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As some of you may know i have a 17 month old daughter. She is our only child thus far. I dont really know what im trying to ask, i guess its how do you know when discipline is appropriate and how much? She is 17 months and i dont like using the rod everytime she is getting into something new. Shoes for example, she loves em. We tell her no and she generally listens, but she loves to get into them sometimes. Also we cannot get her to eat ANY vegetable unless we cut it microscopic and hide it in something better. This is probably due in part to the fact that it was "cute" to let her snack some when she was younger. Now she will bypass her meals and scream later for a s…
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Hmmmmmm. I told you about my son going on his first date(Jr./Sr.) and we asked him ????? and he made the comment that he wasnt dating. :dunno: Well, he gave this girl a gift for valentines day. It was a bucket of candy with a rose and a puppy with it. He also made her a homemade card. :thumb So what do you think? I am trying not to get to involved but I am a mom. I cant help it. LOL! You know how moms are. :wink
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Biblical Authority 1 2
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Ok I have a question that a young lady asked me. Her mother is divorced and remarried, and her father is still living. She asked if she has to obey the step-father, she doesn't think she does because he is in no way related to her and is not her father. My husband and I agree because her father is still alive and God says divorce and remarriage is wrong therefore it is a wrong structure and he is not in authority, just the young lady's mother and real father. The problem is, she very respectfully asked her parents (real parents) if she could do something, and both of them told her to wait. A few months later they talked again and both parents said that she may do …
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We know the devil hates marriage and attacks this institute of God continually. Lately there seems to be a lot of cases of troubled marriages making the news; not to mention the number of local marriage problems around the country. In many of these cases infidelity is involved. Adultry doesn't "just happen" regardless of how many claim this to be the case. We know Christians are not immune to marriage problems, including adultry. What do you do to make sure you are safe from this? What do you do to help make sure your spouse is safe from this? This is something we should consider specifically from time to time, as well as something to take care of daily. To…
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Hi all. I have been in a very happy relationship with a fellow for a long time. We have been engaged how for four months. We both attend a really good IFB church where he got baptized and saved. We love each other very deeply and I am ready to put aside all the things I ever thought I wanted in life for his well being, and I know he would do the same. The happiest and best moments in my life have been spent at his side. It's great except for one problem. His parents. Let's just get some facts on the table about his parents. His father is a virtuoso musician. I am currently a music student about to get my degrees finished that has aspirations to reach similar achievements.…
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Hi All, My wife and I have been having some marital prOBlems lately. She feels that I am not showing her enough affection and love. My defence was I was always making sure that the cleaning and housework was done before she arrived home from work so that she would not have to worry about it after working a long 10 hour day at work. Then I realized that I was going about it in a way that she didn't recognize that I was showing her love in doing this. So, lately I have been trying to tell her how much I love her and want to work things out because she felt that we weren't getting anywhere in our marriage and was considering leaving. We have been talking about a lot of thi…
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How to deal... 1 2
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How do you people deal with a situation when somebody gives your children or babies something that is against your convictions? If I ever have a little girl, I NEVER want her dressed in pants, even from the day she is born, and I know that the people at our church would buy pants for her because they don't think it's wrong and the church ladies all wear them, even, unfortunately, to church. Then what about stuff like fairy tales? We have agreed that we don't want our children to have them because they have witches and stuff in them. But people seem to give books of those to children as gifts. How do you deal with stuff like that without being offensive? Katy-Ann…
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Proverbs 14:16 says "A wise man feareth, and departeth from evil: but the fool rageth, and is confident." I recently saw the title of a new book out by Max Lucado called "Fearless: Imagine Your Life Without Fear". I have not read this book so I cannot endorse it or criticize it in any way, but the title struck me as something to consider within the context of the home. Imagine your home life without fear. Fathers and husbands, imagine having no fear when it comes to making hard choices and tough decisions for righteousness' sake. Think what it would be like to know of some scriptural command that you must implement in your own personal life and in the life of your f…
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Hello all! I am looking to start a marriage seminar to help the members of our church and to use as an outreach to the community. Does anyone have any suggestions on curriculum or material that I could use? Thanks
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Help with boys 1 2
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Ok my 6 yo and 4 yo are incessantly wild! They want to wrestle and run and jump all the time. When does this become a discipline problem? (Its at home). Sometimes I get really upset and seperate them...other times I let them "be boys" but then invariably someone gets their head banged up on something and they start wailing. Now my parents expected complete silence most of the time, we were never allowed to run, jump, etc in the house. When my brother (only boy) came along he and my dad played football inside and stuff but with just one boy it wasn't nearly the destruction that I have with three! So I expect my boys to be quiet and play nice in the house but m…
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This is our newest family member, jumper....
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I need some help on this. I have cut my kids out of my life. Between the three of them they have stolen over 30 thousand dollars from me, antique jewelry (including both my grandmothers' wedding rings and my mother's engagement ring). They constantly tell me what a horrid mother I was to them when the two who have children have abandoned their children (one decided that drugs and partying were more important than her two little girls and the other and his "wife" also decided that being responsible was more than they wanted to do).I know I was not perfect, we had some pretty hard times and maybe I didn't handle things as well as I should have...BUT...all three were taken t…
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Matthew 7:7-11 says "Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you: for every one that asketh receiveth; and he that seeketh findeth; and to him that knocketh it shall be opened. Or what man is there of you, whom if his son ask bread, will he give him a stone? Or if he ask a fish, will he give him a serpent? If ye then, being evil, know how to give good gifts unto your children, how much more shall your Father which is in heaven give good things to them that ask him?" The first thing to note as we read this passage is the command to ask. God does not assume our willingness to ask him for things. He knows that we are prid…
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I have deleted all my posts. Sorry. I will not post. Please delete everything. It is not wise for me to post here. I came here for fellowship & help. I have no where else to talk so I came here. I am sorry any trouble I have caused. I should have NEVER joined this site. I am very down & confused by everything in my walk with the Lord. I know it was wrong to vent. God Bless.
