Members Reformation Man35 Posted September 30, 2009 Members Share Posted September 30, 2009 I figured the title of this thread would get some attention. I hope it does. I am calling out all married men here on this post. Not attempting to be rude or mean. Just encouraging. Many a men have taken the leadership role of the home and bent it to their own sinful domination over their wives. We claim that just because we are head of our households, it means that we are to whip our wives into submission. Which is unbiblical and down right sin. I believe with my whole heart that as married men, we are to be the head, the leaders in our home. Which is biblical. Yet many times we forget that we are called to love our wives as Christ loved the Church and gave himself up for her. In pratical terms, our wives being wired differently than ourselves, have different needs. So, I just wanted to encourage you today, if you haven't told your wife in awhile that she was beautiful, or maybe gotten her some flowers, held her hand, taken a walk etc. Do that today. Lord knows she needs it, and deserves it! Recall how she has been by your side and encouraged you when you were in a bad mood, worried about something. So, take some time today and let your special partner know how much you love her. In God's Graces, Vince Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Reformation Man35 Posted October 1, 2009 Author Members Share Posted October 1, 2009 Hello, I hope you families are finding your day going well. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Anon Posted October 2, 2009 Members Share Posted October 2, 2009 It got quiet in here!!!! *looking around, feeling I prOBably shouldn't be in here....exiting quickly* haha. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Reformation Man35 Posted October 2, 2009 Author Members Share Posted October 2, 2009 Haha, do you think I'm stepping on toes in here Kita? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Reformation Man35 Posted October 2, 2009 Author Members Share Posted October 2, 2009 Well, anyway, I honestly hope your families are doing well today. Me, my wife and my little girl were sitting at a ball game last night. I had so much fun, just sitting there tickling my little girl and being with my family. May the Lord continue to change us men into godly leaders who are submitting to the love of Christ. May He break down the walls of pride in our hearts. Help us to love our wives as we should Lord! Help us love you like we honestly want to my Lord. In Yesua's name, Amen. Hope you have a graced day in the Spirit. Vince. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members futurehope Posted October 2, 2009 Members Share Posted October 2, 2009 Praise the Lord for the way He is working in your heart and in your life!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Reformation Man35 Posted October 5, 2009 Author Members Share Posted October 5, 2009 Men, God has given me just a conviction today to call it what it is. Not out of boastfulness, but conviction. It is high time we get off of our horses of pride and come down and walk with our wives. For too long we have destroyed our wives with our pride and being unloving. We have taken the spiritual leader for meaning we must be harsh and overbearing. Yes we must turn the tables of unrighteousness over as Jesus did in the temple, but that doesn't mean destroying our mates. In turn, it does mean some changing on our womens parts as well. We so easily jump on the bandwagon of "yeah, you tell my husband/wife pastor such and such!" when in all reality it takes both of us. Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the Church. Wives, honor your husbands as the head. So, what I really want to share with you men, is that even though we don't feel like it sometimes, take some time and show you love her today. Also, women, show your husband that you honor him and his leadership. Much love. Vince Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members war_eagle Posted October 18, 2009 Members Share Posted October 18, 2009 I figured the title of this thread would get some attention. I hope it does. I am calling out all married men here on this post. Not attempting to be rude or mean. Just encouraging. Many a men have taken the leadership role of the home and bent it to their own sinful domination over their wives. We claim that just because we are head of our households, it means that we are to whip our wives into submission. Which is unbiblical and down right sin. I believe with my whole heart that as married men, we are to be the head, the leaders in our home. Which is biblical. Yet many times we forget that we are called to love our wives as Christ loved the Church and gave himself up for her. In pratical terms, our wives being wired differently than ourselves, have different needs. So, I just wanted to encourage you today, if you haven't told your wife in awhile that she was beautiful, or maybe gotten her some flowers, held her hand, taken a walk etc. Do that today. Lord knows she needs it, and deserves it! Recall how she has been by your side and encouraged you when you were in a bad mood, worried about something. So, take some time today and let your special partner know how much you love her. In God's Graces, Vince Every morning when I wake up, I pray for my wife. I pray three things: For God to show me how to serve her today, for God to show me how to help her to grow in her faith today, and for God to show me how to love her as Jesus loves the church today. It must be working, because we've been married twenty years and she hasn't strangled me yet. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Reformation Man35 Posted October 19, 2009 Author Members Share Posted October 19, 2009 Ha!! excellent post. