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Hand holding.... 1 2 3 4 17
by heartstrings-
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Should young people.....engaged or "dating" hold hands before marriage? I know this might belong in the "relationships" forum, but I am not a member. What is your take on this?
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Over the Christmas break, my sister was formally presented at our society's (I want give the name for the sake of anomynity ) debutante ball. Seeing all the girls and their escorts reminded me of when I went through the season several years ago. It also reminded me that I am not yet married and that girls from our society are quickly marrying, leaving few left for me to choose from. Its a big deal where I come from to not marry outside of a certain group of people, and I really do believe that is what is best for me. However, as I said before, there are fewer and fewer girls for me to choose from every year. I don't want to be 30 and be left with nothing but girls in thei…
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My 5 year old son wanted a mohawk. My wife and I are not lovers of the hairstyle. We have 2 girls and 2 boys. While they are living at home, we are rearing the girls to have long hair and the boys short hair. The mohawk is definately short. We wanted to say no, but didn't. Why didn't we? Our children are very good at hearing the word "no" and obeying with very little whining. The problem is, we say "no" alot. Just going to Wal-mart, our children see alot of the "world" and we have to frequently say "no" and usually give an explaination. So when it came to the mohawk, we didn't just blurt out a "no" because I wanted a Biblical explanation as to why I was saying n…
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A co-worker of mine came in this week very distraught and it appears to be getting worse. His 14 yr. old daughter told her family a few Sundays ago that she did not believe in God and that she wouldn't be going to church anymore. The family passed if off as teenage rebellion, but it appears to something more. The family is baptist and the child had previoulsy confirmed her faith in Christ ("saved?"). He said that she hasn't been to church in months and although her overall behavior has not changed, he is very concerned now. This came as a real surprise as my co-workers wife home schools all their kids. As I don't have any kids, I'm not much help to him. What say yo…
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**Another post from that clueless mother (me!)** I read one woman's thoughts, on how she trained all of her children to sit contently in her lap before turning 1 year old. She would have her child sit in her lap, facing out, and anytime the baby tried to twist and turn or arch their back, she would put her hand on their stomach and push them back down with a firm, No. She would continue this until the baby would submit and no longer fight against her. She would practice this with her child anytime she needed to sit, like when she would eat, check her email, etc. I have been trying this with my little one, about once or twice a day. He seems to do well for the most pa…
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As many of you know, we have had trouble with our oldest son (13); stuff that has never been an issue with either our daughter or younger son. He constantly, often on a daily basis, gets in trouble for doing that which he knows is 100% against the rules and just about as often for not doing what he is supposed to do in a day. I've been trying to get through to him using Scripture. Today, I was gone from the house for one hour and when I came home he was in trouble again. If I'm not home he seems to think he can do whatever he wants. Anyway, during the course of discipline and instruction, I asked him about the Bible and specifically about the verses I had him r…
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A Pure Child 1 2 3 4 6
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[color=#0048ff]Pro 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. Tit 1:15 Unto the pure all things are pure: but unto them that are defiled and unbelieving is nothing pure; but even their mind and conscience is defiled. [/color] Over the years, by the grace of God, we have had a vision to have pure children. I must say from the onset, this is a joint effort. Husband and wife must be together on this way. In the event of a single mom or dad, draw from the brethren, it is God's way. Our prayers are with you. When I say pure, I am not talking about sinless because we all know about the individual struggle with the ol…
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Abortion supporters 1 2 3 4 6
by TheGloryLand-
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Abortion supporters, what a huge group of nonbelievers marching. I was wondering we’re all these people off from work. I was amazed, to see so many men marching for Pro-Choice. My question, for how long will God bless America, the once God fearing Country. For now, it’s still the best place to live and to raise your family. If your home has an air conditioning, food on the table to eat, praise God. Most of the world don’t have this today.
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There is an issue that recently happened in my church that has left me feeling disappointed in the leadership. I will try to make this as brief as possible. A senior, widow lady, and a senior, widower man, both in their 80s, recently got married at my church (independent Baptist) I later learned they did not obtain a state issued marriage license and the pastor that conducted the ceremony did not require it. Now they are going around representing themselves as "married". I feel as though the pastor that conducted the ceremony is helping the couple defraud the government. And if he can preform a "commitment-marriage" ceremony for them why can't another couple, who …
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I haven't ever really studied on this and would appreciate it if anyone has any scripture they could point towards to give direction on this one. I have recently had some interest in the idea of women serving as surogate mothers for "test tube babies" for those who have problems either conceiving and/or carrying a child. Seems as though it would be a very great gift and blessing to help someone have a child who's body won't seem to allow it. My question is, is it right to take part in this practice or is it just another way for us to try and "play God"? Again, this is a very sincere question. So, please, if you have any scriptural guidance on this matter, it coul…
Last reply by Annie, -
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This thread discussion is an attempt to have a forum "Bible study" concerning that which the Lord our God desires and requires to be a godly husband. The following question is the primary topic for this "Bible study" discussion: According to God's Word, what all does the the Lord our God desire and require of the husband that he might be a godly husband in his relationship with his wife? Now, since this is intended to be a "Bible study" discussion, I would request that Biblical support be provided with each answer that is given. I pray that this "Bible study" discussion will truly move us as husbands to pursue that which the Lord our God Himself desire and…
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Complete Article by my wife. (My four year old daughter asked me, with no previous prompting and much to my discomfort, that question. Do you see a difference? It's so subtle I didn't even notice, but it wasn't subtle to the innocent unconditioned mind of a little child. Out of the mouths of babes.) In the first few years of my marriage, I became aware of three marriages that were affected by pornography within my circle of friends. In two of the cases, the men refused to change their ways and the marriages ended and children were left without an intact home. In the third case, the man repented and through God’s grace, forgiveness, some boundaries and accountabilit…
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Ok, my husband was talking with a fellow believer from church recently who has several children--some left the nest, some still at home. The man was lamenting that they did "everything right". Kids were raised in an IFB church, at church every time the doors were open, participated in activities, sent to Christian school etc. etc. His kids are not horrible people or anything, but it seems that they are not all attending church and have just seemed to not be what a Christian ought to be. Needless to say, though, the man is disappointed in his children's lack of spiritual growth (I'm assuming they all profess to be saved, but I'm not sure because I don't know them that…
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I have a daughter who just turned 5. Tonight we went to a revival meeting. I told her that if I had to get on to her even once then she was in trouble. Do you think this is an unrealistic request for a preschooler?
