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Genesis 16 Now Sarai Abram's wife bare him no children: and she had an handmaid, an Egyptian, whose name was Hagar.

2 And Sarai said unto Abram, Behold now, the Lord hath restrained me from bearing: I pray thee, go in unto my maid; it may be that I may obtain children by her. And Abram hearkened to the voice of Sarai.

 

I agree with most of what I've read, so far. Much has been said about responsiblity. Sometimes the husband is confronted with the unpleasat task of having to say "no" for a good reason but the wife isn't happy about that, what then?  What would have happened if Abraham had said "no"?

Yes, part of headship is having to make the right call even when it's unpleasant, even if the wife is unhappy.

 

In my own marriage I've noticed that no matter how bad it seems at the time, it's not as bad as it seems and my wife quickly moves on from the matter.

 

I've also noticed the longer we are married the more we are in complete agreement or near complete agreement when it comes to most all things, especially the more important things.

 

There has actually only been a few times when I had to stand firm and say "no" to my wife over an issue. The vast majority of the time we have talked matters out and come into agreement.

 

With regards to Abraham, no doubt what he did was sin. Had Abraham said "no" to his wife's scheme, and spoke with her of having faith in God, talking about the faithfulness of God in their lives, the faith of both likely would have been built up.

 

God doesn't promise it will always be easy to lead our homes, to say "no" when we should, but God does promise following Him is always right.

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Genesis 2:18 And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. 

Genesis 2:20 And Adam gave names to all cattle, and to the fowl of the air, and to every beast of the field; but for Adam there was not found an help meet for him.

 

Does this mean a “helpmeet” as we sometimes like to say, as if these two words were to go together?


OR

Does it mean “an help” who is “meet for him.”
 

That is a “helper” who is “proper or appropriate for him or for the task of helping him?”

 

I wonder if God provided Eve so that Adam would not become over whelmed by the task God gave him. If true, it might give we men a different outlook on just how important our wife is and another early look at God's love and compassion for all mankind.

 

Brother Dave,

 

As Brother "Heartstrings" indicated in post #49 --

Help who is meet (suitable, fitting)

"meet" is the adjective, "help" is the noun


It means -- "an help" who is "meet for him," that is -- a “helper” who is “proper or appropriate for him or for the task of helping him?”  Grammatically, the word "help" is a noun, meaning "that which helps, a helper."  The word "meet" is an adjective that modifies that noun -- a meet helper; a helper who is meet (complementary, suitable, proper, fitting).  The prepositional phrase "for him" is an adverbial phrase that modifies the adjective "meet," indicating that the wife is not comlementary, suitable, proper, fitting in general, but is complementary, suitable, proper, fitting specifically for her husband.

 

Indeed, this is God's own definition for the wife.  In the historical record of God's Word, this was the very first statement that the Lord our God delivered concerning the wife, before He employed any other title for her or any other description of her.  By divine definition the wife is -- "A helper who is meet for her husband."  This then is God's own purpose for the wife -- that she be a helper to her husband who is perfectly complementary in helping him fulfill his God-given responsibilities.  The Lord our God had already given the first man Adam the responsibility to dress and to keep the Garden of Eden, even before He created the wife for the man. (See Genesis 2:15)  Then the Lord God created "an help meet for him" in order to help him fulfill this God-given responsibility.

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Brother Dave,

 

As Brother "Heartstrings" indicated in post #49 --


It means -- "an help" who is "meet for him," that is -- a “helper” who is “proper or appropriate for him or for the task of helping him?”  Grammatically, the word "help" is a noun, meaning "that which helps, a helper."  The word "meet" is an adjective that modifies that noun -- a meet helper; a helper who is meet (complementary, suitable, proper, fitting).  The prepositional phrase "for him" is an adverbial phrase that modifies the adjective "meet," indicating that the wife is not comlementary, suitable, proper, fitting in general, but is complementary, suitable, proper, fitting specifically for her husband.