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members heartstrings Posted October 20, 2009 Members Share Posted October 20, 2009 Well, anyway, I honestly hope your families are doing well today. Me, my wife and my little girl were sitting at a ball game last night. I had so much fun, just sitting there tickling my little girl and being with my family. May the Lord continue to change us men into godly leaders who are submitting to the love of Christ. May He break down the walls of pride in our hearts. Help us to love our wives as we should Lord! Help us love you like we honestly want to my Lord. In Yesua's name, Amen. Hope you have a graced day in the Spirit. Vince. For the record, I show love to my Wife every day; I buy her little things, constantly compliment her on her looks, her acomplishments, including her fine culinary skills, and have always taught my children to do the same..including making sure they respect her and say "YES ma'am" at all times. I open the car door for her, give her back rubs...little things like that. But as the the head of the house, God has ordained that the way my family is ordered, is the man's responsibility. It's also understood around our house, that the King James Bible is the word of God for English speaking people. And the King James Bible says his name is pronounced "Jesus". I mean, when I called on God's name and got saved, I called on "Jesus". And my wife is in full agreement with me on that Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Reformation Man35 Posted November 9, 2009 Author Members Share Posted November 9, 2009 Good afternoon men. I hope you are finding your day well. Many times we men find ourselves blind to our wives needs due to our own selfishness. Which is exactly the opposite of loving our wives as Christ loved the Church. As one who is with you in this process, I hope you are in a position today to take a look at your marrige. Ask yourself if there are areas in your life where you are running over your wife because of your selfish desires. Indeed, there does need to be a balance between doing the things we like and breaking down the intimacy of our marriage. As a brother struggling along with you, I pray you hear me today and join me in my return to loving our precious mate. Let me know how you are doing today. Much love for the brethren. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Reformation Man35 Posted March 25, 2010 Author Members Share Posted March 25, 2010 Dear eager married couples, I hope you are finding your marriage life very prosperous today. I feel nothing is more important in today's world that the restoration of the married life. It isn't easy as we live in today's humanistic and materialistic lifestyle. I wanted to speak with you couples who still are learning each other's tendencies and personalities. Things are not always perfect in our marriages. Yes some couples tend to "get along" with one another better, but sometimes, personalities do clash. That's ok, that will happen sometimes. It's learning each other and how to handles these situations are what is key. God has put you two together for a reason, remember that. Also, remember that He knows that women are men are totally different in their mind sets. Something that has helped my marriage is knowing when to just to give up on being right. Yes, there are certain godly ideas that we must stand firm on, but I'm talking about the menial spats that usually accompany the idea of wanting to prove ourselves right on something. Just let it go! Our lives are too short to spend it arguing with our beloved partner. We spend more energy in being angry and staying angry. It is not worth it. I have said all that so say this. I made it a priority, (most of the time), if my spouse and I are spatting about something menial, to just let it go, go and give her a hug and get over it. In time, this attitude has transferred to my wife. You wouldn't believe the difference it made when I was upset at something and she just came over and gave me a hug and a rub on the shoulder. Anyway, I wanted to share that with you couples still eager to improve your marriages and get the angry monster out. Much love for the brethren. Vince Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Reformation Man35 Posted March 29, 2010 Author Members Share Posted March 29, 2010 I felt like I wanted to post this in this forum because it all comes back to leadership in the home. There are many discussions on the education systme in America. The goverment has done all it can to attemp to produce learning students, but they will fail misserably. No matter how many mandates they put on school teachers and school districts, it is not the schools fault for the uneducation of America's children. It has come down the the breakdown of the family. The seperation of mother and father, the breakdown of the American husband. Satan is accomplishing his goal of ruining the marriage covenant through legalizing homesexuality, allowing homesexuals to adopt, etc. Also, divorce has become as rampid as ever. Yes the divorce rate has gone down, but it is just because couples are forgoing marriage and just living with one another. All the more reason for the American husband to repent and get on our knees for America. You might say, what do I have to get on my knees for? Well, if you don't have anything to pray for in your life, then please pray for the rest of us men and women walking this straight and narrow with you. Much love for the brethren. Vince. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Reformation Man35 Posted April 27, 2010 Author Members Share Posted April 27, 2010 I was reminded today men in my post for another brother, that sin so easily strangles the fire we need to have for our wives. Now this is from personal experience and not from sitting on the sidelines of marriage looking in. Pornography and any kind of sexual lust kills any fire we can give to our mates. This fire, is God's love through us. It is the new man that our wives need. This new man is Spirit led, and a man God loves. We sometimes get caught up in old sins or old habits that are not contrary to JESUS who is our example. We become callous, hard and even unloving. Demanding respect from our mates, when we haven't even shown the LOVE of Christ to our wives. So, I wanted to call you men out today, not out of prideful pious intentions, but as brothers in JESUS. This forum is an excellent way to reach the mind. So, if your living contrary to the Spirit today, repent and ask the LORD to live through you again. We are to be fountains of living water. Much love brothers. Vince Smith. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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