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  1. "They have moved Jim to a new room on the same floor where he will get more Palliative care until he passes. He is unchanged from yesterday. He's breathing comfortably and relaxed. He is still comatose. I won't be giving any more updates in email after this one. I am grateful Jim set in drafts all your emails so I could just update everyone with just one email. He tried to think of everything. But that was his way wasn't it? He was a kind and gentle man. I love him deeply. I will miss him for a very long time. I am going to try very hard to bring him home and make it so he can be buried next to his late wife Macia, I know he really wanted that. I ask that those who pray, pray for me to be able to accomplish that. Linda"
  2. I'm sure this email was hard for Linda to write: "I have set up donations for Jim's burial: To Jim's many friends and family Please know that your support means everything to me as I navigate this painful time. Even though I realized his life was coming to an end after 80 years, nothing prepared me for it happening so soon. We both thought we would have a few more years together. We did not even consider Jim going to surgery and not coming out feeling better and having more energy. However he never woke up. He had several small strokes during the surgery. As you may know by now, he is off life support and being kept comfortable till his body no longer can sustain his life. As hard as this time is, I are still continuing to honor his wishes as to where he is finally laid to rest and where he wanted that to be. Many of you have reached out to me and have asked how you can help me during this time. I really want to honor Jim’s wishes and I plan to do everything I can to make his wishes come true. One of his long standing desires was to be buried next to his late wife Marcia. Someone has donated the plot for him, and another is building a casket. However, it is going to cost around another $5,000 more to actually get him laid to rest. If you are able to, and comfortable doing so, I would really appreciate any donation, big or small, towards fulfilling his desire to be buried next to Marcia. Funds for his funeral cost may be sent to: https://www.paypal.com/pools/c/8WcvSEZEvi Thank you again for your support during this time. With appreciation, Jim Foley’s, wife Linda"
  3. This morning's update from Linda: "I am going to try my best to explain. They took his ventilator out today. It is true Jim hasn't passed away yet. But I want to make it perfectly clear - he will pass away at some point. He isn't "ok". Yes he is breathing comfortably and he is relaxed. But this is because he is heavily drugged with morphine and some other strong drug. He isn't in pain. He is still comatose. That isn't going to change. But because he is breathing on his own, the dying process will be prolonged. They do not have him hooked to an IV. Nor are they feeding him through a tube. They will be moving him to a new unit so he will have more Palliative care. And because he is breathing on his own, it could take up to 3 weeks or more for him to pass. To me, his condition has deteriorated since a few days ago when I saw him. He still responds to them suctioning his mouth out, but it is a much less of a response. He didn't respond to me at all. I don't really think he knew I was there. I really don't know if I will go back until after he is gone to get his belongings. He IS NOT ALONE. Really he isn't, the nursing staff is in and out multiple times a day. And when they do anything to him, they talk to him. What will happen from here on or how long it takes is unknown. But I know in my heart he is getting the best care he can."
  4. Social security needs to be done away with for younger americans. Let them learn to save and take care of themselves rather than trusting a "government" to do it for them. Then, because pols have robbed SS, let THEM get their salaries cut and the "monies saved" go into SS to take care of the current SS receivers who paid into it believing (naively) that it would still be there for them in their retirement. And I say that as one who is receiving their "retirement." But as one who never believed that the government is honorable and my money would be there whne it's time.
  5. Linda, we appreciate your keeping us updated. While we never met in person, I enjoyed knowing Jim via this forum. He was a godly example and a good administrator. I know he prayed for my family during various hard times, and that has always been a blessing to my heart. We (my hubs and I) are so very sorry for the results of this journey...other than we know that Jim will be in Glory, whole, and waiting for you. We will continue to keep you in our prayers as you walk this path. God bless you and your family, Linda.