 

Indeed, this is God's own definition for the wife.  In the historical record of God's Word, this was the very first statement that the Lord our God delivered concerning the wife, before He employed any other title for her or any other description of her.  By divine definition the wife is -- "A helper who is meet for her husband."  This then is God's own purpose for the wife -- that she be a helper to her husband who is perfectly complementary in helping him fulfill his God-given responsibilities.  The Lord our God had already given the first man Adam the responsibility to dress and to keep the Garden of Eden, even before He created the wife for the man. (See Genesis 2:15)  Then the Lord God created "an help meet for him" in order to help him fulfill this God-given responsibility.

Thanks,

That is what I was  thinking.

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Genesis 16 Now Sarai Abram's wife bare him no children: and she had an handmaid, an Egyptian, whose name was Hagar.

2 And Sarai said unto Abram, Behold now, the Lord hath restrained me from bearing: I pray thee, go in unto my maid; it may be that I may obtain children by her. And Abram hearkened to the voice of Sarai.

 

I agree with most of what I've read, so far. Much has been said about responsiblity. Sometimes the husband is confronted with the unpleasat task of having to say "no" for a good reason but the wife isn't happy about that, what then?  What would have happened if Abraham had said "no"?

 

Brother "Heartstrings,"

 

I myself am one of those who has placed a great deal of emphasis upon the responibility of leadership.  I ask that you not misunderstand my intent in so doing.  I do not intend to communicate a focus on leadership responsibility in contrast to a focus on leadership authority.  In fact, I would contend that leadership authority by Biblical definition requires leadership responsibility; and that leadership responsibility without the leadership authority to fulfill it is almost impossible.  Rather, I intend to communicate a focus on leadership responsibility in contrast to a focus on leadership privilege.  I do this on the ground of our Lord's principle concerning godly leadership in Matthew 20:25-28 -- "But Jesus called them unto him, and said, Ye know that the princes of the Gentiles exercise dominion over them, and they that are great exercise authority upon them.  But it shall not be so among you: but whosoever will be great among you, let him be your minister; and whosoever will be chief among you, let him be your servant: even as the Son of man came not to be ministered unto, but to minister, and to give his life a ransom for many."

 

So then, are there times when a godly husband must say "no" to his wife, denying her something that she desires?  Yes.  Indeed, the husband has the leadership responsibility to deny a desire of his wife when it is contrary to the standard of God's Word; and he even has the leadership responsibility to reprove his wife of characteristics or conduct that are contrary to the standard of God's Word.  Would such be a very, very difficult and unpleasant task?  Certainly!  Yet the faulty view that a husband should yield to any desire of his wife because "a happy wife makes a happy life" must be cast aside, and the Biblical view that a husband should administer his God-given responsibility to lead for the sake of his wife's righteous character because truly "a pleased Lord God makes a righteous life" must be held firmly.  However, this leadership responsibility of denial or repoof must be administered on the ground of spiritual principle, not on the ground of selfish purpose.

 

Yes, how much better would it have been if Abraham had said "no" to Sarah concerning Hagar?  Even more so, how much better would it have been if Adam had said "no" to Eve concerning the forbidden fruit?  He certainly should have.  Even so, the Lord God directly rebuked him for not having done so -- "And unto Adam he said, Because thou hast hearkened unto the voice of thy wife . . ." (Genesis 3:17)

Edited by Pastor Scott Markle

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The following post is a sort of corrective to myself:

 

On Saturday, February 23, 2013, in post #47 I presented a scattering of thoughts concerning various past posts.  Involved in that scattering of thoughts, I quoted Colossians 3:14-15 and Proverbs 31:28 in relation to Brother Dave's ("1Tim115") post #8, wherein he mentioned the need for the godly husband to speak words of praise and appreciation to his wife.  Furthermore, in post #16 Brother John ("John81") responded to Brother Dave's post #8 by indicating the need for the godly husband to give thanks unto his wife (and to teach his children to give thanks unto her also).  Concerning this need of the godly husband to praise, express appreciation, and give thanks to his wife, I had been viewing it as being encompassed under the listed principle that the godly husband must ever appreciate his wife as a good gift and precious treasure of the Lord's gracious favor. (Proverbs 18:22)  However, on Sunday morning the Holy Spirit burdened my heart with the need to present this truth as a separate principle, placing the emphasis on the need, not only for the godly husband to appreciate his wife in his heart, but also for the godly husband actually to express that appreciation unto his wife for her efforts of diligence.