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I'm looking for suggestions for a daily devotional for my husband and I. We don't have children so that's not a priority in the devotional. I want a devotional that we read a passage or scenario and it has questions for us to both answer to each other. To help better our communication with each other.
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So here's the problem. My fiancé and I want to get married but no Baptist minister in this area will marry Because different times in our life's we were married to other people and got divorced. We don't think this is right. One minister who is a family friend said we could be married by him but we would have to be members of his church which we don't want to do. Not a personal issue with him we just don't want a church home that size. Does anyone have a biblical solution to this problem that would push our current pastor to perform the ceremony regardless of the prior circumstances?
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Hello I have a situation here, I had some family members and personal friends on a seperate facebook, I have posted about the house we just lost and I was hurt and I am hurt that we are not having kids right now and other things, then later on I said that I needed support and guidence from friends and family because I felt like hurting myself, well i tried to call my mom last night about something else and she chewed me out for feelin bad about not having the house and children, she said we are both disabled and we will not be able to afford a house and children. That really hurt me and there was other things said. I posted something that gossip hurts family members of …
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Hi I am new here but I am hoping maybe one of you has dealt with this kind of prOBlem before. My children were raised in church My oldest 22 has always been rebelious . he moved out when he was 18 he has moved back home a total of 6 times in 4 years .he got married and now is divorced has a son who he can,t take care of . He drinks a lot, we wont allow it here so he always moves out. . He was living with his fathers brother and he found him dead . This was very hard on him it happened 2 weeks ago he died at 50 years from drug overdose ,My son went back to church moved back in with us and wanted to go to a recovery group at church for his alcohol use. he went to one …
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Thanks to Ms. Molly (candlelight) I have been thinking/praying about my future wife all day. I'm only 21 years old and want to wait for the Lord to send the right woman... but it gets so lonely at times... I know right now with the circumstances in life (college, taking care of mom, preparing a future) it may not yet be the time for me to find her or maybe she's not yet ready herself... I remember reading years back, "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" by Joshua Harris. Since then, my life's view on dating has changed... I no longer just want a woman... but a woman who is godly and will pray with me until the Lord establishes His kingdom upon this Earth. I want a woman, who wil…
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I have always heard that a daughter is under her father's authority until she gets married. (Let's assume she's not an old maid, ha ha) Does anyone have any verses they could offer for this? There is a boy whom is courting our daughter (she is at college long distance away) and her father and I feel the boy is encroaching into my husband's authority by expecting her to answer to him. He is quite controlling and it is scaring me and I'm not talking about minor stuff. They are NOT engaged.
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Possible New Relationship In Near Future 1 2
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Hi everyone. One of my best friends has introduced me to a guy. He is 35 years old and I am 24 going on 25. He is a very sweet guy. He has seen my picture and has also heard my voice and he thinks both are beautiful. He is also an independent fundamentalist Baptist. He goes to a church that uses the KJV and he is a very strong Baptist. I am so glad to have "met" this new guy. That's the thing, we haven't met in reality yet. Currently we only talk on the phone and on the Internet because he lives in northern Indiana while I live in southern Indiana. I will get to meet him probably by the end of the month though when my best friend sends me some money to get a bus…
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This is kind of a long read, but the author's recommendations at the end of this article surprised me. Check it out. Sick of Expectations Pressure to Compete, Not Connect, Leaves Many Affluent Teens Miserable, Says a Psychologist and Author By Sandra G. Boodman Washington Post August 1, 2006 Adolescent alienation isn't a new phenomenon. But the unhappy teenagers clinical psychologist Madeline Levine sees in her practice aren't merely going through a developmental phase, she writes. In her new book, "The Price of Privilege" (Harper Collins, $24.95), Levine says that over-involved parents who pressure their children to be stars -- in school, on athletic fields, am…
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I wasn't quite sure where this category should go, so I thought I would take a stab here. I'm curious as to how many fundamental churches out there have singles ministries. I'm looking for some ideas. Here at North Baptist in Brockton, MA - we have our annual Baptist Singles Conference July 1 (I'd love to meet any onlinebaptist folk who come out for that!). We have also hosted singles fellowships in the past as well. But that is pretty much what we do. However, we our very fortunate to have a pastor who is very inclusive in all church activities, not wishing to limit too much to just one group (i.e. couples only activities). So here are a few questions: …
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Ok, here is another question/post from little ol' me. When my son was 7 months old, I began letting him CIO (cry it out) at bed time. It was rough for 2 or 3 nights, but after that, he became a superstar at going to bed whenever I laid him down. Shortly after he turned 1 year old, bed times began to get a bit rough. If my son does not feel like going to bed, he will cry and cry and cry. But here's the prOBlem! . . . If I let him cry, he cries himself sick! Which means I have to give him a bath, clean the crib, clean the floor, and put on new sheets. I would let him CIO, but I can't, because he will throw-up if I do. It's easier to let him stay up later until I see he'…
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