  6. Please pray especially harder for Linda and their kids. Received this an hour ago. Any messages you might have for Linda, please post them here or pm them to me and I will relay. "This email is very hard for me to write and send. But it makes me feel better to be able to voice (write) this. Over the last few months before Jim had his surgery - in my grief now - I had forgotten. In Jim's prayers, that I heard, he often dwelled on his home in heaven and distinguished it from his home in heaven and his home on earth. To most people that may not mean anything, but for me, it told a lot. He had never really done that before a few months ago. Now that he is not waking up, the doctors have their reasons why. His brain is severely damaged by the stroke. If he did wake up it is likely that he wouldn’t be able to see, speak, feed himself, or breathe on his own. He has also developed an infection (Pneumonia) in his lungs. But I think there is an added reason - he doesn't want to wake up. He really has nothing to look forward to, he hated what the neuropathy was doing to him and it was getting worse, to the point that at some point he wouldn't have been able to do anything but sit in his chair and wait to die, which he felt he was already doing. I really think he was ready to go months ago, long before he knew about his heart problem. Even though he did have great hope that he would recover from his surgery and feel better and have more energy. I also feel he was torn between the desire to die and leaving me a widow. But there is also that he felt trapped in his body. So I have decided that I will let him die peacefully. I think he has a few more days before he has to have the stomach feeding portal installed. I am going to tell them not to. It will also be at that time I will have them remove his ventilator so he can pass peacefully. There really is no hope he will recover, but even if there was - recover to what? To continue his neuropathy deterioration? I really think he doesn't want that, and is one reason he hasn't woke up. I am sorry, so very sorry. Not just for me, but for him, his family, and his close friends. I also know he loved his children dearly. I don't know the exact date they will do this, but it will happen soon. I will go and see him one last time tomorrow and say my goodbyes. I cannot bear to watch him die. This is the hardest thing I have ever had to do. But he would not want to live like this, and I am abiding by his wishes. Please know, my heart goes out to you."
  7. Not so good news... "I am sad to say I misunderstood the nurse yesterday. He isn't on a C-pap. it is just a setting on his ventilator that they have set. I am sorry for giving the wrong information and getting everyone's hopes up. There really isn't any change. Linda"
  8. I don't think it's wise for a young person to trade services, but for someone who is steady in the faith like Invicta, it could be a tool. JW's as a general rule meet 2 times per week, Friday or Saturday being a day many choose (as well as Sun am). So someone could visit a JW service and still not miss their own. It would have been interesting to hear his reaction to your pastor's message, Invicta. Good for you to be upfront with him about beliefs. lI
  9. The power of prayer, as Linda said. Thank you, friends, for lifting our brother and his wife to the Lord. It means more to her (and to him) than we can really know (unless we've been in that situation).
  10. Some good news: "I talked to Jim's nurse a few minutes ago. As of this morning they have him on a C-pap. He is breathing on his own, and the oxygen is just for back up. Linda"
  11. Here is the latest: "As I said last night I spoke with the Neurologist yesterday. The neurologist had another CT scan performed yesterday afternoon. The results show that he experienced several strokes to various areas of his brain during surgery. What the Doctor does not know yet is the extent of damage done to those areas of the brain. The neurologist cannot evaluate the brain damage until Jimmy wakes up from the coma. If he does wake up, then the Doctor will have a better idea of the extent of brain damage. I wish I could give more concrete answers but we just don’t know yet. The Doctors said his condition is very serious but we can only wait to see if he wakes up to know more. I won't be sending any more updates until we actually know more than this. Linda"
  12. Sorry I didn't add this update earlier - we were at a discipleship meeting. It doesn't sound good, but here is what Linda said: "I did talk to the neurologist. But give me a little bit to digest the information I received, so I don't give it to you wrong. I will get back to you tomorrow. Please be patient with me. I will say there is some chance he might somewhat recover, but it would not be soon. The stroke did occur during his surgery."
  13. The neurologist has been with Jim for about an hour. Linda will let us know when there is news.
  14. We strive to be equally friendly to all. And we do fellowship as much as we can. Just today, we celebrated the return of our Sunday School kids. For reasons that are their own, they moved and we couldn't find them. They have been gone since May. God moved and brought them back to us today! So I thought a little celebration was in order. We were just going to do it in Sunday School, but their mom came with them today, so I asked my hubs if we could just share the cake with everyone. So after church, we had chocolate cake and strawberry cake (the favorites of the kids). And we chatted and just had a good time.