 

Proverbs 31:28 -- "Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her."

 

The Godly husband must regularly express praise, appreciation, and thanks to his wife for her efforts of diligence.

 

 

With this added principle, our list of principles for the godly husband is as follows:


  1.  The godly husband must leave his priority relationship with his parents. (Genesis 2:24)
  2.  The godly husband must continually cleave to his wife, and not ever allow himself to be separate in relationship from her.

       (Genesis 2:18, 24; Matthew 19:5-6)

  3.  The godly husband must continually pursue a one-flesh relationship with his wife. (Genesis 2:24)

  4.  The godly husband must love his wife just as Christ loved the church. (Ephesians 5:25-28, 33; Colossians 3:19)

  5.  The godly husband must nourish his wife as his own body, even as Christ nourishes the church. (Ephesians 5:28-30)

  6.  The godly husband must cherish his wife as his own body, even as Christ nourishes the church. (Ephesians 5:28-30)

  7.  The godly husband must recognize his God-declared need for the help of his wife. (Genesis 2:18)

  8.  The godly husband must ever appreciate his wife as a good gift and precious treasure of the Lord's gracious favor.

       (Proverbs 18:22)

  9.  The godly husband must regularly express praise, appreciation, and thanks to his wife for her efforts of diligence.

       (Proverbs 31:28) 

10.  The godly husband must actively pursue a companionship with his wife as his dearest human friend. (Malachi 2:14)

11.  The godly husband must openly communicate with his wife in a gracious manner that is good to the use of edifying.

       (Ephesians 4:29; etc.)

12.  The godly husband must dwell at harmony with his wife in accord with his knowledge of her. (1 Peter 3:7)

13.  The godly husband must put forth the effort and energy to know his own wife as an individual. (1 Peter 3:7)

14.  The godly husband must specifically give honor unto his wife, as unto a precious treasure. (1 Peter 3:7)

15.  The godly husband must shoulder the burden of leadership responsibility, especially concerning spiritual matters.      

       (Ephesians 5:22; 1 Corinthians 11:3; Joshua 24:15)

16.  The godly husband must remember that he is responsible and accountable to his Head, the Lord Jesus Christ.

       (1 Corinthians 11:3; Malachi 2:13-16; 1 Peter 3:7)

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In 1Tim115 said:

The triangle is something like the attached jpg. There is a lot more that can be said about it but this is all I can remember from when it was presented to me.

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In DaveW said:

A few thoughts - husbands and wives MUST both be committed to serving God in their marriage. It is a partnership and union.
For it to be at it's best, both husband and wife must be committed to the Lord and each other - God's way.

 

 

In John81 said:

Wonderful biblical truth! There is no better marriage than one where both husband and wife are truly committed to the Lord and obeying His Word.

 

 

In DaveW said:

Considering Gen 3, I would like to submit that the cause of the original breakdown of relationship was the form of Adam's sin - that he put his love for his wife above his love for God.
A good husband will therefore, first and foremost be one who puts the Lord above his wife, but according to the many other posts and points, None and nothing other than the Lord above his wife.

 

 

In 1Tim115 said:

Wow! I can't believe we overlooked this most important of all principles. Thanks Dave. 

 

Also, scripture and the triangle thing agree with your thought.

