Tips For Single Christian Ladies On Courtship And Love

[HappyChristian]

Don't know about that... had someone try to set me up with a doctor in India once.  

Bwahahahaha!  Maybe someone in Camaroon should set you up with someone....

[Alimantado]

Don't know about that... had someone try to set me up with a doctor in India once.  

 

Salyan there were three nice gents on the forum earlier; one was called BOB. Want me to have a word for you?

[HappyChristian]

Salyan there were three nice gents on the forum earlier; one was called BOB. Want me to have a word for you?

[Salyan]

Salyan there were three nice gents on the forum earlier; one was called BOB. Want me to have a word for you?

 

[The Glory Land]

lol! why is that?

I talk about some of their pastors sins.

[Alimantado]

People come and go on forums and she hasn't posted for over a year-and-a-half. Would be surprised if she's still checking in.

 

Some here wish that I leave...  

 

lol! why is that?

 

I talk about some of their pastors sins.

 

Jeny, you can see from the above sequence that TGL appears to be referring to me in his reply to you. What he seems to be saying is that he is exposing the sins of my pastor on this forum, that I don't like it, and that consequently I want him to leave.

 

But here's the truth: TGL doesn't even know what country I'm from, let alone what church I attend or who my pastor is. So he hasn't knowingly talked about any of my pastor's sins. 

 

What TGL has been doing is regularly starting new topics with titles like these:

 

"Pastors That Are Playing Too Much Golf..."

 

"Pastors That Don't Drop There Offering At Giving Time?"

 

"Pastors Burning Out Their Faithful Members..."

 

"Pastors That Enjoy Watching Porn..."

 

"All Pastors Must Be Over Five Feet Tall"

 

"Can And Cannot For Pastors...."

 

"Pastor That Dress Right Preaches Right..."

 

"Lets Talk About Pastors Children's"

 

"Lets Talk About Pastors Wifes..."

 

"How To Get Your Pastor Very Mad..."

 

"Can A Pastor Get Remarried If His Wife...."

 

"Does Your Pastor Likes To Pray?"

 

"Is you pastor human?"

 

"14 Things Not To Say To Your Pastor"

 

"What Is A Full-Time Pastor?"

 

"Shut Up While I Am Preaching..."

 

He typically starts a topic with a question and then follows it up with a very particular scenario, like this one from 'Is your pastor human?':

 

I mean that he's not floating on a cloud, right? Act's normal, to everyday prOBlems.Talk's normal, not like he is telling a bed story all the time.

 

An odd thing to ask unless one has something particular in mind, right? But whenever TGL is asked what has prompted such a specific question--maybe his own pastor is like that or he has noticed other pastors doing it--TGL either doesn't answer or responds with 'no, just checking'.

 

So in other words, he's continuously asking prOBing questions about behaviours he hasn't noticed his own pastor doing and hasn't noticed anyone else's pastors doing either. Makes one wonder--why ask then? After all, we can all mailbomb a forum with random questions if we choose. 'Does your pastor wear brown shoes?', 'Does your pastor cut people up with chainsaws?', 'Does your pastor have a voice like daffy duck?' etc etc.

 

Do I want TGL to leave? I hadn't ever thought about it until now but I will say that if TGL gets something out of fellowshipping on this forum then I'm glad he's here. But if he's just using the forum to have a laugh at our expense, I'd rather he didn't. 

[The Glory Land]

 

Jeny, you can see from the above sequence that TGL appears to be referring to me in his reply to you. What he seems to be saying is that he is exposing the sins of my pastor on this forum, that I don't like it, and that consequently I want him to leave.

 

But here's the truth: TGL doesn't even know what country I'm from, let alone what church I attend or who my pastor is. So he hasn't knowingly talked about any of my pastor's sins. 

 

What TGL has been doing is regularly starting new topics with titles like these:

 

"Pastors That Are Playing Too Much Golf..."

 

"Pastors That Don't Drop There Offering At Giving Time?"

 

"Pastors Burning Out Their Faithful Members..."

 

"Pastors That Enjoy Watching Porn..."

 

"All Pastors Must Be Over Five Feet Tall"

 

"Can And Cannot For Pastors...."

 

"Pastor That Dress Right Preaches Right..."

 

"Lets Talk About Pastors Children's"

 

"Lets Talk About Pastors Wifes..."

 

"How To Get Your Pastor Very Mad..."

 

"Can A Pastor Get Remarried If His Wife...."

 

"Does Your Pastor Likes To Pray?"

 

"Is you pastor human?"

 

"14 Things Not To Say To Your Pastor"

 

"What Is A Full-Time Pastor?"

 

"Shut Up While I Am Preaching..."

 

He typically starts a topic with a question and then follows it up with a very particular scenario, like this one from 'Is your pastor human?':

 

 

 

An odd thing to ask unless one has something particular in mind, right? But whenever TGL is asked what has prompted such a specific question--maybe his own pastor is like that or he has noticed other pastors doing it--TGL either doesn't answer or responds with 'no, just checking'.