  15. Update from this morning: "As of today there is still no change. I asked the nurse to have his doctor call me. We are trying to get an MRI to see how much damage the small strokes have done. He has an implant in his back for his neuropathy, which is metal. They are trying to determine if it would be safe for Jim to get the MRI. I will let you all know when I learn anything more. Linda" @DaveW, this is her response to the message and link: " Thank you so much for your message and yes he does love acapella music! Because he is hard of hearing he turns it up real loud! lol. Again thank you Linda"
  16. What Bro. Tony said is true, TGL...and any scientist who's worth his salt will admit it. Climate is cyclical. If you can find it, go back and look at the records from when they began recording weather and you'll see that it's the truth. There have been times when the earth has "cooled" (by VERY few degrees) and times when it has "warmed..." But politicians found out how to capitalize on it (read: Al Gore and Newt Gingrich) and began in the 70s to call it global cooling. However, by the 90s they saw a change, so they called it warming. Then they realized how foolish they looked when places that normally didn't get a lot of snow were dumped on...so they changed it to climate change. They are not referencing the fact that climate changes and is cyclical. No, no. What they mean is that man is destroying the ozone (and they cite the ozone hole - which grows and shrinks as God set it up to do). Cows are destroying the ozone...which is why the FDA just approved Bill Gates' fake meat...get rid of the cows and make lab grown meat cuz climate change. It is a political tool made to fool people. Again, do some research. It truly is fascinating stuff to see how VERY LITTLE the temps of the earth have actually changed since recording began. I do believe the climate changes. God said it did. He calls it summer, winter, springtime, and harvest. And He promised that those seasons - those climate changes - would continue while the earth stands. I'm not against the cyclical changes of climate...I'm against the liars trying to destroy our earth by pushing their agenda and making us pay for it.
  17. I have passed on the message and the song. Thanks, Dave...I know she'll appreciate it (as will Jim).
  18. There is actually only one unpardonable sin: and that is rejecting Christ (the Bible calls it blaspheming the Holy Ghost...one blasphemes Him when one completely rejects Christ). Here's a suggestion for a study on things, TGL. Find all the abominations listed in the Old Testament, and then find where in the New Testament we are taught to avoid them. You might be surprised how many things there are...if it's an abomination in the Old, it is still so in the New even if it's not called that...because Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, today, and forever.
  19. Experience and knowledge are not prejudice. And I didn't say all megas are as I described - I said WHEN I THINK of megas - bit of a difference...but by far most are. "Your day" is pretty basically the same as mine, since I am only a couple years older than you. I attended large churches...but the term "mega" didn't become a thing until the 80s (please note that I am not saying there weren't large -- and I mean more than 750+ -- churches before them, because I'm not). And I'm not discounting anything. By the very definition of "mega," there's no such thing as smaller ones. I'm not really interested in an argument, as terminology can be subjective. But I will stand by the fact that the 3,000 souls were not added to a "mega" church. The definition of mega includes the idea that said church offers EVERYTHING to it's members and attendees - schools, entertainment, etc., etc. (I didn't make up that definition, BTW) The first church did nothing like that. Hence, it was not, by definition, mega.
  20. We had Mexican last night. Nachos, to be specific. Nummo! Our ladies are meeting for lunch today at Applebee's. Even though it's so early, usually when I have lunch out I'm not hungry for dinner. I'm sure hubs will have his usual massive plate of veggies (raw...he likes to crunch lol).
  21. There are things God calls abominations to Him...which would make some sins "bigger" than others, IMO. And I don't think anyone would argue that all sins are forgiven upon salvation, TGL.
  22. I don't believe that the 3,000 souls added to the church would qualify as mega in current terminology. When I hear mega church, I don't just think large church. I think modern, feel-good, raunchy atmosphere/music, doing all they can to bring in whomever, sometimes regardless of salvation. But that's just me. heehee And we are one VERY small church that won't be closing. ?
  23. Brother Jim's surgery is complete. I will post updates here as I get them from his wife. Please be sure to pray for her as well. First - "I am beyond exhausted, but I know many are waiting to hear how Jim's surgery went. The surgery went very well. They ended up doing a quadruple bypass. The Doctor said his heart was like brand new in how it functions now ? - However, the last I heard he hasn't woke up. They did a CT scan to see if there was anything wrong that would keep him from waking up. But they said they didn't know how long it would be before the doctor would read them and get back to me. So, I chose to go home because we have a dog that needs taken care of and the hospital doesn't like people to sleep there. I will update you all further, but I have to get some sleep. I will call before I fall asleep to see if the doctor has looked at them. I will update as soon as I know. If I don't update within an hour there is no news to tell." An hour later - "Ok, the doctor called. The ct scan shows he has had some small multiple strokes on both sides of his brain. But it doesn’t show how old they are. But this may be why he isn't waking up. They are treating him like they would if he had just had a stroke. They are also going to do an MRI soon." A few minutes ago - "I just got through talking to the nurse. There are no changes. I will call in every morning to check on him. And if there are any changes the nurse will call me. At this point they said his no waking up would probably be because of the stroke." Hospital Address: Asante Rogue Regional Medical Center 2825 E. Barnett RdMedford, OR 97504 He is in Room 2011. Jim Foley. If you want to send a card.
  24. I am so sorry, Invicta. I honestly don't know what I would do.
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