I think your first sentence answers your query.
Some observations… You do seem to be giving equal importance to doctrinal and non/doctrinal issues. Nothing against your non-doctrinal choices, but they probably aren’t the first thing to look at in a church. Also, you simply won’t find a non-cultish church where everyone agrees on every everything! Could you, separately, find a community and a church? Although I get it. Speaking as a member of a conservative church that generally shuns the C-vax, I’ve been joking/not-joking for a year about finding ourselves a ghost town to move to.
I would challenge you to reinspect some of your doctrinal beliefs, as they may be mutually exclusive. Finding a modest, conservative church that accepts contemporary music and divorce/remarriage seems a contradiction in terms to me. (Not that they should shun you for your remarriage, but that doesn’t mean it was scripturally okay or that you would be eligible for certain ministries.)