 

Luke 18
28 Then Peter said, Lo, we have left all, and followed thee.
29 And he said unto them, Verily I say unto you, There is no man that hath left house, or parents, or brethren, or wife, or children, for the kingdom of God's sake,
30 Who shall not receive manifold more in this present time, and in the world to come life everlasting.
 
Note: This in no way authorizes a man to turn and run from the responsibilities to the family God gave him. It means to have God first (Peter still had a wife he cared for).

 

Through all of these above statements, we find the Biblical principle that the godly husband must always maintain his personal walk with the Lord as his highest priority, recognizing that such will only help him to be a better husband toward his wife

 

Even so, in Luke 14:26-27 our Lord Jesus Christ declared, "If any man come to me, and hate not his father, and mother, and wife, and children, and brethren, and sisters, yea, and his own life also, he cannot be my disciple.  And whosoever doth not bear his cross, and come after me, cannot be my disciple."  Now, this is a matter of comparison.  It is not that we are to hate our wives, for the Lord our God Himself in His Holy Word has commanded us to love our wives.  Rather, it is that our love for Christ should be a greater priority than our love for our wives.  Yet if our love for Christ is the greatest priority of our lives, even over our love for our wives, it will only enhance our spiritual ability to love our wives as we are commanded.  Indeed, this is the reason that the instruction of Ephesians 5:18 is presented as the spiritual foundation upon which we are then instructed to love our wives in Ephesians 5:25-33 -- "And be not drunk with wine, wherein is excess; but be filled with the Spirit."  Indeed, this is also the reason that the instruction of Colossians 3:16 is presented as the spiritual foundation upon which we are then instructed to love our wives in Colossians 3:19 -- "Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom; teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord."

 

 

So then, with this added principle, our list of principles for the godly husband is as follows:


  1.  The godly husband must always maintain his personal walk with the Lord as his highest priority, recognizing that such

       will only help him to be a better husband toward his wife. (Luke 14:26-27; Ephesians 5:18; Colossians 3:16)

  2.  The godly husband must leave his priority relationship with his parents. (Genesis 2:24)
  3.  The godly husband must continually cleave to his wife, and not ever allow himself to be separate in relationship from her.

       (Genesis 2:18, 24; Matthew 19:5-6)

  4.  The godly husband must continually pursue a one-flesh relationship with his wife. (Genesis 2:24)

  5.  The godly husband must love his wife just as Christ loved the church. (Ephesians 5:25-28, 33; Colossians 3:19)

  6.  The godly husband must nourish his wife as his own body, even as Christ nourishes the church. (Ephesians 5:28-30)

  7.  The godly husband must cherish his wife as his own body, even as Christ nourishes the church. (Ephesians 5:28-30)

  8.  The godly husband must recognize his God-declared need for the help of his wife. (Genesis 2:18)

  9.  The godly husband must ever appreciate his wife as a good gift and precious treasure of the Lord's gracious favor.

       (Proverbs 18:22)

10.  The godly husband must regularly express praise, appreciation, and thanks to his wife for her efforts of diligence.

       (Proverbs 31:28) 

11.  The godly husband must actively pursue a companionship with his wife as his dearest human friend. (Malachi 2:14)

12.  The godly husband must openly communicate with his wife in a gracious manner that is good to the use of edifying.

       (Ephesians 4:29; etc.)

13.  The godly husband must dwell at harmony with his wife in accord with his knowledge of her. (1 Peter 3:7)

14.  The godly husband must put forth the effort and energy to know his own wife as an individual. (1 Peter 3:7)

15.  The godly husband must specifically give honor unto his wife, as unto a precious treasure. (1 Peter 3:7)

16.  The godly husband must shoulder the burden of leadership responsibility, especially concerning spiritual matters.      

       (Ephesians 5:22; 1 Corinthians 11:3; Joshua 24:15)

17.  The godly husband must remember that he is responsible and accountable to his Head, the Lord Jesus Christ.

       (1 Corinthians 11:3; Malachi 2:13-16; 1 Peter 3:7)

Edited by Pastor Scott Markle

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I have enjoyed the contributions, and I particularly like the updates summaries you have been doing.

