Members Kayla Posted March 31, 2008 Members Share Posted March 31, 2008 Hi Friends... I want to get some feedback. Do you think if a young man were to ask out a young lady. And she were uncertain as to whether it was God's will for her to pursue a relationship with this young man. Would it be inappropriate for her to construct a pros and cons list concerning the young man in question and bring it before the Lord? KT(Prodigal) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members John81 Posted March 31, 2008 Members Share Posted March 31, 2008 Yes, I believe that would be appropriate. In putting together such a list you may see something new or different. As well, in putting together such a list you help to open yourself up to hear from the Lord about these matters. And, of course, it's always good to take everything before the Lord in prayer! Using such a list in your prayer may be helpful. Just remember to rely upon the what the Lord says and reveals to you and not upon the list itself. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Administrators HappyChristian Posted March 31, 2008 Administrators Share Posted March 31, 2008 I believe it would be very appropriate, especially if she had her parents and/or her pastor and his wife help her. Girls tend to get emotionally caught up in things, and often need guidance in matters of the heart. And most definitely would it need to be brought before the Lord. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Kayla Posted March 31, 2008 Author Members Share Posted March 31, 2008 What if her parents do not go to church or are unfaithful? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Anon Posted March 31, 2008 Members Share Posted March 31, 2008 The list is good...if you don't know the guy well, go out with him a time or two so you can know enough about him to make the list. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Administrators HappyChristian Posted March 31, 2008 Administrators Share Posted March 31, 2008 What if her parents do not go to church or are unfaithful? That is where her pastor and his wife can help. Or another godly couple from the church that she knows she can trust. Her parents can give her some good pointers about what to look for in a fellow, even if they aren't saved or do not go to church. This girl shouldn't write off her parent's wisdom that comes from experience just because of that. Now, if they tell her that she shouldn't see him because he's a Christian, that's another thing entirely. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted April 11, 2008 Share Posted April 11, 2008 Your parents may still have some guidance on what they prefer etc that I would at least ask them. I don't see a problem with making a list. I would say too to go out with him (maybe with some others present) a time or two but make it clearly understood that it is so you can get to know him to see if it is God's will. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members pep_3000 Posted April 11, 2008 Members Share Posted April 11, 2008 Do you think if a young man were to ask out a young lady. And she were uncertain as to whether it was God's will for her to pursue a relationship with this young man. Would it be inappropriate for her to construct a pros and cons list concerning the young man in question and bring it before the Lord? I think if you have to make a list, it is already a lost cause. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Kenny5682 Posted April 14, 2008 Members Share Posted April 14, 2008 The list can be a good idea depending on the standards of the list. For example... Good: He's hot, he has a nice car, he's athletic, he's REALLY hot. Bad: He smells when he sweats, his clothes don't match, and he cusses. Good out-weighs the bad! Or.... Good: He's cute, he says "please" and "thank you," he loves his grandmother, he volunteers at the local homeless shelter, and goes to Church on Christmas and Easter. Bad: He smokes, drinks, has naked pictures on MySpace, and parties every weekend. Good still out-weighs the bad! Also... a list may not necessarily be "inappropriate" but it may not be needed. First of all, is the guy saved? If he's not, then it's not God's will for them to be together. Is he going to hinder her fellowship with the Lord? Then regardless of how many "Goods" the guy has, it's not the Lord's will for them to be together. If this guy is a genuine Christian and they can grow in the Lord together, then I think it would be appropriate to start a pros and cons list. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted April 17, 2008 Share Posted April 17, 2008 :goodpost: Kenny5682 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members qwerty guy Posted April 20, 2008 Members Share Posted April 20, 2008 Another thing you could do would be to ask questions of the things you don't know about and see his responses. I know of one couple where the girl for about 6 months wrote letters to the boy, asking questions on different things. The boy was serious about dating her so he would answer. It was the way she used to get to know him so she could determine if that was the person the Lord wanted her with. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Psalms18_28 Posted April 20, 2008 Members Share Posted April 20, 2008 If you keep the relationship neutral, It help prevent the feeling of rejection. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Rebel Prince Posted October 17, 2008 Members Share Posted October 17, 2008 Just flip a coin and ask God to make it heads if he's good for you. :amen: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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