Members ltl Posted January 29, 2007 Members Share Posted January 29, 2007 You all should listen to Paul Washer's sermon on "Dating". It refutes the common stuff called Dating and then pushes for Biblical purpose of marriage, and especially for us guys - the conditions for marriage. It's at a website called HeartCry Missionarywww.heartcrymissionary.com Go look for the sermons section. Be careful though as Washer is a Calvinist, even though his preaching, especially on Biblical repentance, is real solid. Furthermore he uses the NKJV as well. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members anime4christ Posted January 30, 2007 Members Share Posted January 30, 2007 I think the two main qualities a person should have is: 1. Must love God! 2. Should not be lazy and love to work. Of course, there are a lot of other things I would like as well, but I think those are the most important. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ltl Posted February 24, 2007 Members Share Posted February 24, 2007 A good thought-provoking question for all, including myself is, not the quality you find in a mate, although that is important, but rather - what about you? Do you have the qualities a godly woman or man wants to find in you? It's true everyone has expectations of what they want to find, but rather the first question is yourself. God will not give you a woman if you cannot edify, provide for and protect her but will tear her down instead (for guys), and God will not give you a man if you bring him evil instead of good for all his life, and being a stumbling block instead of a helpmeet to him. (for girls) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members kevinmiller Posted February 24, 2007 Members Share Posted February 24, 2007 I think about this often Tian Long. I am always thinking about the best way to react and interact with my mother and sister, etc. so that I can prepare myself to be a good husband. I don't want to marry before I'm ready and when I do marry I want to be the best husband I possibly can be. :lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ltl Posted February 24, 2007 Members Share Posted February 24, 2007 Well for me I'll have plenty of hurdles to jump - two years of conscription, and by God's will - four years in college, plus a few years of work, and then wedding day. But I confidently believe that these 'hurdles' will be the very things that God uses to help me build up my character for that. I do not want God to hold me responsible for destroying the life of a sister in Christ, but rather reward me for building her up. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members anime4christ Posted February 24, 2007 Members Share Posted February 24, 2007 A good thought-provoking question for all, including myself is, not the quality you find in a mate, although that is important, but rather - what about you? Do you have the qualities a godly woman or man wants to find in you? It's true everyone has expectations of what they want to find, but rather the first question is yourself. God will not give you a woman if you cannot edify, provide for and protect her but will tear her down instead (for guys), and God will not give you a man if you bring him evil instead of good for all his life, and being a stumbling block instead of a helpmeet to him. (for girls) Yep, I think about this a lot and I'm trying and praying to be the best I can. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted March 5, 2007 Share Posted March 5, 2007 A good thought-provoking question for all, including myself is, not the quality you find in a mate, although that is important, but rather - what about you? Do you have the qualities a godly woman or man wants to find in you? It's true everyone has expectations of what they want to find, but rather the first question is yourself. God will not give you a woman if you cannot edify, provide for and protect her but will tear her down instead (for guys), and God will not give you a man if you bring him evil instead of good for all his life, and being a stumbling block instead of a helpmeet to him. (for girls) very good point :smile Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members living4him Posted August 12, 2007 Members Share Posted August 12, 2007 I'm new here, but I thought I would jump in and reply to this post. I have a loooong list! lol! But what I have found VERY important is Amos 3:3 . It is so true. I mean, how can you be in a relationship with someone, if you don't agree on something VERY important. I made a mistake and "dated" a guy that was not in church, but started going because of me. And that was the only reason he went. I don't know if it's just here in Texas or here in my small town with a smaller church, but it seems like you can't find anyone that doesn't drink. I have never once said that people will go to Hell if they drink. But I don't believe in it. It is a VERY strong conviction, and I will not "date" someone that does. Prove me wrong, but is this a bad quality? We finally broke up, because it was God's will that we NOT be together. But he refused not to drink. I thought to myself... How can two walk together if they not be agreed? Anyway... thats just something I have been dealing with. He told me that I would be single forever because what I am looking for is not out there! Ha! With God all things are POSSIBLE! I will not just set aside a conviction that the Lord gave me just to be with a Man. Yes, I have a huge desire to be married, and be a mother, etc. But I will not get married to or just date anyone. I am waiting for the one God has for me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members living4him Posted August 12, 2007 Members Share Posted August 12, 2007 A good thought-provoking question for all' date=' including myself is, not the quality you find in a mate, although that is important, but rather - what about you? Do [b']you have the qualities a godly woman or man wants to find in you? It's true everyone has expectations of what they want to find, but rather the first question is yourself. God will not give you a woman if you cannot edify, provide for and protect her but will tear her down instead (for guys), and God will not give you a man if you bring him evil instead of good for all his life, and being a stumbling block instead of a helpmeet to him. (for girls) Very good question!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members John81 Posted August 12, 2007 Members Share Posted August 12, 2007 I'm new here' date=' but I thought I would jump in and reply to this post. I have a loooong list! lol! But what I have found VERY important is Amos 3:3 . It is so true. I mean, how can you be in a relationship with someone, if you don't agree on something VERY important. I made a mistake and "dated" a guy that was not in church, but started going because of me. And that was the only reason he went. I don't know if it's just here in Texas or here in my small town with a smaller church, but it seems like you can't find anyone that doesn't drink. I have never once said that people will go to Hell if they drink. But I don't believe in it. It is a VERY strong conviction, and I will not "date" someone that does. Prove me wrong, but is this a bad quality? We finally broke up, because it was God's will that we NOT be together. But he refused not to drink. I thought to myself... How can two walk together if they not be agreed? Anyway... thats just something I have been dealing with. He told me that I would be single forever because what I am looking for is not out there! Ha! With God all things are POSSIBLE! I will not just set aside a conviction that the Lord gave me just to be with a Man. Yes, I have a huge desire to be married, and be a mother, etc. But I will not get married to or just date anyone. I am waiting for the one God has for me.[/quote'] Absolutely, wait for the one God has for you! :thumb There are plenty of good men out there who don't drink. It's true they can be hard to find, but we know that God can bring you together with one at the right time for both of you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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