers in The old man at the garage sale   
    An old man for his very 1st time stopped by a garage sale on his way to town. Back towards the back he saw several old cast iron sinks laying on the ground. He looked at them for a moment, them glanced up at a sign hanging on a rope stretched above them reading it out loud, "Cast Iron Sinks." He thought for a moment, them glance around and said, "Amazing, any fool knows that cast iron sinks."
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    blossom got a reaction from HappyChristian in My Dad's Cancer   
    WIll be praying
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    blossom reacted to John81 in A lawyer, doctor, and preacher...   
    A lawyer, doctor, and preacher went hunting together. When a prize buck ran past them they all fired at the exact same moment and the buck dropped.

    However, there was only one bullet hole and they didn't know which of them shot it. So they took it to the registration center, not knowing who should tag it.

    The agent said, "Let me look at the deer. Sometimes I can figure it out."

    He asked a few questions, examined the deer carefully, and declared, "The preacher shot this buck!"

    Amazed, they all asked how he knew. Stooping down he pointed out the wound, "See here. It went in one ear and out the other."
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    blossom got a reaction from HappyChristian in What are You Thankful for?   
    That's a good one John, I'm thankful my parents are still here too!

    This morning I am thankful for my health. I can walk, talk and hear. Lord let me not take any of these for granted.
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    blossom got a reaction from HappyChristian in What are You Thankful for?   
    I am thankful for my friends online and off. I have good dependable friends and of course the best friend anyone could have the Lord Jesus Christ.
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    blossom reacted to Alimantado in iPhone or Android?   
    If it's a surprise phone you're after, I think this would surprise your hubby even more:

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