I intend to take the summary and format it as a "discussion paper" for our men's meeting, so that the learning can be used to lead our discussions in a solid direction.

Thanks.

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In musician4god1611 said:

1 Corinthians 7:3-5 " Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency."

This is not advice, this is a command.

 

 

Also Soj (Matthew) said:

I think the following point is very important and is a key ingredient to a healthy marriage, it comes under Bro. Scott's principle #3 The godly husband must continually pursue a one-flesh relationship with his wife.

The godly husband must make love to his wife, and must not restrict himself from her.

1 Corinthians 7:2 Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. [3] Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. [4] The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. [5] Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.
 

 

Although Brother Matthew ("Soj") classified this point under my principle that the godly husband must continually pursue a one-flesh relationship with his wife, I myself wish to present this matter as a separate principle.  I wish to do this because God's Word presents this matter as a specific command from the Lord our God.  (Note: In my book, "God's Wisdom for Marriage & The Home," I include an entire chapter concerning this matter, entitled "Render Due Benevolence.")

 

The godly husband must render the "due benevolence" of sexual pleasure unto his wife.

 

Concerning the matter of the physical, sexual relationship, Hebrews 13:4 clearly indicates that the Lord our God opposes and judges any engagement in sexual relations outside the boundary of the marriage relationship.  "Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge."  On the other hand, this verse also indicates that a healthy bedroom (sexual) relationship in the boundary of marriage between the husband and wife is not spiritually defiled in our Lord's sight.  In fact, in Hebrews 13:4 God's Holy Word indicates that such a healthy bedroom (sexual) relationship between the husband and wife is actually honorable in the sight of the Lord our God.  Even so, the opening line of Hebrews 13:4 declares, "Marriage is honourable in all."  Yet God's Word does leave us to wonder if the bedroom (sexual) relationship is included in the "all" of marriage that is viewed as honorable.  In fact, the one element in the "all" of marriage that Hebrews 13:4 then specificies is the bedroom (sexual) relationship, saying "Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled."  Indeed, a healthy bedroom (sexual) relationship between a husband and wife is worthy of honor from the Lord our God Himself.

 

Even so, the Lord our God actually commands the husband and wife to engage regularly in a healthy sexual relationship with one another.  As both quotes above indicated, in 1 Corinthians 7:3-5 God's Holy Word declares, "Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.  The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.  Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency."  The context of this passage clearly reveals that it is speaking concerning the physcial, sexual relationship between the husband and wife.  As such, 1 Corinthians 7:3 refers to that physical, sexual relationship between the husband and wife with the phrase "due benevolence." 

 

First then, the godly husband is to engage in the sexual relationship with his wife as an act of benevolence unto her, yea as a gift of kindness unto her.  This means that the godly husband is to engage in the sexual relationship with his wife in a manner that administers pleasure unto his wife.  Furthermore, the godly husband is to recognize that administering such sexual benevolence, kindness, pleasure unto his wife is his God-given duty.  It is a "due benevolence."  It is a pleasure that is due unto the wife, and it is the husband's God-given duty to grant it.  Even so, if the husband neglects to administer this sexual benevolence, kindness, pleasure unto his wife, he is actually defrauding (cheating) her out of that which is her God-appointed due.  Finally, the godly husband is to concentrate in the physical, sexual relationship with his wife on rendering (paying over) this due of sexual benevolence, kindness, pleasure unto his wife.  In his sexual relationship with his wife, the godly husband should not simply be focused upon having sexual pleasure with his wife.  Certainly, he should not be focused upon taking sexual pleasure for himself.  Rather, the godly husband should be focused upon rendering sexual pleasure unto his wife.

 

Now, since the Lord our God in His Holy Word commands this administration of sexual pleasure unto one's wife, and since the Lord our God in His Holy Word reveals that a healthy sexual relationship between a husband and wife is worthy of HIs honor, we should recognize that a healthy sexual relationship between the husand and wife is actually a spiritually positive matter.