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baby names 1 2 3 4
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I suppose this should go here... What are some names you would like to use for your future children? or names you just like? or even names you have used? My list for the future includes Abraham Michael Daniel Jakob Jakob Mitchell James Robert Jeremiah Mitchell Lawrence (call him Mitch) Matthew Tate Micha Ryan Noah Benjamin Keith Kenneth Adah Elisabeth Amber Joy Brenda Anne Emily hope Isabel Elina Rebecca Annette Rosemary Marie Moriah Tabitha Annette
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Any parents of children ages 12+? I welcome all advice or comments. There seems to be so much pressure to conform to the world's ways of talking, dressing, entertainment, attitude, etc. I have emphasized to my children that just because that girl or boy is even on the church roll, it doesn't mean they are right with God...saved or not. The Bible is our standard. Our pastor is a Bible-believing, -preaching, -living man of God. It's been a blessing to have reared our children in this environment. We have family altar, and also have tried to keep lines of communication open. Discipline, love, all that. No TV, very strict guidelines on videos, etc. Without getting in…
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Qualities in a mate 1 2 3 4
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What qualities did you look for in finding your spouse? Here is what I looked for. I wasn't in church at the time soo Spirituality was not a consideration. 1. Intelligence, I knew I could never truly respect someone that was not smarter then me. 2. Worker, I would not even consider a lazy person. When I met my husband he was literally outside building a garden for his mom and then painting her house, I hung over the fence gabbing to him, then later helping him paint her house. 3. Someone that was generally kind. My husband was a very kind person to every body he met. What was the characteristics you looked for?
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Wow. This week was tough, esp Fri-Sun. With my kids, that is. Seemed like it was full moon time or something. Wild, disobedient, and major, major problems with my oldest and irresponsibility and laziness. We've gotten to where rewards and punishments don't work (he keeps "forgetting") and having trouble figuring out what to do next. He's not a "bad kid" but just stubborn and absolutely no character, and it makes him into a "bad kid" when he's not doing what he's supposed to do. And then the more trouble he gets into, its almost like he gets discouraged and gives up, you know...feels like he's worthless or hated or something. But its hard to be all lovey when you f…
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. While husbands are commanded to love their wives; the wives are commanded not to love their husbands, but rather, to respect them. †. Eph 5:3 . . And the wife, see that she reverence her husband. †. Eph 5:22 . .Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. Shaunti Feldhahn relates a survey taken among segregated groups of men and women with this question: Given a choice; would you rather be disrespected, or would you rather live alone and unloved in the world? Just about every one of the ladies chose disrespect rather than living alone and unloved in the world; while the men chose to live alone and unloved rather than be disrespected. This…
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fairy tales 1 2 3 4
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My husband and I have decided that we don't want to have our children knowing fairy tales because of all the witches and magic etc in them. Does anyone else do this? Katy-Anne
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A friend of mine told me that she was going to spend the night at her bf's house today. I thought that it wasn't right in the sense that it could lead to temptation, and then sin. This is the one of the rare occasions where she decided to spend the night over her bf's house - she has probably done it twice. Is this is a wise decision on her part, or on her bf's part since they both consented? In any case, please pray for them both (Ruthie and David) that they repent from any form of sexual immorality or fornication because they plan on getting married one day. Love, Madeline
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My boyfriend turned 29 in March and I turn 20 in September. My co-workers were arguing with me about how my boyfriend is much too old for me. Just out of curiosity...does anyone think that the age differential between me and him is too wide of a gap? Love, Madeline
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“Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” Prov. 22:6 All training is rigorous, whether it is in working out physically, or training for a new position in our career. Whatever the training is for, it is never easy; it consists of several elements, including instruction, discipline, hard work, and much patient love. Training a child is no exception. It takes diligence on the part of the instructor, or teacher, but especially the parent. Much time and prayer is needed to “do it right”, and with children, we often only get one chance to get it right. Often, when we have failed to do our part, we remind each other tha…
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What are the benefits and potential pitfalls of both? Is one inherently better than the other?
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