 

So in other words, he's continuously asking prOBing questions about behaviours he hasn't noticed his own pastor doing and hasn't noticed anyone else's pastors doing either. Makes one wonder--why ask then? After all, we can all mailbomb a forum with random questions if we choose. 'Does your pastor wear brown shoes?', 'Does your pastor cut people up with chainsaws?', 'Does your pastor have a voice like daffy duck?' etc etc.

 

Do I want TGL to leave? I hadn't ever thought about it until now but I will say that if TGL gets something out of fellowshipping on this forum then I'm glad he's here. But if he's just using the forum to have a laugh at our expense, I'd rather he didn't. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

All this just for me...     I am glad that you're watching.

[Alimantado]

All this just for me...     I am glad that you're watching.

 

Well they do say that trolls crave attention, TGL. 

 

 

Not saying you're one, of course. Just checking... 

[The Glory Land]

Well they do say that trolls crave attention, TGL. 

 

 

Not saying you're one, of course. Just checking... 

 

 

I'm out of pop corn, can I have some...  

[ASongOfDegrees]

If you are not willing to let someone set you up and there's nOBody good enough in your church for you then you need to forget about it and stop complaining. You are too good for anybody.

[Salyan]

Wow, that's harsh. In my OBservations of the single ladies I know, most of the time there are no single guys (or appropriately-aged) single guys in their small churches - or in any of the churches around. As for being 'set up', well, I think anyone would tell you there are some people whose judgement they would trust in such an area, and some people's they wouldn't. Unfortunately, it's usually the latter who like to play matchmaker.

[Donillo]

It's usually mothers who want to sluf their loser sons onto nice single ladies. Happened to my daughter a couple of times which she took care of on the spot.

[Miss Daisy]

all the good ones are taken!

[Rebecca]

If you are not willing to let someone set you up and there's nOBody good enough in your church for you then you need to forget about it and stop complaining. You are too good for anybody.

 

Ouch!  I don't know if you're directing this at someone in particular, or just in general, but that's harsh.

 

 I've been reading this thread out of curiosity, and there have been a lot of good tips and suggestions. However some tips that work for one person isn't going to work for another, nothing is black and white when it comes to getting involved in a relationship. It's serious business, not to be taken lightly.   

 

I'm single, in my 30's, and have been on exactly one date in my life, and it was set up by members from the church. Really nice guy, but our life goals were vastly different. God had called me as a missionary, and he was satisfied with his current career, so alas, it wasn't meant to be.   

 

Now, I'm not looking, I'm just too busy to care about it. If God has someone for me out there, He'll make sure we cross paths at some point. Will I let someone set me up? Only if that person knows my absolute, no wavering criteria: Must be Christian(and Baptist) and must be a missionary to the same country I'm serving in. If the guy they want to set me up with meets those two criteria, I'll consider it. There are other stuff, but that would all come out later. Will I date a man in my church? Absolutely not, at least not with the men who are currently attending.

 

I like the fellowship meeting idea, but I'll have to wait a few years until I get back to the States, and meeting guys will not be a priority, I'll once again be too busy. I'll be attending a lot of fellowship meetings in order to get in touch with pastors willing to consider allowing me to come to their church and present my field and ministry. My priorities will be reporting to sending churches/raising more support, in order to get back to the field as quickly as possible. Definitely not much time left for dating! haha!   

[pilgrimspen]

Hi everyone... sorry for my long absence.. wow! surprised to read all the comments here. I guess it has been a year right? Well some update. This June I met a bible student intern. Well, I realy came to like him and we spent long hours on the phone at night, him volunteering to cook at the house for dinner at Sunday's (Im not surprised coz' he loves to cook sometimes he would cook for his host family since he has no place to sleep in the city coz' he lives in the province) and we go to the mall sometimes to eat and play cards like boggle cardgame. Well, I was just worried that I might end up liking him (and I already like him now) so I told him that worry of mine he said he will not hurdle or avoid me if ever my feelings for him will develop, he leave it all to GOD. He's glad that I was honest with my feelings for him.

 

Well... I already talked about this issue to our pastor's wife because of my worry, and she said to pray and guard my heart. So that's it! Oh, and also, I have removed my ideals already (like a man with beautiful eyes, physical characteristics etc). I just told myself If a man is godly and I can see he really loves GOD, (I will not judge by the person's look if especially he's not good looking). Plus, financial issues. In the secular world its a money world. I guess if he earns a decent earning even if he is not rich. Its okay just as long as he is hardworking.

 

He can be the one or maybe I met Him because GOD has a reason, even if He's not the one. He reminds me that I should not think GOD has set someone for me. What if that person will not come. I'll end up being disappointed. Because GOD might have planned that I be a single woman. But my other youngpro churchmates told me its not wrong to ask GOD for a mate and besides, we are not made to be alone GOD knows we needed companionship just like He created Eve for Adam..