 

 

So then, with this added principle, our list of principles for the godly husband is as follows:


  1.  The godly husband must always maintain his personal walk with the Lord as his highest priority, recognizing that such

       will only help him to be a better husband toward his wife. (Luke 14:26-27; Ephesians 5:18; Colossians 3:16)

  2.  The godly husband must leave his priority relationship with his parents. (Genesis 2:24)
  3.  The godly husband must continually cleave to his wife, and not ever allow himself to be separate in relationship from her.

       (Genesis 2:18, 24; Matthew 19:5-6)

  4.  The godly husband must continually pursue a one-flesh relationship with his wife. (Genesis 2:24)

  5.  The godly husband must love his wife just as Christ loved the church. (Ephesians 5:25-28, 33; Colossians 3:19)

  6.  The godly husband must nourish his wife as his own body, even as Christ nourishes the church. (Ephesians 5:28-30)

  7.  The godly husband must cherish his wife as his own body, even as Christ nourishes the church. (Ephesians 5:28-30)

  8.  The godly husband must recognize his God-declared need for the help of his wife. (Genesis 2:18)

  9.  The godly husband must ever appreciate his wife as a good gift and precious treasure of the Lord's gracious favor.

       (Proverbs 18:22)

10.  The godly husband must regularly express praise, appreciation, and thanks to his wife for her efforts of diligence.

       (Proverbs 31:28) 

11.  The godly husband must actively pursue a companionship with his wife as his dearest human friend. (Malachi 2:14)

12.  The godly husband must openly communicate with his wife in a gracious manner that is good to the use of edifying.

       (Ephesians 4:29; etc.)

13.  The godly husband must dwell at harmony with his wife in accord with his knowledge of her. (1 Peter 3:7)

14.  The godly husband must put forth the effort and energy to know his own wife as an individual. (1 Peter 3:7)

15.  The godly husband must specifically give honor unto his wife, as unto a precious treasure. (1 Peter 3:7)

16.  The godly husband must shoulder the burden of leadership responsibility, especially concerning spiritual matters.      

       (Ephesians 5:22; 1 Corinthians 11:3; Joshua 24:15)

17.  The godly husband must remember that he is responsible and accountable to his Head, the Lord Jesus Christ.

       (1 Corinthians 11:3; Malachi 2:13-16; 1 Peter 3:7)

18. The godly husband must render the "due benevolence" of sexual pleasure unto his wife. (1 Corinthians 7:3-5)

Edited by Pastor Scott Markle

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The following principle for the godly husband is directly related to that of the previous post (post #58).

 

The godly husband must be sexually exclusive with his wife mentally, emotionally, and physically, being always satisfied with her body and always ravished with her love.

 

Proverbs 5:15-20 -- "Drink waters out of thine own cistern, and running waters out of thine own well.  Let thy fountains be dispersed abroad, and rivers of waters in the streets.  Let them be only thine own, and not strangers’ with thee.  Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth.  Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.  And why wilt thou, my son, be ravished with a strange woman, and embrace the bosom of a stranger?"

 

 

So then, with this added principle, our list of principles for the godly husband is as follows:


  1.  The godly husband must always maintain his personal walk with the Lord as his highest priority, recognizing that such

       will only help him to be a better husband toward his wife. (Luke 14:26-27; Ephesians 5:18; Colossians 3:16)

  2.  The godly husband must leave his priority relationship with his parents. (Genesis 2:24)
  3.  The godly husband must continually cleave to his wife, and not ever allow himself to be separate in relationship from her.

       (Genesis 2:18, 24; Matthew 19:5-6)

  4.  The godly husband must continually pursue a one-flesh relationship with his wife. (Genesis 2:24)

  5.  The godly husband must love his wife just as Christ loved the church. (Ephesians 5:25-28, 33; Colossians 3:19)

  6.  The godly husband must nourish his wife as his own body, even as Christ nourishes the church. (Ephesians 5:28-30)

  7.  The godly husband must cherish his wife as his own body, even as Christ nourishes the church. (Ephesians 5:28-30)

  8.  The godly husband must recognize his God-declared need for the help of his wife. (Genesis 2:18)

  9.  The godly husband must ever appreciate his wife as a good gift and precious treasure of the Lord's gracious favor.

       (Proverbs 18:22)

10.  The godly husband must regularly express praise, appreciation, and thanks to his wife for her efforts of diligence.

       (Proverbs 31:28) 

11.  The godly husband must actively pursue a companionship with his wife as his dearest human friend. (Malachi 2:14)

12.  The godly husband must openly communicate with his wife in a gracious manner that is good to the use of edifying.

       (Ephesians 4:29; etc.)

13.  The godly husband must dwell at harmony with his wife in accord with his knowledge of her. (1 Peter 3:7)

14.  The godly husband must put forth the effort and energy to know his own wife as an individual. (1 Peter 3:7)

15.  The godly husband must specifically give honor unto his wife, as unto a precious treasure. (1 Peter 3:7)

16.  The godly husband must shoulder the burden of leadership responsibility, especially concerning spiritual matters.      

       (Ephesians 5:22; 1 Corinthians 11:3; Joshua 24:15)

17.  The godly husband must remember that he is responsible and accountable to his Head, the Lord Jesus Christ.

       (1 Corinthians 11:3; Malachi 2:13-16; 1 Peter 3:7)

18. The godly husband must render the "due benevolence" of sexual pleasure unto his wife. (1 Corinthians 7:3-5)

19. The godly husband must be sexually exclusive with his wife mentally, emotionally, and physically, being always satisfied

      with her body and always ravished with her love. (Proverbs 5:15-20)

Edited by Pastor Scott Markle

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These are the new responsibilities from God to men and women after they sinned.

 

Geneses 3:16-19

 

16 Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.

 

She will have many more children.

 

She must follow but he must now lead!

 

 

17 And unto Adam he said, Because thou hast hearkened unto the voice of thy wife, and hast eaten of the tree, of which I commanded thee, saying, Thou shalt not eat of it: cursed is the ground for thy sake; in sorrow shalt thou eat of it all the days of thy life;

18 Thorns also and thistles shall it bring forth to thee; and thou shalt eat the herb of the field;

19 In the sweat of thy face shalt thou eat bread, till thou return unto the ground; for out of it wast thou taken: for dust thou art, and unto dust shalt thou return.

 

Now he must work hard and provide for the family.

 

20 There is treasure to be desired and oil in the dwelling of the wise;

 

but a foolish man spendeth it up.

 

Many marriages suffer because of poor money management.

 

 

Haggia 1:5-6

5 Now therefore thus saith the LORD of hosts; Consider your ways.

6 Ye have sown much, and bring in little; ye eat, but ye have not enough; ye drink, but ye are not filled with drink; ye clothe you, but there is none warm; and

 

he that earneth wages earneth wages to put it into a bag with holes.

 

 

God told Israel that they would put their money in a bag with holes because they

 

didn’t give God his due!

 

Money is often a cause for stress in marriages.

 

Husbands are you giving God his due or are you causing holes in your money bag?

 

 

When I was young I was selfish in my young marriage. My wife came from very

 

humble beginnings so she was content. It took a few years till I matured and

 

corrected my life style. Thank God my wife was a better person then I was then.

 

We have been married 43 years and she says I am a good husband so I learned over

 

the years. Hugs and kisses never go out of style. Complements for any good excuse

 

are a good idea. Remember men what you say thank you for, you will get more of!

 

Praise will bring repeat actions. That goes for children and grand children too.

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The triangle is something like the attached jpg. There is a lot more that can be said about it but this is all I can remember from when it was presented to me.

 

 

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Eph 5:23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church:

1Co 11:3 But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.

Sorry about the Big Text, its default. Isn't the following more Biblical?

Christ---> Husband---> Wife.

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Eph 5:23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church:

1Co 11:3 But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.

Sorry about the Big Text, its default. Isn't the following more Biblical?

 

 

Christ---> Husband---> Wife.

Yes it is true that the husband is the head of the wife, but that isn't what this chart is trying to depict. If we took that same order for the point of this chart then the wife would only be able to be as close to God as the husband is.

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Eph 5:23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church:

1Co 11:3 But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.

Sorry about the Big Text, its default. Isn't the following more Biblical?

 

 

Christ---> Husband---> Wife.

No.

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The following principle for the godly husband is directly related to that of the previous post (post #58).

 

The godly husband must be sexually exclusive with his wife mentally, emotionally, and physically, being always satisfied with her body and always ravished with her love.

 

Proverbs 5:15-20 -- "Drink waters out of thine own cistern, and running waters out of thine own well.  Let thy fountains be dispersed abroad, and rivers of waters in the streets.  Let them be only thine own, and not strangers’ with thee.  Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth.  Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.  And why wilt thou, my son, be ravished with a strange woman, and embrace the bosom of a stranger?"

 

 

So then, with this added principle, our list of principles for the godly husband is as follows:


  1.  The godly husband must always maintain his personal walk with the Lord as his highest priority, recognizing that such

       will only help him to be a better husband toward his wife. (Luke 14:26-27; Ephesians 5:18; Colossians 3:16)

  2.  The godly husband must leave his priority relationship with his parents. (Genesis 2:24)
  3.  The godly husband must continually cleave to his wife, and not ever allow himself to be separate in relationship from her.

       (Genesis 2:18, 24; Matthew 19:5-6)

  4.  The godly husband must continually pursue a one-flesh relationship with his wife. (Genesis 2:24)

  5.  The godly husband must love his wife just as Christ loved the church. (Ephesians 5:25-28, 33; Colossians 3:19)

  6.  The godly husband must nourish his wife as his own body, even as Christ nourishes the church. (Ephesians 5:28-30)

  7.  The godly husband must cherish his wife as his own body, even as Christ nourishes the church. (Ephesians 5:28-30)

  8.  The godly husband must recognize his God-declared need for the help of his wife. (Genesis 2:18)

  9.  The godly husband must ever appreciate his wife as a good gift and precious treasure of the Lord's gracious favor.

       (Proverbs 18:22)

10.  The godly husband must regularly express praise, appreciation, and thanks to his wife for her efforts of diligence.

       (Proverbs 31:28

11.  The godly husband must actively pursue a companionship with his wife as his dearest human friend. (Malachi 2:14)

12.  The godly husband must openly communicate with his wife in a gracious manner that is good to the use of edifying.

       (Ephesians 4:29; etc.)

13.  The godly husband must dwell at harmony with his wife in accord with his knowledge of her. (1 Peter 3:7)

14.  The godly husband must put forth the effort and energy to know his own wife as an individual. (1 Peter 3:7)

15.  The godly husband must specifically give honor unto his wife, as unto a precious treasure. (1 Peter 3:7)

16.  The godly husband must shoulder the burden of leadership responsibility, especially concerning spiritual matters.      

       (Ephesians 5:22; 1 Corinthians 11:3; Joshua 24:15)

17.  The godly husband must remember that he is responsible and accountable to his Head, the Lord Jesus Christ.

       (1 Corinthians 11:3; Malachi 2:13-16; 1 Peter 3:7)

18. The godly husband must render the "due benevolence" of sexual pleasure unto his wife. (1 Corinthians 7:3-5)

19. The godly husband must be sexually exclusive with his wife mentally, emotionally, and physically, being always satisfied

      with her body and always ravished with her love. (Proverbs 5:15-20)

all these points are very good.  I will have to share it with my husband :D

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